lockedsteve wrote:All I did was exaggerate things...Manipulation is not a bad thing. How you do it and its affects on others make it good or bad.
Interesting viewpoint, and I suppose that there might be some truth in saying that we all use some means of manipulating other people from time to time (some more than others). In fact, manipulation is one of the very first thing a baby (that has no speech) learns- if it is hungry or needs to be changed, it wails and someone comes to fix the issue. This begins long before the child has the faculties to be conscious/aware of his behavior and its effects. Some children go on to develop this into a fine art, much to the dismay of the parents.
There is also an industry built around manipulation and teaching people how to intentionally manipulate others- particularly in the area of inducing ones target(s) to buy products and/or services. They call it "selling", and one can buy books and attend seminars to learn some of the various techniques.
"Good" or "bad" to me depends on the
intent, and the degree of dishonesty one uses (or doesn't use).
When she said that she did not want me locked, I was not a nice husband. She soon saw the difference and wanted me locked again. A little acting worked for me. Maybe not nice, but it worked and she has benefited from it.
I think that the major issue that some people are having with the characterization of your manipulation lies in the quote above. The statement makes it appear that you were being
intentionally unkind to your partner and, to many people, this behavior crosses a line that should not be crossed. It may be seen as intentionally inflicting distress on one's partner, and is not considered an 'appropriate' behavior. We all may say or do things from time to time that cause distress to our partners, but doing so with premeditated intent is generally not seen as 'acceptable'. Some might even see it as 'abuse'.
04/07/19 "And then I 'punished' you by making you lick my pussy after I let my other 'boy' fuck me." --Mrs. Twisted