Need advice on how to encourage my KH with ordering me aroun

[Lockedwithlove]

Been in chastity since May of last year. My KH and I are enjoying it thoroughly, I love the feeling of being locked up for a week or so before any kind of release and the back into my device until the next time. I'm really trying to let my KH know how badly I want her to order me around. She is afraid of being mean to me and I didn't know what to say to that other than I find it a turn on when she orders me around. She seems like she's coming around to ordering me around a little more but has anyone run into this and if so did you ever find a remedy that helped put your key holder at ease when ordering you around. I feel like offering ideas and being the one that comes up with with tasks is topping from the bottom and my KH agrees. I've changed my strategy to just being extra helpful and just doing things I know she'd appreciate. Anyone else try something like that to encourage their key holder to start giving them tasks and orders?

[slave d]

i've found that only time and patience works. Just do more and more and when She does something just gently remind Her that you could do that, all She needs to do is ask. MsM now just sits and says things like "i need a cuppa now" rather than going and making one and asking if i want one !!! i do all the washing, make the bed every day, clean the bedroom, bathroom, toilet and kitchen, cook several meals a week etc etc etc. Oh and if course i always run Her bath and bathe Her (when doing so i am dressed only in Her cage). This is after close to two years !! She also paddles my backside a couple of times a week "because She can" !! Huge changes take time !!

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[Lockedwithlove]

i've found that only time and patience works. Just do more and more and when She does something just gently remind Her that you could do that, all She needs to do is ask. MsM now just sits and says things like "i need a cuppa now" rather than going and making one and asking if i want one !!! i do all the washing, make the bed every day, clean the bedroom, bathroom, toilet and kitchen, cook several meals a week etc etc etc. Oh and if course i always run Her bath and bathe Her (when doing so i am dressed only in Her cage). This is after close to two years !! She also paddles my backside a couple of times a week "because She can" !! Huge changes take time !!

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That sounds like really good advice. That was the direction I've started to take as of this last week. I've been eager to offer my help and she's noticing. I do need to be more patient, but know that you and I'm sure several others have used this method is encouraging.

[slave d]

You can see how far we've come by looking at my avatar, that tattoo (my first ever and i'm 62) is my "tramp stamp" and basically "ordered" by MsM. She basically said "I would like MsM tattooed on your arse" and my reply, as with everything was "yes Miss" !!! The actual design comes from the letters MsM She has printed on the wooden paddles She uses on my arse with they key for chastity, designed by me and positioned on my lower back by negotiation as i was scared i wouldn't be able to sit down for days !!! Actually wasnt that bad lol.

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[Lockedwithlove]

Haha that's awesome!

[slave d]

Another thing i just remembered, try and get your KeyHolder to join here (there's a special keyholder section that "the locked" can't see). Just reading some posts here and seeing what is being discussed may help Her !!

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[Lockedwithlove]

I mentioned her joining a while ago and have not brought it up lately but I think I'll ask her to join again. If she's says yes I can set it up for her because she hates setting things line this up. I really do want her to join because I think she'd be a lot more comfortable and try new things if she had others to talk to about chastity.

[slave d]

i set MsMs basic one up using a new email address i set up and had Her immediately change the password on it so i couldn't get back in.

By the way, the reason i'm away from here so much is it's Sunday here and i've had to vacuum the floors, make the bed, clean the bathroom and toilet, and i'm about to run MsM Her bath and She will have a "playtime" before it (She will probably cum at least five times). After playtime i get to bathe Her and then have a bath myself.

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[attentive_husband]

My wife & I check in with each other every morning. We've done that whenever we're working on the relationship so it was a natural to do so when we started this.

For the first couple of weeks I just kept reassuring her the whole idea was ok. But then as she started teasing me I would tell her at the morning check in that what she did prior to then was wonderful. I think the daily assurance helped a lot. She doesn't understand it, but she's good with it now.

[Lockedwithlove]

I have found that helpful, she always seems somewhat surprised when I tell her I've really enjoyed something. She never really teased me in my cage before but she has the last couple of nights, I can tell she like that I get excited when she touches my cage I'm thinking/hoping she's starting to enjoy frustrating me while I'm locked up. Ultimately like all the experienced people on her suggest is baby steps I just need to keep telling myself that.