Flattening out

[fuzzydunlop]

At Day 31 with no climax. I have only made it this far one other time. Maybe it is a general rut about other aspects of my life, but I feel a little flat, which isn't my favorite part of this. I have been under some strong stress, which doesn't help. I start to tell myself that I have plateaued, like someone who his hit the wall on an exercise routine.

On the plus side, when I do some quiet time with my wife, I feel very responsive to her. We have had some slow, hot, orgasmless sex. I also just woke up from a very graphic sex dream. No emission though.

Do I keep pressing through?

[Tom Allen]

If you were expecting to be as aroused and desperate *every single day* as you are in the first week, then you're going to be disappointed. Your body just doesn't work that way.

Yes, you just press on. There are good/up periods, and then there are down/flat periods. You know, just like every other aspect of your life.

[locknload]

Every chastity period is different for me. My mood seems to lock in for the whole time. Sometimes I'm relatively happy, other times I'm dependably short-tempered. I also seem to have a drop-off after about a week, but then after another week the need begins building more and more again. I have never been more than 3 weeks, so I don't know if this trend continues or not. I have heard that at 6-8 weeks you are constantly dripping. I've not been much of a dripper, but some day I hope to find out if that would happen to me. My key holder is threatening to keep me 6 weeks this time, after feeling sorry for me at 10 days last time.

[Allmylife4her]

Are you setting the time or is your KH? If the latter then you might not have any choice but to keep going, otherwise if you call it off she will no in the future that your actions differ from your intentions. If your setting the timeframe, I strongly encourage you to keep going, you've made a huge milestone by reaching 31 days!

[fuzzydunlop]

If you were expecting to be as aroused and desperate *every single day* as you are in the first week, then you're going to be disappointed. Your body just doesn't work that way.

Yes, you just press on. There are good/up periods, and then there are down/flat periods. You know, just like every other aspect of your life.

Honestly, I don't think I could last being that horny, but I miss it when it flattens out and I start to wonder if I should start over. In other words, do you get diminishing returns at some point? The big thing is I am paranoid about actually starting over if I start over. Like, is eating that pizza going to ruin my diet for the day, or send me off the rails completely?

Are you setting the time or is your KH? If the latter then you might not have any choice but to keep going, otherwise if you call it off she will no in the future that your actions differ from your intentions. If your setting the timeframe, I strongly encourage you to keep going, you've made a huge milestone by reaching 31 days!

We set it together. We usually don't set real long term goals, but did this time. We also mostly use the honor system. Her own sex drive had been a little flat, yet she had told me she would be sorely annoyed of I slipped up. We have an indefinite goal right now. Earlier in the week, I floated ending it, and she told me to wait and see how I felt at the end of the week, which is now. Her general answer has been "we have put too much time in this and it takes too much to start over!"

Every chastity period is different for me. My mood seems to lock in for the whole time. Sometimes I'm relatively happy, other times I'm dependably short-tempered. I also seem to have a drop-off after about a week, but then after another week the need begins building more and more again. I have never been more than 3 weeks, so I don't know if this trend continues or not. I have heard that at 6-8 weeks you are constantly dripping. I've not been much of a dripper, but some day I hope to find out if that would happen to me. My key holder is threatening to keep me 6 weeks this time, after feeling sorry for me at 10 days last time.

There is a big change for me after 2-3 weeks. I am always horny and self absorbed up until then. It is hard to get to the cool down point but am there.

[TwistedMister]

I've gone as long as two months, and found that as long as she is 'using' me somehow (orally pleasuring her, rubbing her feet, personal 'service' (coffee, drinks, etc.)) I won't get a 'flat' period. I think that at least part of what helps with that is that since my 'performance' is tied to being allowed an [eventual] orgasm an arousal response has been conditioned- even the simple act of serving her a cup of coffee in bed in the morning can cause me to get hard. The psychological analysis is that it works as a form of Pavlovian conditioning. And, of course, the more intimate the service, the stronger the arousal response.

Another thing that helped was when she decided that she wanted her 'toys' on display and easily accessible at all times when I am at home- this puts my 'condition' at the forefront of both our minds. She can easily tease me any time she pleases, which happens much more often since it is 'there' all the time. I find it somewhat humiliating, but erotically so, to be required to be exposed at all times (especially when she is fully clothed), which also increases arousal. Obviously not everyone is able to do this- kids and neighbors could be problematic but we live in a rural area with no neighbors in sight, and far enough off the road that the dog can warn me of the rare visitor approaching before a car comes into view.

[fuzzydunlop]

I've gone as long as two months, and found that as long as she is 'using' me somehow (orally pleasuring her, rubbing her feet, personal 'service' (coffee, drinks, etc.)) I won't get a 'flat' period. I think that at least part of what helps with that is that since my 'performance' is tied to being allowed an [eventual] orgasm an arousal response has been conditioned- even the simple act of serving her a cup of coffee in bed in the morning can cause me to get hard. The psychological analysis is that it works as a form of Pavlovian conditioning.

I hear you there. We have busy jobs and a young-ish family, so it can be tough to connect. Thanks for your CFNM ideas. It is something I think about more these days and like exploring.

So Friday came, and I did not. When we do connect, it is great. She was aggressive about telling me that I wasn't going to come during a handjob. I don't think she has ever liked thinking if me as "submissive" but has taken to calling me "beta". I guess it's just words but her POV is interesting. We are trying to go two more weeks, and doing something wild when we end it. We have been playing with cuckolding for some time and want to experiment more.

[fuzzydunlop]

Made out naked last night. That helps. I keep going through a bunch of "lasts" in my head. My last orgasm was a mediocre MB session in late March. She gave me a listless handjob the night before and I knew we needed me to diet. I have had sex a few times, but haven't climaxed inside her since late February.