My girlfriend and I have witholding my orgasms during the last month and it has been incredible. Despite my strong desire to wear a chastity device under her supervision, I've found that I've been pretty good at self policing and think the device may hinder our activity.
Some things which I never really considered as workable is being a top while in chastity (or at least a switch) and non device chastity. I think my next logical step is to discuss with her that I'd like for her to have more decision making power over when I do cum, though I want to be able to still guarantee that denial is part if that process.
here are some notes which I've written up on this week
"we’re still on a lots of teasing but no orgasms for me routine…I last had an orgasm on wednesday morning.
since then, there has been lots of sex, hand jobs, blow jobs, and her cumming, but no release for me. she wants me to wait until after my marathon on sunday to be rewarded.
she is starting to really get into it, asking me if I want to cum, then telling me no, that I need to wait, that I’ve been a good boy but need to wait longer, that she is going to cum but I can’t, that life’s not fair.
yesterday morning I woke her up to play and she got on top of me and teased me, telling me not to move. she would put only the tip in and make me beg her for more. this went on for about 30-40 minutes and then I flipped her over and held her down while she struggled. I pinned her legs together and slid in and fucked her for a while asking her if she could stop me. she kept moving around and I slapped her face a couple of times and could literally feel her pussy get wetter.
we fucked for over an hour like this, with her then begging for my cock and telling me how she was my slut. I kept bringing myself to the edge but did not cum, though I fucked her until she came hard.
we have an interesting dynamic. we’re both tops at times. I find this chastity/denial thing pretty awesome. I know she’d love for me to cum, but she’s starting to get off on the denial and the sex without orgasm is almost addicting. We literally fucked, intensely, for 2 - 3 hours the other day. that never happens when I’m allowed to cum.
being on the edge is so frustrating. you know you’re not allowed to cum, but the pleasure is so intense that you want to keep having sex."