Can't ruin my orgasm

[captainlock99]

As I said in another post I have lurked for a long time, since I have finally made an account there has been one question/topic that I have always wanted to bring up since I have never seen any mention of it. Here goes:

Being well researched we are all familiar with the “ruined orgasm.” Heck I’ve seen videos so I know they are real. But for me… nope. I take the ruined orgasm to mean the body has reached a point where ejaculation has been triggered but stimulation is stopped just short of causing the actual orgasm… all flash no bang, got it… but it would seem that I’m wired backwards, for me stopping at that crucial point triggers the orgasm (muscle spasms, waves of pleasure, weakened erection, and lose of interest) but no ejaculation… all bang no flash.

This has happened my entire life, well before chastity was a “thing” for me… whenever I would stop at the right/wrong time. Actually for sex it was sometimes handy since I could force myself to keep going, continue until my erection returned and at that point I could last much longer (better for my partners) but if and when the second orgasm finally came it was never as satisfying for me.

My wife has tried, and I believe has succeeded in stopping at exactly the right moment that should cause a ruined orgasm, but since I seem to be backwards she is actually giving me an orgasm with no ejaculation… I get all the satisfaction of an orgasm (not the best orgasm, but a full orgasm feeling nonetheless) and I get the post orgasm slump, but never spill one drop.

I would love to experience one, but I don’t think they exist for me. I also wish she had this as a tool to use on me… but i have told her that it’s not going to get the intended effect, so sadly one less tool at her disposal.

Like I said, topic I have had for quiet some time, but have never posted.

[TwistedMister]

I've had this happen too, it comes even though you stop. It's a very fine line for some of us, I think. I've found that stimulation needs to be significantly reduced before hitting the point of no return- not stopped completely, but just maybe one or two fingers and slowed way down, then gradually add a bit more stimulation until you just barely go over.

I also get the other thing- clamp down so hard that little or no ejaculate emerges but it still feels like an almost normal orgasm. In fact, it got to the point where I was beginning to think that I forgot how to have a real orgasm. I've been practicing and improving (uncaged at the moment.)

[locked4her55]

It's a very fine line for some of us, I think. I've found that stimulation needs to be significantly reduced before hitting the point of no return- not stopped completely, but just maybe one or two fingers and slowed way down, then gradually add a bit more stimulation until you just barely go over.

Agree. My wife doesn't do it often because she believes that if I am allowed an orgasm then it's gonna be inside of her where she can get something out of it.

The few times she has done it she strokes me quickly up to a point where she knows I'm close and then just stops.

Me thinks I need to do a better job communicating to her what a true "ruined O" would be for me.