Is this a promising start?

[tom19800]

Hi everyone

Thought i would tell everyone how this journey is coming along with me and my partner.
We briefly chatted before i ordered a cb6000, I think her initial thought's included me wanting to cross dress and be feminine for some reason, this is not how i was thinking at all as im not into that personally nothing against it just wouldn't float my boat.

So the CD arrived this morning along with a vixskin dildo for her pleasure.
i managed to set it up pretty quickly and get it on it's very comfy atm,
at this point she was in the bath so i strolled in there and she asked very bluntly is it on, i replied yes she said let me see it, so i pulled my trouser's down to let her inspect it, she had a little smile and did giggle a bit at this point Sasha still didn't really understand my reason for wearing it i tried to explain it is all for her pleasure and basically just said don't let me out unless you want me out of the CD, I tried to explain even if i make you cum with toys or tongue ect ect don't let me out unless you want to, don't feel like you have to return the favour. I think slowly she is getting it im not sure she enjoys it yet, hopefully it will grow on her.

After she was dressed and ready we went shopping before we went shopping I said shall i take it off now she basically replied im not bothered then i asked again i said jokingly well it's up to you she said leave it on to go shopping, i think maybe she was seeing if id go through with it i said well you have to lock it before we go so it wont fall off. so she did actually lock it which brought a huge grin to my face.
it was only locked with a plastic tag for now with numbers on i did ask her if she would like to put the padlock on later in the evening and she wasnt very exited about it not that im expecting her to be really enjoying it yet.

anyway im hoping to use her new dildo on her tonight with my CD firmly in place, and see if she lets me out of refrains im hoping she doesn't feel sorry for me and just releases me out off pity.

Is this a promising start?
do you think with time she could come to enjoy this and make it part of our lifestyle?
also what is the best way of me going about this? im fully aware being pushy may put her off
how long on average was it before your partners started to embrace and enjoy it?

Thanks Tom

[wishful4]

Think you are off to a good start. One mistake I made in the early going was that I was so excited about chastity that I wanted to talk about it all the time. She said I was over doing it and trying to make the whole relationship about chastity instead of making chastity part of our relationship. So I had to temper my excitement a bit. Even so, things seem to be going too slow for me at times and I was always trying to speed things up. Instead, I should have just taken my cues from her and try and be a better partner. It's really hard for us guys to not be pushy. You just have to find an outlet for your pent up sexual energy. Do some projects for her she really wants done. I used to write one love poem a week and put it on her pillow with a rose at night. Try to make her understand you really like the way the device makes you feel.

[locked4her55]

trying to make the whole relationship about chastity instead of making chastity part of our relationship.

Great quote wishful, and so true.

When we started out I couldn't shut up about it. Almost sank the whole thing but like wishful said, you need to take your cues from her.

Everyone's timetable is different. For us, it took many, many months before this was all figured out.

[tom19800]

Thank's for all the help, i will listen and stick to the advise given

A quick update of what followed the other night and throughout yesterday
So saturday as i mentioned a new dildo arrived with the cb600 it is a vixskin buck, i ordered this as all the dildos i had ordered previously are very big, i used to order them probably mainly so i could watch her taking big dildos and she never used to complain but now im starting to realise it was mainly me that wanted to see them in action very greedy i know im trying to change btw. So the buck is much closer to my size a little girthier but no by much.
Any way we started kissing and playing i still had my CD on, i was kissing her all over and started pleasuring her down below with my tongue at that moment it clicked in my head that i rarely kissed her body and showed her so much affection, i do go down on her occasionally but probably within a minute or so i usually have my penis out pleasuring myself at the same time then usually go straight in for sex.
But last night was different i was locked up so i didn't get to touch myself and what a difference that made at one point she was holding my hand whilst i was pleasuring her orally i felt so close to her my hands were all over her i felt like i could give her 100% of my attention which i loved i did ask her if i could come out she was a bit confused she did say yes but i think she was trying not to be cruel, i went on to say you dont have to let me out if you don't want to i basically ended up saying very nicely just say no to me tonight please she agreed so i proceeded to pleasure her with her new dildo and my tongue she ended up taking control of the dildo so my hands were all over her whilst i was still licking her clit.
after she came we kissed for a while then as a little test i did say can i come out now and have sex with you she did say yes again i said nicely can you say no she did say im sure you will cum quickly if you get in me. then i said yeah but your allready finished you i dont want to jump on you now if your not going to get allot of joy out of it. so i said once more do you want to let me out now then she just smiled and said no. i was so happy she did even though i kind of persuaded her it's fine for her to not have to pleasure me. i said the point of this is so i can pleasure you and make you happy. i started cuddling her and she was asleep within 2 minutes,so she couldnt of felt that bad she did not tease me or touch me throughout the entire session but im sure she might get into it more and maybe tease me a little bit in the future, i dont want to tell her to tease me as i dont want to put more pressure on her.

So yesterday she was going town with her friend before she left i did ask would you put the padlock on me and take the key she said yeah ok, she done the padlock up and put the key in her purse anyway off she went, i was so temped to text her about it throughout the day but i didnt because i dont want to pressure her when she got home we chatted about allot of stuff no mention of CD from either of us,
we decided we'd make dinner together so just as we was about to i said can you take this CD off me now she replied is it uncomfortable i said no, she said well you can make the dinner first then i said ok what about after dinner she said maybe.
so later in the evening neither of us mentioned it so it was left on until bed time. she did say when we was in bed she has just started her period so im guessing this is a good time to just stay locked up and be a good partner she did unlock me before bed as im not sure i could sleep in it just yet. so anyway thats how thing's are going with us atm hopefully in a few months she may see benefits and start to like the lifestye.