Too sensitive

[Lockedchef]

It's been almost 2 months since we started playing with chastity. Before we did I found myself masturbating too often 7-10 times a week. That of course made having sex with my wife a little awkward at times. Either I had just gotten off a few hours before she wanted to or just wasn't in the mood. The other problem was I would have trouble finishing with her. If anything I was too numb and used to cumming a certain way and had trouble finishing during normal sex, as much as I loved cumming inside her it just didn't provide the same feeling as my all to often used hand.

Now a couple months later I've probably only masturbated 2 or 3 and things are much better with the wife. However now I have the opposite problem, after being locked up a few days I'm ready to explode at any moment. Last night after some really heavy foreplay, me going down on her, using my hands, and every other trick I have learned to get her to the edge she finally had to have me in her. She gets me unlocked and starts playing with me. 30 seconds later before I am even hard, KABOOM, I finished I even got hard. Well that was embarrassing to say the least.

She didn't get what she wanted, me inside her, and I was left covered in myself a little confused. It wasn't like she didn't want me to cum, but certainly not that quick. If that is the result of too much confinement then you can count me out. I have been finishing so much quicker these days compared to how it used to be. I felt like I was 17 again and it was my first time, awkward and unsatisfying.

Need to find some kind of middle ground. I have realized I need some time out to relax and get the blood flowing down there in order to get a proper erection again. Not sure what the solution is yet but I might be giving the cage a break for a little while to make sure things are working well again. Just going to have to exercise more self restraint and control.

[cagedmonkey]

I have had the exact same problem. I think I posted on my blog about this, I can't find the post at the moment.

It's crazy how sensitive I am right now. I have to be extremely careful when having sex with My Lady; anything more than a handful of hard thrusts will get me close to orgasm. Thankfully, My Lady enjoys how easily I am affected by this; she takes it as a sign of how horny I am for her (correctly, I might add).

Solutions? I don't know. I've heard people talk about desensitization sprays - haven't tried those yet, but we plan to. Toy usage is also something you can try to satisfy your keyholder, although it took us a long time to find a toy that My Lady enjoys.

Good luck, and let me know if you find something that works!

[notbeinfringed85]

Same here guys. This is my trick, which only works missionary. I will go till I'm close, then withdrawl and get to licking and fingering. After I calm down, then I'll move back up. After I do this about three times or so, I'm pretty well desensitized and can go a while. We also have been doing "sensitizing exercises" for about a month. These include rubbing a dry glans with nylon pantyhose and glans spanking with a paint stick. Also, I have to use a nail brush to wash my man parts, caged or uncaged. All of these options suck and frankly just hurt. They are having the desired effect though.

[LockedUp24]

Oh i know exactly what you are talkin about.

Ive found being in chastity can make you a hair trigger when it comes to PIV sex.
My KH was training me to quickly ejaculate over many months simply by edging me quickly over and over for many months and now im always a hair trigger and twice ejaculating on insertion.
My KH seems to enjoy my situation now.

Our solution has been toys for her to use and me to use with her,She will start and finish with the toys then if she wishes ill be allowed inside but it will be over as soon as im inside.

We have tried double condoms and numbing cream but she will use the numbing cream to ruin an orgasm rather than a solution to quick shot.

Maybe try including a toy for her.

[Michele]

I love love love my toy I found... So real feeling, so lovely!

[Lockedchef]

That is the thing we really aren't into toys at all. The device is the only toy we have ever bought and I have brought up getting other things with her and she has no interest. She has told me flat out that she prefers me au natural to anything else.

When we spoke about it later she told me she was glad I came so fast and the way I did. It didn't bother her at all and was glad that it was out of my control and I needed to let go every now and now, seeing as how I have a tendency to be a bit of a control freak. Once she gave me the "its okay" talk I got over the whole thing pretty quick. In retrospect who cares if it is over in a minute or 30 as long as we both got out of it what we wanted.

We have figured out though that heavy foreplay while me inside the cage isn't good. If I keep trying to get hard and can't then when she lets me out I have a bit of trouble maintaining. It is best if I am unlocked, given a bit of time to relax and let things get back to normal. We had great sex this morning with no trouble on my end. Haven't been locked since Thursday night, so that got me over my performance fears. I'm only in my early 30s so I still suffer from that fragile male ego problem I suppose. I think I have been pushing the topic of sex on her a bit too much lately and she just needs a minute to cool down.

[Michele]

You remind me of cagedmonkey when we first started!

Btw I don't like dildo but this one is a pretty dang good replica the real thing just sayin'

[grubber]

It's good that you two are figuring out your own path. We can give you all kinds of suggestions here but ultimately it's up to you.
It's only natural to get excited and orgasm quickly when your best lifelong friend is locked up for any period of time. The same happens to us guys that have been in long lockups.
Fortunately for me, my wife prefers oral over vaginal any way. She just gets excited seeing me get hard for her anytime she wants and most importantly, hungry for her all the time.

[Aarkey]

I love love love my toy I found... So real feeling, so lovely!

What toy is that?

[Michele]

I love love love my toy I found... So real feeling, so lovely!

What toy is that?

I'm really behind on writing a review on the blog but it's a Cyberskin Wildfire Dream Dick
I really like it better than anything I've tried... and I've tried a lot.