The "You've been outed" thread.

[Anymouse]

Has anyone been outed here by their keyholder or anyone else? Or have you outed yourself?

Well, my wife outed my chaste ways.

Sort of. A tiny push on the envelope she's made.

She has a blog unrelated to this subject, on cynicism and unlikely doom scenarios.

In that blog today, she made a post on the overpopulation problem and how it can be resolved through male chastity, linking Tom's Keyheld blog as a resource.

Several people in my family, as well as our local Mensa group (local being defined as four hundred miles away from us) follow her fascinating and unlikely doom scenarios on that blog.

While it is a stretch, any of those readers that click on the Keyheld blog will see the big list of chastity blogs, which includes our own.

Should they dare to open that, it will take them to a blog where I identify us by first names only, and where we are (the middle of nowhere on the High Plains), but that is enough to let any of them know who is referred to there. And then they'll know my dark secret.

Somehow the thrill of potentially being outed is both scary and hot at the same time . . . on the other hand, if my sister or mother read it . . . James, in that void north of Colorado and east of Wyoming.

[Hercock]

I suspect my wifes best friend knows, due to the odd hint when she has been around, I do get turned on thinking she has told others.

[wspony]

My KH outed me to her best friend ... which is quite a kinky person.

Yesterday they talked on the phone and I called over "Darling, come back to bed!" in a funny way, so that her best friend could hear... (we were not in bed, I just wanted to make a joke). Suddenly my KH started laughing ... later she told me her best friend said: "What, he is able to speak? He needs to be gagged properly..."

Oh ... and one female college of mine also knows about me being locked. We bumped into each other a month or so ago and she gave me a strange look. I was afraid she had felt the device. She did not say anything at that time however and I soon forgot. A few weeks ago, we drove together and suddenly she asked me ... what that thing was she had felt ... and seen contours when I wore a bright short trouser ...
I flushed crimson and went hot-cold and stuttered and all ... but I told her and she grinned and said that it fits me ... we did not talk much about it, but she was very okay with it and found it kind of arousing. Later we did some more talking and actually I found out that she never ever saw any contours of my device, but saw my pocket-knife instead ... LOL ... so I could have avoided my coming-out by simply showing her my knife and telling her that was the thing she felt when she bumped into me ... But it was hell of an experience coming out to practically a stranger and female at that ...

[Tom Allen]

Okay, I have to ask this question:

For those of you who get a thrill thinking about being outed, especially to your wife's friends, is it because her friends are sexually attractive to you? Likewise, when you imagine scenarios about others discovering your secret, are they object of attraction to you?

I mean, I never read about anyone secretly hoping to be outed to one's parents or siblings, so I'm wondering what the attraction is. Considering that we take pains to design, make, and wear devices with the least amount of unnatural bulging, what is the fascination with being discovered?

[celticqueens_sub]

Okay, I have to ask this question:

For those of you who get a thrill thinking about being outed, especially to your wife's friends, is it because her friends are sexually attractive to you? Likewise, when you imagine scenarios about others discovering your secret, are they object of attraction to you?

I mean, I never read about anyone secretly hoping to be outed to one's parents or siblings, so I'm wondering what the attraction is. Considering that we take pains to design, make, and wear devices with the least amount of unnatural bulging, what is the fascination with being discovered?

Seconded... Whilst I have a buddy who knows, because he is in the same situation as me, my vanilla friends... well I actually don't know if they are vanilla, that is my point... I don't want to know what they get up to and to Tom's point, even if they are attractive (and one of CQ's best friends is a babe, but not nearly as babeish as CQ, phew ducked a bullet there.. ) I still don't want them to know. I guess if we ever met anyone from here in real life it would obviously be different as we are starting from the same place...

[wspony]

I do not actively seek any outing! Indeed I try to keep it secret as much as possible. However the thought about being outed is thrilling (especial when the outing is positive received)

I can just talk for myself, having been outed to two females (KH's best friend and working colleague). Yes I find both women attractive and I have had the chance to talk to both of them about sexual matters and kinks. I enjoy that a lot more than talking with male friends about such stuff.

What makes matters worse is that both women that know know about me are not only attractive, but quite "kinky" in their own style. One said she desperately wants a second woman with her in bed together with her boyfriend (silly boyfriend however refuses!!!!!!! ) ... enjoys anal, likes rough sex (occasionally) and enjoys bondage... The second one (best friend of my KH) also enjoys such matters and also enjoys pegging and doing various stuff to her boyfriend.

Of course, perhaps this talk is somewhat inspired by my coming out (wanted or not) with my kink and wanting to present their own kinks, but of course such things do turn me on. It instantly gets my head cinema started with stuff like being in bed with my KH and a second woman while they play together and I stay locked or am just allowed to use the strap-on on them etc.

Whatever, I know those are just fantasies never going to be real, but I can not help having them So perhaps this answers why it is thrilling to have such "outings"... they enable another level of interaction with other females. Both women now tease me occasionally with hints about my locked up state and my working-colleague even said she might talk to my KH about also being given a key etc... Also, knowing about my state seems to make both women more confident in being able to tease me like that because even if I would like to cheat on my KH, I could not ... so they are free to flirt and tease me and don't have to fear any consequences .... at least it feels like that to me sometimes.

[keeperof55]

Perhaps I'm a minority... the idea of others knowing is a turn-off.

[Finn]

A couple of our friends know about the kinky stuff..and a couple know about the chastity stuff. There are some friends that I would not be pleased to have find out.

[fuzzydunlop]

I don't think you need to be attracted to someone to get a little bit of a thrill thinking you are or might be outted on some kind of kink. To me it is an obvious link to mild exhibitionism. There is also a power issue. It doesn't mean that you are turned on or have the hots for your wife's friend to get a little thrill that your wife might have exposed you. There is obvious vulnerability involved. Also, to think that your wife might have mentioned it to someone is to think that she was interested and secure enough to mention it. This all makes it obvious to me why it would be a thrill to be exposed to some people but not to others without having some strong attraction to anyone but your wife.

[WendyWicke]

So for myself, I desperately want to tell people about my experience as a KH and talk a;; about it. But I have no desire for my friends to find out. Am deathly afraid sometimes that they might. I turned beet red once when a friend asked me what the key on my necklace was for. So these forums are a great release. I can talk about being a KH to all of you without talkng about it to my friends.

Not that you aren't my friends. Except... you aren't. I mean, you are, in a virtual sort of way, which is fine, no offense, it's not like my real life friends are always so great. No wait, they are, I just don't want them to know and you guys are great I love you even if....

I'm rambling, aren't I?

Anywho, I don't really want to tell anyone. I posed Tom's question to my husband Jake. He said the idea of me outing him is a turn on in that it would mean I was being confident and assertive about it, and that the general idea of a hot woman knowing about it was a turn on because it would mean she was thinking about his crotch(!) but that overall he really didn't want any of our friends to know. He does have a fantasy of me parading him nude in his Queens Keep through a fetish club, but he thinks he's probably wearing a mask in the fantasy, and none of our friends are there.