life without a keyholder

[bluishBALLZ]

i dont have a keyholder but i want to have longterm chastity sessions any ideas for help

[Oldtimer]

May I ask why you want to have long term chastity if you are not in a relationship? Chastity is often for the benefit of a significant other. Whether to show her control of you in D/s play or to make you more attentive to her needs, more romantic, eager to please her, etc.. I know guys engage in many fetishes solo and I sometimes used to put nipple clips on myself when I masturbated, so I kind of get it but this is long term stuff, not just something to hurry along your orgasm. This is a sincere question so I would appreciate if you could enlighten me as to your reasons.

As for help, I can tell you that you are aiming too high. Ask yourself why would any woman want to hold a key to your chastity device long term. What do they get out of taking the key and putting it away for a year? Nothing, unless they are in a real relationship with you and can reap the benefits. I would lower my goal but first get yourself a girlfriend. Then you can introduce short term chastity without a device and make a big show of how it makes you more attentive to her, how you don't feel right about masturbating and rather only have your orgasms with her, etc.. Then you can bring up a chastity device to prolong the chastity period to benefit her even more. That is how I did it with a wife who most times thinks I am crazy for wanting to do the things I want to do in bed.

Despite the fantasies you read online, dominant women and those into long term chastity are very rare. Most women want a strong dominant mate who will have frequent PIV sex with them with mutual climaxes. That is what they read about in romantic novels and were told to expect. You have to do, what you want to do, gradually, unless you want to pay a pro to simply hold a key for a year. Might as well just get yourself a safety deposit box and keep the key there so if you wanted to cum you would have to drive cross town to get it. Same goal.

Having some experience with online sex play I can tell you how it usually goes. The guy finds someone willing to do what he wants. Most times it is a guy pretending to be a woman. Then they start and the guy gets disappointed because what he is being told is not exactly what he wanted and how he wanted it to go down. They he starts telling her what to say and she says bye as she is now your puppet instead of your puppet master. Most guys think that their playmate has the same idea of their fetish as they do. Nope unless you share the same mind. In a real relationship you both know each other well and it works better than with any stranger. So my advice is to first get a real girlfriend.

You should also have a spare key where you can get to it if needed. I do not think the idea of the key holder have all keys or knowing the location of the spare key is a good idea. There are many times that I cannot reach my wife for important matters and would never rely on having to call someone for my emergency key. That key is like your safe word only to be used as a last resort. If you think you can refrain from using the spare key then you need to ask yourself why you want chastity at all? No one is going to be able to force it on you, spare key or not. I can get off just rubbing my cage back and forth a little but I do not. After years of BDSM play I know how to get off without anyone touching me so a chastity device is more symbolic and a speed bump, rather than a fool proof device. This is my advice for what it is worth and good luck to you in finding what you want. Many of us have found the right person for us but you really need to get out there and meet as many woman as you can.

[Michele]

i dont have a keyholder but i want to have longterm chastity sessions any ideas for help

You could get an online Keyholder... our just strap that bad boy on and mail me the key &a self addressed stamped envelope... I'll keep it safe until a set date hehe if you need it before that you have to give me a good reason to send it back!

Really there are online Keyholder or sites that you join where others give you time or take away time I think... I know someone here has the link .

[celticqueens_sub]

There are a number of sites... Search engines are a great thing.. It is amazing what you can find...

[celticqueens_sub]

Ask yourself why would any woman want to hold a key to your chastity device long term. What do they get out of taking the key and putting it away for a year?

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You should also have a spare key where you can get to it if needed.

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Most women want a strong dominant mate who will have frequent PIV sex with them with mutual climaxes. That is what they read about in romantic novels and were told to expect.

Too much of a generalisation so don't like quote so much

[Michele]

It is possible to hold your own key. I liked the idea of a safe deposit box... that makes it hard to get out if you were just thinking about it on a whim. Yeah my Keyholder is Chastity Bank & Trust ~

Really freeze your key in ice or put it in a paint can... anything to make it difficult to get to and you can be your own Keyholder

Or like I said online there are plenty of sites. You don't need to be in a relationship to play this game... but, might be more fun to have someone to play with.

[Oldtimer]

Ask yourself why would any woman want to hold a key to your chastity device long term. What do they get out of taking the key and putting it away for a year?

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You should also have a spare key where you can get to it if needed.

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Most women want a strong dominant mate who will have frequent PIV sex with them with mutual climaxes. That is what they read about in romantic novels and were told to expect.

Too much of a generalisation so don't like quote so much

Back in my day it was not a generalization. That is what most women thought they wanted.