Loss of Arousal

[grubber]

I just wrote this and realized I rambled so with this inserted sentence, I am apologizing in advance for the length I needed to get this all explained.

Thanks again for the replies everybody. Sorry for not getting back sooner. I am still trying to wrap my head around this situation but feel better after talking with my sweet KH.
First off, KH and I fully understand the importance of good communication. We are and have been very open through the years of chastity play. Way more than any other time in our 34 years of marriage. I kind of figured that I was going through a faze or slight burnout and posted here to see if this is something that others have experienced. My KH has never let up with all kinds of ways to keep me stimulated but I just wasn't feeling it in this latest lockup. I was keeping up a good front for her because I love her too much to let her down.
Now on to being outed. It was a tough afternoon to say the least. I did have a few cold beers and mowed the lawn. I saw my next door neighbor's husband out in his driveway while I was mowing. I usually scoot over and take a minute to chat but couldn't do it this time. I was afraid to talk to him. Anyway after finishing the yard I went inside, opened another cold one and started preparing dinner. My KH showed up just as I finished preparing.
She came in the door and I gave her my usual I missed you hug and kiss and then was kind of tongue tied. She went to the bedroom to change then came back to the kitchen. I was dying in anticipation then she finally spoke up. She told me that a few weeks back when she was out with the neighbor on one of their girls nights, the neighbor was complaining about her husband. She was talking about how things have become distant with them and all the other things we here about couples in a rut. Very little sex, no romance, lack of interest etc. She was telling my KH how jealous she was of our relationship and how wonderful I was with her and on and on. All of us on here know the drill. Although my KH is very, very private about our sex life, she said that this pulled at her heart and felt she needed to say something to her. Before she realized it, the chastity word came out. Our neighbor had no idea what my KH was talking about so my KH explained everything to her and the need to keep it quiet because it is so personal to us. My KH said that she felt confident that the neighbor would keep her word and I'm thinking (yeah right, sure she will).
Anyway, the neighbor had been calling her more than usual wanting to know more about chastity. My KH told her all the positive things and showed her some websites (this one included) and sites with all kinds of chastity devices etc.
As I have mentioned before, my KH is a very sharp woman and very cunning also. She told me that she knew that something was up with me but didn't know what. She said that the give-a-way was noticing that I did not flinch like I usually do when she lightly rubs the inner side of my thighs or arms while sitting with me or cuddling on the couch and how I wasn't quite there during teasing sessions.
With our neighbor all excited about this chastity thing and is just trying to figure out how approach her husband about it, my KH had an impulse while I was in the shower decided she was going to let her see me in mine. She knew this would get me going and most likely the neighbor. I would say she was right.
My KH told me that the neighbor is the only one she told and at least for now, I know that her husband does not know. I feel super relieved but still get aroused just knowing that the neighbor knows. It's amazing how fast the minds of us simple minded guys goes into a tailspin when confronted in a very awkward situation like being outed.
Anyway, now my sweet beautiful KH has a whole new arsenal of teasing material to use on me. She's absolutely brilliant. I know this even more now because while the remainder of Saturday night was quite and
uneventful, Sunday morning started out with a very hot locked tease and denial session. She slipped in things like how hot it was that the neighbor knew and maybe she should invite her over to watch a teasing session or maybe let her join in teasing me etc. I can't imagine how far she is going to take her new arsenal. It was insanely hot. I am in turbo mode.
The day was beautiful, we went on a great ride on the bike and then to our first gay wedding for one of her clients and had an absolute blast.
God I love my KH...How could I not?

[Aarkey]

Thanks for the follow up and I'm really glad its going well for you.

Communication is a tricky thing... and like I said... I've got some really hard won experience about how failing to fully, openly and lovingly communicate can cause a relationship to fail.

[belocked]

grubber, how have things worked out? I told my KH about your experience and her eyes lit up; she's half-expecting to tell a good friend about us, knowing it might lead to something similar.

[grubber]

hey belocked,

Things worked out well in no time. It's kind of fun now because whenever I see our neighbor, she always makes some kind of remark to me that gets me going. She says things like, Hey Chasty are horny you are today? I am , but at least I can do something about it. How can you stand being so horny with no relief? or she will do stuff like flash her bra or panties to me. It's kind of fun. If she talks this way to me, I can't imagine how intense she will be with her husband in chastity.

Her husband knows about me now. She really wants him in chastity. He came into my workshop one day fairly recently and told me about her wanting him to wear a chastity device and told him that he should talk to me. He seemed kind of scared. I felt a little weird but laughed a little then told him all about it and how I wouldn't live any other way. I showed him some of my past devices and answered his questions. He seemed far more comfortable about it but I don't think he is wearing one yet. I am sure I will know when he is. Could be a fun new experience if he does. ( Both girls teasing us verbally when we are together) I don't know which one of us would break first.

I am usually in a very heightened horny state 24/7/365 with my lovely KH wife, but I went into a little lull for some reason as I stated in the beginning of this thread, but my wife's little stunt re-ignited me and went right back to that heightened level and have been there since. At first I was surprised and upset that she did this, but now it's totally OK.

[belocked]

Thanks for the update grubber. It's good to know that being "revealed" isn't necessarily a bad thing, and in your case sounds to have been really good. We'll have to see whether my KH tells her friend, and if so where that will lead, but she sometimes lurks here and this may encourage her.

[TwistedMister]

Damn, that's hot...makes all kinds of nasty little thoughts run through my head...