Lost my hardon

[notbeinfringed85]

Friday, she wanted good old PIV. She let me on top, after she told me that I couldn't cum. I lasted about two minutes and went soft. No orgasm, just went soft. WTF!!! I think I'm too young for ED. Is that after I knew I wouldn't cum, my pecker just gave up? Any help?
She gave me a consolation O the next day, but I never really got a raging one.

[Lockedchef]

Hate to say it but it happens. If I've learned anything lately is how mental sex is even for guys. Compound that with work, stress, alcohol, kids, and countless other things sometimes you just have a bad day.

I wouldn't worry too much.

[locked4her55]

Yea, has happened to me also. Maybe two or three times in the last couple of years.

Just remember what's really controlling your penis. . .the mind.

[Aarkey]

Friday, she wanted good old PIV. She let me on top, after she told me that I couldn't cum. I lasted about two minutes and went soft.

I've found that it helps for me to always put on a cock ring whenever my belt is off for PIV.

[maxANDsue]

I had the same problem and so did the guys I chatted with that were into reality based chastity. Here is what my wife and I found out after playing with chastity for the last 7 months. We never played teasing and denial games until we started with chastity. After a few weeks of not having an orgasm, I had a very intense one. However, I was almost flaccid and my ejaculate did not shoot over our heads as it normally did. It was thick and did not shoot far at all. Kind of disappointing for both of us. My wife did not enjoy sex as much because she was used to simultaneous orgasms most of the time. My orgasms often triggered my wife's and now without them, she was taking much longer than a few minutes to have an orgasm and seldom had more than one. She called our sex, "fake sex".

We experimented more and discovered that it was the extensive teasing and edging that produced the intensive orgasms, not the length of time I was denied. My wife could spend a half hour edging me two days after my last orgasm and produce the same effect as if I was denied for a month, but now with a very hard erection and powerful ejaculation. We next started just having me lock up in-between our regular sex sessions and sure enough, I was having great orgasms without the wait and that is how we do it now.

Once we stopped trying to follow what we were reading we should be doing, we had a lot more fun and a lot more orgasms.

[all41]

Its happenes to me too ... My reasoning for it is that I am always locked up from the time it starts threw her O and then I am unlocked. This can take about 30 to 45 min. of very vigorous strain on my cage! when I get out willie is just tired, he is hard enough but not cat scratch proof lol

And the mind is a very powerful tool. I can be laying there semi hard and when she starts talking a lil dirty to me, I am rock solid. Then she starts in on what we need to do around the house and I go down again just as fast. Just like the New York stock exchange! up and down on her every word!