The "You've been outed" thread.

[Tom Allen]

Hi Wendy - nice to see you stop in. Looks like things have been going well for you.

I understand Jake's perspective; I guess I just don't have the imagination to make me think that it would end well in real life.

[deepj15]

I have "outed" my husband to a couple of close friends. One saw the key I wear around my ankle and asked about it. When initially asked I told her it was the symbolic key to my husband's heart. I had a lot of people around for a party and that was not the time to tell her. A few days later we were texting and I told her what the key was really for.

She then in turn told another dear friend of ours who was up for a visit. I waited for this other friend to say something and she didn't. Again a few days passed and I spoke to her about it. She said she did know and did want to bust his chops but decided it was not a good idea to bring it up as my 2 boys were around. (They don't know!).

My husband thought it was hot that these two friends know. They are probably the only ones I would tell no one else needs to know.

[celticqueens_sub]

I have "outed" my husband to a couple of close friends. One saw the key I wear around my ankle and asked about it. When initially asked I told her it was the symbolic key to my husband's heart. I had a lot of people around for a party and that was not the time to tell her. A few days later we were texting and I told her what the key was really for.

She then in turn told another dear friend of ours who was up for a visit. I waited for this other friend to say something and she didn't. Again a few days passed and I spoke to her about it. She said she did know and did want to bust his chops but decided it was not a good idea to bring it up as my 2 boys were around. (They don't know!).

My husband thought it was hot that these two friends know. They are probably the only ones I would tell no one else needs to know.

Dunno if it means the same thing where you are from but in the UK kink circles (and possibly wider Europe) a key around the ankle means a woman is looking for a man to have sex with other than her husband/partner.

[finallyhappy]

I've outed myself to about half a dozen people. Some are family some are close friends. But I think a play in a different ballpark than most everyone else.

For me, it's not about denying me sex, it's about stopping masterbation and improving the quality of my orgasms.

At least that is the way I present it. My enjoyment of denial is my own business and only a secondary factor.

[Locked by LRC]

finallyhappy; out of curiosity, do you tell them that’s it’s because of your masturbation problems? Do they ask why? I would have problems telling family/friends about chastity, let alone for that reason.

[Anymouse]

There is one problem with either outing yourself or your partner doing it: once it is done you are no longer in control of the information (much like posting a photo of yourself on Facebook).

It is a one-way street with no way back. And if you live in a particularly rural area as I do, the whole county will know. (Gossip fuels the life of the village.)

The thought your partner might out you, or might already have outed you, could be hot. One wonders what to do if one of her friends asks you about it directly though?

[Allmylife4her]

If like me your KH displays the Key on an anklet (an act of ownership and confidence which I find incredibly erotic) isn't that in itself an outing message?

[deepj15]

Interesting - I do not know if here in the States wearing a key on my ankle means I am looking to have sex with someone....that certainly isn't my purpose in wearing it.

And I suppose wearing it around my ankle is a way of "outing" us....however most people don't bother to ask why I have a key on...my guess is they presume it is just a decoration on the anklet - as I made sure to get a silver anklet to match the silver key.

The only other person who asked me what the key was for was my son....he was told the same thing my friend was initially told....and for him this works....it is the key to his father's heart...so we are going to go with that.

And funny that I wear it all the time, but he doesn't wear the cb all the time - it is sort of hard for him to wear it when at work due to what he does so I don't make him wear it to work generally speaking, usually only when he is home.

[WendyWicke]

Hi Wendy - nice to see you stop in. Looks like things have been going well for you.

I understand Jake's perspective; I guess I just don't have the imagination to make me think that it would end well in real life.

Hi Tom.

I don't *think* Jake imagines it would end well in real life either. He emphasized the "fantasy" part of it. I'm not terribly interested in testing it either. When I was younger and didn't have kids, I'd probably have done it. Now...

But the random thought occured to me to make him go as a bag piper for halloween this year, complete with kilt and nothing under it but his Queen's Keep.

[Anymouse]

Hi Tom.

I don't *think* Jake imagines it would end well in real life either. He emphasized the "fantasy" part of it. I'm not terribly interested in testing it either. When I was younger and didn't have kids, I'd probably have done it. Now...

But the random thought occured to me to make him go as a bag piper for halloween this year, complete with kilt and nothing under it but his Queen's Keep.

Oooo . . . my step-father is a piper, and wears his kilts regimental. Perhaps I should pass a suggestion over to my wife Miss BethK, that she in turn make a suggestion to my mother that she try that with him. (I don't think that suggestion would go over well coming from me to my mother.)