[Looknohands]: not very interesting story

[Looknohands]

Hi,

I'm early 40s and have now been locked in a (knock-off) CB6000s with an official replacement A-ring for 5 nights. I'm getting a little bit of heat in the skin at the back of my scrotum, where it is being rubbed by my thighs as I walk. Beyond that, things are so comfortable it is barely noticeable that I am wearing anything.

The reason then: nothing interesting or exotic. I suppose there are many strands of the chastity family, from the wild and outrageous to the mundane, mine is definitely the latter

I've been a compulsive masturbator since I was about 7 years old. Generally once or twice a day, sometimes more. I became adept at self edge-play, keeping myself turned on but not going over the edge. This had an unfortunate consequence in that if I went to bed late, or woke up early there was never a thought to rolling over and getting some sleep, there was always some fantasy time to be wasted, leaving me fatigued the next day... rinse and repeat.

I'd played around with chastity, buying a couple of knock-off China specials (a birdcage and a tube) from Ebay. The tube was so cheap the solid end jammed in the thread after a couple of uses and the hinged nature of the padlock fixing meant it pinched skin as it opened and closed under movement. The cage was better, but was so large as to be impossible to conceal and also easy to pull back out of... It was useful enough in tandem with bondage play, but useless as a standalone device.

So, back to the matter in hand (or not as the case may be). I'd discussed chastity devices with my wife, it wasn't something she was interested in. Certainly not any of the "chastity porn domina" machinations we hear so much about. The cage stayed in the back of the drawer with infrequent self-administration. Over time I began to realise that my habit made me unhappy. I felt like I was cheating on my wife, with Madam Palm and her five lovely daughters and asked for her help to change that.

The dynamic then is nothing to do with being punished, or denied, we both agree that it makes for a happier household and a nicer me if I am not constantly playing with myself. But what about the countdown to when I get to have my orgasm, I hear you ask? Short answer: there isn't one. We aren't the most active of couples in the bedroom currently, so you won't be reading lascivious tales of tongue lashings and all that carry on (not that there is anything wrong with it). The deal is, if she wants it, she unlocks it, if she doesn't, she doesn't. Nothing more complicated than that.

What? you have agreed to indefinite denial, without any breaking in period, or negotiation? how lucky / terrifying / "insert other adjective" for you... It feels natural for us. There is no need to have a calendar with a circle on a date, or a countdown timer. It is either locked or it isn't. The decision, very positively for both of us, is out of my hands.

There will be quick 15 minute shave breaks every week or so, to avoid rashing and ingrown hairs as much as possible. beyond that, who knows? My preference would be at some point in the future to move to a steel device. Partly because I think there might be less friction between skin and polished steel that between skin and plastic. Partly because I would prefer to not have a padlock jiggling around and knocking against the device. Lastly because a plastic device is really not much more than an honour promise. If I so chose I could either snap the pins, jemmy the padlock off or smash the whole cage. We had an incident a few weeks back on our first trial run with the new kosher A-ring when the cage split along its seam due to a particularly vigorous night time engorgement. Superglue has fixed that, I hope.

I've seen the Latowski, as I'm sure everyone has. I like the front, I'm not so keen on the back, or any "T" style belt. I know what comes out of my behind on occasions and the idea of only being able to go to the loo when I have a shower available in case of any splatter or smearing is not something that appeals.

If we do move to steel, it is more likely to be something like MM, much more affordable and available by post.

Here we go then, post #1 on my journey.

[Looknohands]

Night 7 then. I'd traded a morning lay-in for my wife against a night time lay-down for me.
Possibly my biggest kink is bondage, proper sensory deprivation and restriction stuff. Something I've enjoyed for years.

Last night was fairly simple, go up and get ready, then my wife came up about 15 mins later to finish off the necessary buckles to ensure I couldn't free myself and then left me. No chat, no discourse, no time limit, exactly what I want.

About 2hrs in and everything was great, except the gag in the hood was becoming annoying. I have a habit of wanting new experiences and only after trying them finding out that reality isn't like the fantasies. I only really wanted the gag in to help block light out of the hood, so I'll have to think of something else in the future. I have an aquiline nose, so hoods always seem to allow light in through either the mouth or nose holes. Maye I need to invest in something expensive!

Anyway, as well as the pressure on my teeth, the boredom set in and testing the limits of my confinement, I realised I could turnover onto my front, as the tether at my ankles was in the centre of the bar, not one at each end. Like a moth to a flame, I then decided to explore if I could dry hump the duvet, expecting to get no sensation at all. After about 30 seconds I was getting ridiculously over-excited and managed to drag myself away and roll over onto my back. I was desperate not to orgasm, which is pretty stupid considering what I'd been doing.

I clenched everything as hard as possible and willed myself not to go too far, I didn't think it worked: damn, damn, damn. Instantly I was horrified, annoyed and humiliated. My wife has been good enough to give me everything I said I wanted and this was how I paid her back? I lay there for the remainder of the giving myself a bollocking and hoping the mess wouldn't be too obvious when I was released.

As it turned out, barring a little bit of leakage, I'd managed to just about hold myself together. I still felt like an ungrateful idiot though. What it does prove is that given the right circumstances, my willpower is weak enough to compromise my supposed contentment with chastity. Any future bondage will have to remove this level of temptation.

A further complication was that somehow overnight I managed to have testicle pop back out of the A-ring. I would have thought that impossible given the fit of the A-ring and the complete inability to shove it back through. I had to ask for the key to fix the situation, which felt like a failure in itself. All safely locked away again now, though. I suppose a journey is meant to be something you learn from...

[Looknohands]

Last night, into bed, went to re-arrange the cb and heard a nasty snapping sound Presumed it was the pins that I had heard about failing.
Nope, the A-Ring had sheared around both the pin holes... Irony being that is the only kosher part out of the rig, the cb was (unbeknownst to me) a China knock-off with the I-beam construction A-rings...

So, that is the end of that for a while. I felt terrible for snapping it, my wife felt terrible as she chose the 6000s because she didn't like the look of anything metal.

All in all a pretty miserable night :/

Then in the post today, a slightly hopeful China special "steel" pseudo version of the cb6000s turned up. It has a single locking post without the two stabilizers, which is squared off to prevent rotating out of. Is it steel? well there are tool marks on it and solder inside and it feels colder to the touch than previous plated jobs.
There is a little too much play between the lock -hole and the cage, which initially allowed me to slip straight out of it with a cursory try on. I've found a small washer now to shim it. Hopefully this will do the job.

[Looknohands]

Nope doesn't work... It looks nice enough and the fit isn't bad. the ring wasn't uncomfortable at all, better than the plastic cb one. Problem is that it doesn't prevent ball pull out, so useless really, apart from times when I can't get my hands on it.
The search goes on. I know that no device is inescapable and a lot of chastity is between the ears. There is a certain lower threshold though, where my mind says "What is the difference between wearing this and not wearing it, if a quick pull is enough for the whole thing to fall off?" :/

[Looknohands]

Got the Dremel out tonight and did some careful (or as careful as I ever get) grinding to remove some of the shoulder off the mounting bar behind the lock, to close the gap between the back of the cage and the A-ring. Took enough off to get a second shim washer in place and gave it a try.

Result: 1 pair of completely trapped balls, they are not going to pop out under any circumstances! I was about to celebrate when a cursory rearrangement of my bits led to a quick backwards tug on the skin behind the A-ring and the whole package (sans balls) backed straight out.

It isn't going to work for me, trying to hold mental chastity together with such a lack of effort needed to render the cage useless Back to the drawing board I guess.

[locked4her55]

I'm a tinkerer in the shop kind of guy and have experimented in the past with some of my own modifications. Bottom line is I found that companies like Mature Metal and Steelworxx have done their R & D when it comes to designing a device.

Here's hoping you can come up with the right combination for you.