Into Chastity

[jack]

After thinking about it for a very long time and reading every blog and forum on the web, I decided to approach my wife about male chastity. I started by sending her an email asking her to visit a web site, www.onlyshecums.com.

I thought it provided a fairly concise description of the various aspects of male chastity that she might find helpful. I was out of town at the time so we did not discuss it for a couple days. I had ordered an inexpensive steel CD before hand. When I returned home from my trip, I did go into the bath and put on the CD under my clothes.

As she was getting ready for bed, I began to ask her questions about what she thought of the information from the site. We talked for a little while and I provided additional information to help clear things up for her. She was a intrigued by the aspect of being in total control of our/my orgasms. We also discussed her natural reluctance to deny me pleasure when she would be getting hers. (we have always had a good sex life and I have always made sure that she cums first).

Anyway, after talking a while and asking her if she was interested in exploring the game, she said sure. Lucky me!!! I told her that I had bought a CD, she laughed and said she thought I might have. I asked her if she wanted to see it, pointing to my crotch. She smiled and laughed, asking if I had it on.

I got off the be and had her remove my pants, revealing my somewhat swollen dick trapped in the steel CD. She cringed a little and asked if it was uncomfortable. I told her, no, it was actually pretty good, much better than I expected.

I lay back on the bed wearing only the CD and we talked some more about the game, how there are different levels that couples play, games of chance to help reduce her initial guilty feelings, etc. As it was late, I asked her if she wanted me to make her cum. She asked about me and I explained that I was locked, this was about her pleasure. She said yes fairly quickly.

She got undressed and lay on the bed. I moved between her legs and set about orally pleasing her. The whole while, she caressed my balls, my dick straining against the cage. Once she had cum, I curled up next to her only wearing the CD. She drifted off to sleep quickly. I on the other hand had a very restless night. Not so much because of my trapped, semi-hard cock. But because of the weight of the CD constantly pulling at my trapped balls as I lay on my side trying to sleep.

So here I sit writing about my first chastity experience with my wonderful wife, by cock still trapped in the steel cage. I am looking forward to where this game will go.....

[locked4her55]

It sounds like you are off to a good start. Not everyone has had your success in the beginning. My wife was alittle reluctant at first and it took some time before she knew where this was going. Now she has embraced this lifestyle and truned into a wonderful KH. From what I've read my fellow blogers for the most part feel the same.

Thanks for the link

Keep us posted and remember BWYWF

[rawrdude]

Off to a good start!

Interesting link. I was reading through it when I came across this tidbit.

"In our opinion, such devices are for teasing fun, and not seriously practical for long-term uninterrupted wear. Anyone who’s ever had to wear a medical brace or cast of any kind will tell you, no matter how well they are custom fit, they always have hot spots of soreness, and chastity belts are no exception. Pressure points will create pressure sores, and urologists also agree that restraining the penis from engorging to its erect state for extended periods of time will cause damage to the erectile tissues. But for short periods of chastity, there’s nothing more definitive than that palpable “click” of a lock."

What is your take on this? What do you think they mean by "long term"? I am very happy so far in my new device, but as always, safety first! Happy to hear any and all input on this.

[locked4her55]

"In our opinion, such devices are for teasing fun, and not seriously practical for long-term uninterrupted wear. Anyone who’s ever had to wear a medical brace or cast of any kind will tell you, no matter how well they are custom fit, they always have hot spots of soreness, and chastity belts are no exception. Pressure points will create pressure sores, and urologists also agree that restraining the penis from engorging to its erect state for extended periods of time will cause damage to the erectile tissues. But for short periods of chastity, there’s nothing more definitive than that palpable “click” of a lock."

What is your take on this? What do you think they mean by "long term"? I am very happy so far in my new device, but as always, safety first! Happy to hear any and all input on this.

I'm no expert, but I've been locked in a CB6000s since 4/2010. In that time I've been in the device approx. 85% of the time. To this day I've had no ill effects and when I'm allowed to orgasm I have an erection and ejaculation just as strong as ever, and I'm pushing 57.

[jack]

Thanks, I had my wife look at that site because I guess I would say it is a little vanilla, less of the more extreme views of dom/sub relationships or FLR. Those are fine, just probably not the best for her first exposure to chastity.

The CD is still comfortable. I can see how one gets used to it and doesn't notice it much. It is quite heavy and snug. Any thought of an erection is quickly snuffed out. Most of the time it grips my penis and I can't feel anything really. I can feel the A ring, but it is just there, not painful. I did sleep good last night though which was great as I was exhausted from the night before. Hopefully I won't suffer too much from night time erections.

I asked her this morning if she had thought about when I might get let out of the CD. Her reply was that we had not rolled the dice yet (she likes games). Maybe over the weekend I will have an opportunity to find out how long it will be until I am released to play. I will post an update with the results.

[rawrdude]

I read most of onlyshecums.com and decided I don't really like it- and hey, thats fine, I'm just one guy, what do I know? I guess to me it just read like a piece of erotic fiction, did not strike me as genuine. I can't put my finger on it thats just how I feel! I am happy that it worked for you and your game loving wife, have fun you two!

**EDIT did not intend to put the site down, I am glad you shared it with us as I like to read all types of views and experiences.

[hot_toddy_dog]

I lol'd at onlyshecums when they offered to sell me tools to "please her cliterous". I raged when it said shaving is for wimps and suggested epilating of the scrotum. I don't think so.

Other than that, the site seemed okay, but kinda one dimensional. I kept hearing "him" and none of "her". I prefer forums like this because it's good to get viewpoints from both him and her.

In any case, good luck with your journey. The first time my wife saw the thing, she flicked the lock and said "clink - um, no". Two years later she finally doesn't mind if I wear it. So you're off to a good start.

[jack]

Last night was a play night. We agreed on a simple dice game.

1 or 2 dice
First roll determines orgasm or not
1 = intercourse orgasm
6 = blowjob orgasm
2,3,4 or 5 = tease and denial
Second roll or second die = number of days to next orgasm opportunity

I guess on any single roll, I have a 33% chance of an orgasm. I don't know if my odds change with denial and then subsequent rolls. It's not a hard core game, but we are just starting out. I am sure it will evolve as time goes on. Maybe we will use 2 dice on the second roll and add the results together for the lockup period. She did tell me that she was a little uneasy about being in charge of my orgasms. I reassured her that it was normal and OK.

The dice were not too kind to me last night. She got a 3 on the first roll. She smiled and said "No orgasm for you". She got a 5 on the second roll. This made her laugh and she said, "Sucks to be you!" Which was accurate, it did suck to be me. No possibility of an orgasm till at least Thursday.

But of course she would get to cum. I pleased her orally until she asked me to get on top. She came quickly. She flipped over and we continued doggie style for about 5 minutes. I took my time as I knew I would not get to cum. When she sensed I was getting close, she told me to stop. We laid down, kissed and snuggled for a few minutes, then she told me to clean up and get back in the cage. Needless to say it was a restless night.

She has teased me a couple of times today by smiling and saying, "Not till Thursday." So it looks like it will be 5 days before I can take my chances again. Hopefully things will work out better for me then. Wish me luck.

[Atone]

Hopefully things will work out better for me then. Wish me luck.

Just curious what that would look like. You could roll snake eyes but that wouldn't be much in the way of denial.

Off the top of my head this system should result in an orgasm approx every 10 days or so.

[jack]

Good point on the lockup period roll with 2 dice. Maybe we would simply re-roll if either dice showed a 1 or 2. Then the minimum lockup would be 6 days and the maximum 12 before there is the opportunity to play for ograsm or denial again. This way, a couple unlucky plays could earn 20 days or so of denial.