new rules for male training

[kunst]

My wife accepted my idea of male chastity and she plays the role mainly to accomplish me (even if I think she starts realizing that she gets much more attention and orgasms for her). In other words she never proposes or invents rules... so I was thinking to propose these rules, hoping that I can stimulate her fantasy:
- In principle, I am allowed to cum every X days (for now, X=7 days but later we might increment).
- Every time I make something wrong that makes her upset I collect a black marble.
- Every time I make something very good I get a white marble.
For each black marble the distance to next orgasm is increased by 2 days
For each white marble the distance to next orgasm is deased by 1 day
When it is time for release:
- if white marbles are more than twice the black's I can have a full orgasm inside her;
- if white marbles are less than twice the black's I can have a ruined orgasm
- if white marbles equal twice the black's I can have a full orgasm after throwing a dice:
1=fast handjob 2=slow handjob 3=regular handjob with gloves 4=vibrator 5=frenulum stimulation with finger 6=frenulum stimulation with chopstick

After each release marbles collection is reset to zero.
If for some reason the day of the release it is not possible to get it for any reason (for example one can be sick, tired, busy etc) than it is delayed to the day after or until it is possible... no benefit from it.
What do you think?

[LockedandLoved]

Sounds cool but it's pretty centered around you and your orgasms. I obv don't know your wife but her logical question might be "what's in it for me?"

[Tom Allen]

I think that some guys get very involved in setting up rules and situations, and some women really get turned off by it because to them, it's just more things to keep track of. You want to demonstrate that this is something that can be fun for the both of you, so you need to find out what would make it fun for *her*.

Hell, I personally find the various rules and schedules that I see some guys making up, and *I* get turned off by the complexity. If you want your wife to participate more, you need to ask her what would motivate her to participate more.

[kunst]

Hmm, I understand your points of view and probably you are right. However, since she did never demonstrate very much interest (she does the denial thing to me only in the months when I ask her to do it) then she might need some suggestion... I mean, she says that everithing is fine for her... She is always afraid of exagerating when she denies me, she is quite permissive and if I propose sex to her she almost never refuse, but if I do not offer she does not ask.
I do not know if I am explaining well the situation, English language is a barrier for me since I am not that fluent.

[Tame Lion]

I agree with Tom. In our case, it was a big leap for Mrs Lion to just manage my chastity and orgasms. Elaborate rules and stuff I think tend to be entertaining to some men, but I would guess most keyholders won't feel good about them.

[Michele]

Personally I think those things adding time to this or that is ultimately taking some of the control away from a kh. Maybe some don't want the control at all but for me, I like to do what I want when I want and for as long as I want... I don't want a marble or some dice or whatever dictating when he can or can't cum.

I wish you luck, maybe that is something your kh would like to take the pressure off of her.

[Lockedchef]

Might as well get a set of DnD dice and play like that. Roll 6d24 for chance at orgasm But if the yellow cube is facing north then you must hop on one foot while singing row row row your boat until you roll 3, 17s. Of course this can only be done on the second Tuesday of every Month that contains the letter "R". The months that do have the letter "R" in then you can use a magic 8 ball to determine if you are even allowed to roll the dice.

Leap years are an entirely different story...

[kunst]

... I don't want a marble or some dice or whatever dictating when he can or can't cum.

I wish you luck, maybe that is something your kh would like to take the pressure off of her.

I am not fluent in English but I am sure I did not write that the dice is dictating when I cum.
The decision to assign the black or white marble is up to her, not to the dice.
Anyway, I suggested those rules to her and she was very enthusiastic. She likes rules because otherwise she fills guilty for denying me.

[osimon9]

Sounds cool but it's pretty centered around you and your orgasms. I obv don't know your wife but her logical question might be "what's in it for me?"

So true!

[locked4her55]

I suggested those rules to her and she was very enthusiastic. She likes rules because otherwise she fills guilty for denying me.

If this is working for the two of you then it's great. You might find later that you have moved on to something different that motivates you both.

We have in the past used dice or drew cards to determine either the lock up time or what would either happen or not happen. Heck, I even have a spinning wheel app on my phone so that if the spirit moved her we could play anywhere. We seldom use anything now. She many times didn't like the outcome of any of the games we played so what was the point in playing.