No intercourse at all as part of chastity

[Oldtimer]

I am in a little different situation than most. My wife and I lived the first 38 years of our 41 year marriage in a permanent threesome with her married girlfriend. We really never got a full answer from our g/f as to why her husband was OK with her having sex with us and staying over for weeks at a time. She kept her married life very separate from our threesome. We guessed that he was into cuckolding or bi-sexual but all she would say is they had a don't ask, don't tell policy but she was certain that he knew what was going on. I guess he did because she started making out with me once when he was over the house while my wife started to undress him. Our desire was to make him part of the fun but instead he freaked out and told our g/f that he wanted to leave. Many years passed before we saw him again but next time he accompanied the three of us to Vegas. He would gamble all day and night and only required that our g/f join him for dinner (with us present) and go back to their room when she was done with us. Very strange but there is a saying about not ruining a good thing.

She was also the only naturally dominate women I have known. Lots of women are dominate while play at BDSM but are submissive in their real life as I am the opposite. One of the recurring things was that she wanted to show my wife that I was her property so she would make sure to leave marks on me and hurt me enough so that I did not feel like having sex with my wife while she was back home. We progressed in this fashion throughout the years with her taking every opportunity to show my wife how degraded and perverted I was. My wife would sit in a chair and watch as she abused me and made me to demeaning things. Finally she told us that I was not to have intercourse with my wife, only her because she owned me. My wife has a bad hip and joints so she was not a big fan of intercourse to begin with and readily agreed to that restriction. I was only allowed to give my wife oral and only if she asked.

We did this the last 5 years of our threesome relationship gradually moving to less and less orgasms for me while the ladies indulged themselves whenever they wanted. Most of the time I could expect a hand job or being allowed to masturbate while they sexually tortured me once a week. So fast forward to 3 years ago when my wife and I relocated and our girlfriend and her husband were to follow and even put a down payment on a house near us. He ended up losing all the money from the sale of his business in the stock market playing options and had to go back to work as did our g/f. They were both licensed professionals only in the State they lived in so they had to remain. Before we left, our g/f asked that we do not have intercourse to remember her by and only can when she visits every 2-3 years. Since I got used to no intercourse, preferring oral instead as did my wife, plus the worsening of my wife's hip problem, it was no big deal to agree to her request. However during her last visit she promised me intercourse and on the last night she stopped before I could come telling me that she promised intercourse and not that I could cum. So it has been a very long time for me without intercourse.

It has become part of our chastity play and I consider all of our sex fetishes as play since we have real lives to live once the sex ends. So now I am denied intercourse as well as orgasms. On special occasions or if I have excited my wife with lots of moans and writhing around during her teasing, I will get oral sex. Most times I manually orgasm by her or myself depending if she is busy with her vibrator or me with my tongue.

Does anyone else include intercourse denial into their chastity life? I can understand how it can be exciting to have your partner ride you while you are not allowed to cum inside of her so I do not expect many to engage in our practice. Just curious.

[Michele]

We're do play that way and so do some others here with no PIV sex. We haven't made it very long because I can't live without it haha my toys just aren't the same and don't satisfy me when I need to feel him.

[Annes-sub]

Me and my wife/kh have played that way also. She gets to a point where she wants the real thing. But the hardest part for me is not having an O. So I have to focus on not having one and that's kinda hard after not having that feeling in awhile. So I have to stop and change up positions to keep under control. But she doesn't really get off in piv it's just a feeling if me in her. She will end with a as she calls it her button for an O as I end by watching. Then cleaned up an locked up..

[celticqueens_sub]

We're do play that way and so do some others here with no PIV sex. We haven't made it very long because I can't live without it haha my toys just aren't the same and don't satisfy me when I need to feel him.

CQ loves intercouse so we don't have the denial of intercourse, just male orgasm. CQ puts EMLA cream on my frenum and certain parts of my penis we know are very sensitive. You have to apply just the right amount otherwise their is a risk of erection softness which is pointless... This has the effect of numbing me to the point that orgasm is very hard for me to achieve, which then allows CQ to have as much as she wants without me coming. One of the effects it has is to really slow down the build to orgasm for me so I can control it for much much longer, I tell CQ if I am close and she will either allow it or deny it. Even if I am close it is very controlable, and the denial becomes really hot.

In this way she treats me as a sex toy (which is a whole other set of feelings and emotions around submission)

[mellyshubby]

CQ puts EMLA cream on my frenum and certain parts of my penis we know are very sensitive.

We have used Orajel a few times. What is EMLA cream?

[TwistedMister]

Intercourse/PIV has become a rare treat for me during chastity periods. Mrs. Twisted greatly enjoys PIV but says that toys aren't quite fulfilling as the real thing, which left her a bit of a dilemma since she also enjoys keeping me locked and denied. Lately, she has been giving voice to the idea more and more, of her having one or more 'boyfriends' to fulfill that pleasure for her. Initially, the idea was merely fantasy fodder as she had strong inhibitions against it.

However, it appears that her desires may be becoming stronger than her inhibitions. A week ago Saturday, in the evening she had mentioned having some playtime on Sunday, but just before bed she started talking about having some that night. This is my busy time of year at work and I was very tired so I responded somewhat negatively, preferring more the idea of waiting until the next day when I had had some sleep. She fell asleep almost immediately after getting into bed...and then began dreaming. She was thrusting her hips and grunting like she was engaged in some aggressive intercourse, I wanted to go to sleep but her movements were disturbing me so I tried to put my arm around her and cuddle to see if that would calm her down. Then she started talking- "You turned me down, so now you're going to have to watch my 'boyfriend' fuck me while *you* stay locked up." It ended up being quite some time before I got to sleep that night.

If her inhibitions break down any further, my opportunities for intercourse could become even more rare...

[RegularJoe]

For most of our long married life my sexual focus was on intercourse, and my orgasm. My problem is premature ejaculation; if I would try really hard I might last 10 minutes with a lot of 'stopping and going' and near misses. Physicians dealing with such matters consider premature ejaculation to be male orgasm occurring under 2 minutes, and that 4 minutes or longer to be 'normal', which is ridiculous from my wife's (or any other woman who enjoys PIV) perspective. At even 10 minutes of intercourse she was just getting 'warmed up' and the frequent pauses didn't help any, either.

I suspect that, with the very common male problem of coming long before their partner, it's the reason 70% - 80% of woman never experience orgasm through intercourse. Probably doesn't matter much from an evolutionary point of view, but it undoubtedly doesn't support much female sexual satisfaction (though you'd think from a review of popular literature, romantic movies, and porn) that intercourse always satisfies female lust.

We went for many years that way, though I generally made sure she had an orgasm via oral stimulation after I had mine, and everything seemed fine, though I later found out it truly wasn't. She had a number of short affairs, most of them with various coworkers of hers. They were as disappointing in terms of intercourse as I was, which is heartening, though in a pretty sad way....later, when I found out, I felt vindicated (and powerfully aroused...a reaction she quietly took note of), though I should have considered that her PIV frustration wasn't just going to disappear.

About three years ago she started an intimate relationship with one of my friends, this time with one of my coworkers; a young man who I golfed, fished, and rode bikes with on a frequent basis. Eventually, she simply revealed it to me, though I could see it coming...and my feelings alternated between subdued anger at betrayal (really, self-anger that I couldn't provide what she needed in bed), jealousy and, once again', intense arousal).

The part that hurt the most (and still does) is that she is sharing her affection with another man...for Beth (like most women) can't simply be intimate in a physical sense; it requires a strong emotional connection. I not only have to share her body, I have to share a place in her heart....and that's the area where cuckold fantasies totally depart from the actual experience.

I had, for at least 5 years, harbored an interest in male chastity devices...along with a lot of other gear that fit my submissive sexual orientation. Beth is anything but vanilla and had a pretty good collection of 'toys for ladies', so I felt very comfortable telling her about it. She wasn't at all shocked, just adamant that I wasn't going to have one...that it might impair my already shaky intercourse capabilities, and what little PIV enjoyment she did have (this part in a more sensitive manner, but with the same intent). With a lot of persistence (and the reassurances of this forum) she relented, and agreed I could try one...a decision that she now strongly embraces.

In retrospect it's pretty obvious why she had a change of mind; she'd finally found a young man who could provide her frequent orgasms through intercourse (not because of size, but simply because he can last long enough to sometimes give her several in a session), and my inabilties became far less of an issue. I suppose she's grown to love him as well....and that he's reciprocated in like fashion...because he's become increasingly possessive of her affections.

We seldom have intercourse anymore, and when it occurs, it's not supposed to end in my orgasm (I slip up occasionally) though we still have plenty of sexual interaction....but the orgasms are reserved for her and her lover. I believe the fact that I am locked in chastity and that my sexual needs are unmet allows me to enjoy the carnal aspects of their relationship, because in those rare instances I'm allowed orgasm in their company I find that my perspective instantly changes from intense arousal to just wanting to go anywhere but where I'm at....I don't want to even be in the same room.

Perhaps if this had occurred a long time ago I might have become habituated to my lack of PIV orgasms (or lack of many orgasms at all, for that matter) but this relationship is still somewhat new, developing....and she still rides me sometimes to, as she bluntly puts it, "Remind me of what I am missing". At my age I very much doubt it will ever far from my mind as the 'Mount Everest' of my sexual need....and probably just as unobtainable.

[TheToy]

MY wife enjoys being penetrated during the build up to her orgasms, so for the past three years or so I have never been allowed to cum in her. Normally she will have her fun and enjoy her orgasm with me inside, without me having any orgasm.

[Oldtimer]

Me and my wife/kh have played that way also. She gets to a point where she wants the real thing. But the hardest part for me is not having an O. So I have to focus on not having one and that's kinda hard after not having that feeling in awhile. So I have to stop and change up positions to keep under control. But she doesn't really get off in piv it's just a feeling if me in her. She will end with a as she calls it her button for an O as I end by watching. Then cleaned up an locked up..

I think it is over 4 years since I had any piv sex. I have a powerful urge to do so though and one of the reasons I told my wife I wanted to try orgasm denial. Make the situation part of your sex play more or less.

[celticqueens_sub]

CQ puts EMLA cream on my frenum and certain parts of my penis we know are very sensitive.

We have used Orajel a few times. What is EMLA cream?

It is a mild topical anaesthetic. In the UK you can buy it over the counter and online.
http://www.emla.co.uk/