Honor Sysytem is Tough!!!

[Tom Allen]

My wife has trouble assuming total control and I have difficulty not topping from the bottom.

This is one of those circumstances in which some kind of schedule or random chance (darts, dice, etc.) would be a nice compromise. If you rolled dice that said your next lockup session, say, 12 days, then your wife doesn't have to worry that she's being "mean" when you start whining after 4 days.

[Scarlett's]

Interesting thought, Tom. I have steered away from games of chance because I felt they interfered with the power exchange. But if the transfer of prerogative is incomplete to begin with, the dice -- or whatever -- make sense.

[Locked by LRC]

With any games of chance to set a release date try adding another twist. The number arrived from the game only determines the days before a release would be considered. Then if your keyholder is enjoying themselves there is no pressure that they have to let you out at a certain time. This also takes care of the unexpected things that can arise in the future that can cause problems with a preset date.

[celticqueens_sub]

Others (and I'm in this camp) enjoy the lack of choice entailed by using a device. As Mrs. Edge would say, "Why would I even allow you the temptation? If I have the key, then I have *all* of the control, no question about it." And for some people, this works, too.

Like.

[wishful4]

Interesting thought, Tom. I have steered away from games of chance because I felt they interfered with the power exchange. But if the transfer of prerogative is incomplete to begin with, the dice -- or whatever -- make sense.

Agree. This gives the keyholder one more option in order to take the stress off making the orgasm decision and avoiding the guilty feeling afterwards until she is more comfortable doing so. We are considering a very simple marble game when she wishes to use it. We put marbles in a jar on a 4 to 1 ratio, blue to white giving a 20 percent chance of drawing a white. She makes me agree in advance the decision of the marble is final. Draw a white, I get an orgasm, a blue, no orgasm. After each draw, we add 4 more blues and 1 white.

[fuzzydunlop]

I like Locked by LRC's comment above. I like knowing that it will be *at least* 3 or 5 or 14 days rather than having a date certain. Somehow I feel security in that with or without a device.

[Gweasel]

I always feel that if I was to give in and orgasm, I would be letting down the person I am remaining chaste for. I would hate to think her opinion of my self control was lessened at all. I hold my chastity as a badge of honour for her.

[wishful4]

Just an update. I am going on seven weeks on the honor system. Lots of teasing and taking care of the spouse's needs, but no orgasm for me. MJ has been much stricter at enforcing our chastity agreement than I thought she would be, but I respect her for it. She has been permitting me some occasional stroking but has cut back on that of late. She reasons my MM Queen's Keep arrives tomorrow and I'll not be able to stroke after I'm locked. The horniness has leveled off and is manageable, but I have my moments. I want her more than ever and want to please her even more. I'll report again after wearing in the QK and then giving her the key. I have a love poem picked out which I plan to give her along with the keys and a red rose from our garden. Hopefully, we'll celebrate with some champagne.

[Locked by LRC]

She reasons my MM Queen's Keep arrives tomorrow and I'll not be able to stroke after I'm locked. The horniness has leveled off and is manageable, but I have my moments.

I have an open cage design device as well. I receive no full stroking with this device on of course. What LRC has found is her nails will fit between the bars easily. A light touch of the nails through the bars after a couple of weeks feels good. The problem is, there is enough feeling that a very frustrating erection occurs but, there is no way this little touch could get ejaculation. She loves to do this as she is going to sleep. She says it relaxes her and she goes to sleep faster. After she goes to sleep I have to get rid of a raging erection before I get to sleep! It defiantly keeps that horniness level peaked.

[kinkywife]

Do you have a copy of the chastity contract you used?

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