Discretion versus indiscretion

[chastityrandy]

Forgive me if this topic has been covered, but I have been thinking about a paradox at least as it pertains to my experience so far with chastity. For me the attraction to chastity is the psychological excitement that comes from being submissive to my KH/wife. I would derive no pleasure from chastity by being my own KH. As a result, I also am turned on by the possibility someone might find out or strongly suspect she is controlling me. Therefore, I would love if she would wear the key on an anklet. A public display of her control of me would be an incredible thrill. She on the other hand would never do this because she would be embarrassed and very uncomfortable. I also have selected a cd that won't show when dressed. I have a cb6ks which is very discrete. I obviously can't walk around with my locked up dick hanging out so there is no way for any one to know. I guess it will just have to be a fantasy in the back of my mind, but have others thought about this as well? Do any of you who have kh's that don't mind wearing the ket? Has anyone ever figured out that you KH controls you?

In my fantasy, I particularly want women to find out. It would be awesome to find out my control was a part of their gossip!

[locked4her55]

I would love if she would wear the key on an anklet. A public display of her control of me would be an incredible thrill. She on the other hand would never do this because she would be embarrassed and very uncomfortable.

I asked once if my wife would wear our key and she said she would be uncomfortable wearing a key that size. This is when I purchased a diamond crusted key just like my Avatar that she wears often on a necklace.

As for others finding out? Never really cared one way or the other.

[Tom Allen]

Despite my attention-whoring on the internet, I'm a rather private person in real life. I don't have any desire for anyone - wife's friends, family members, hot sister-in-law, office mates, hair cutter, etc. - to find out.

[celticqueens_sub]

I agree with Tom. Also as pointed out before in Europe a key on a ankle chain is seen in the kink community that the women is seeking sex from other men as her husband is caged by her. I'm pretty sure it means the same in most places so she might attract unwanted or unintended advances?

[Tom Allen]

It cracks me up that there is a large enough "community" that actually needs to have a visual signal like this.

[chastityrandy]

It cracks me up that there is a large enough "community" that actually needs to have a visual signal like this.

Glad i was able to amuse. You crack me up too.

[TwistedMister]

I would derive no pleasure from chastity by being my own KH. As a result, I also am turned on by the possibility someone might find out or strongly suspect she is controlling me. Therefore, I would love if she would wear the key...

There would be no thrill for me either, absent the psychological aspect of having a 'Keyholder' who is in control. Mrs. Twisted likes to wear the key on a gold chain so that it nestles between her breasts. A number of people (mostly women) have asked her about it. She says that her usual responses are rather cryptic, but I think that one of her co-workers knows or strongly suspects what it is really for.

I also have had the [erotic] fantasy of being 'exposed' to a limited number of her friends, to be examined and teased by them, and perhaps to make use of my oral talents. Some variations on this involve being subjected to certain somewhat humiliating activities.

[Tom Allen]

I also have had the [erotic] fantasy of being 'exposed' to a limited number of her friends, to be examined and teased by them, and perhaps to make use of my oral talents. Some variations on this involve being subjected to certain somewhat humiliating activities.

Interestingly, I don't have any of those thoughts about my wife's friends or coworkers. Mainly it's because she's much more attractive than they are. But also, none of them strike me as being kinky, which makes it hard for me to think about them sexually.

[locked4her55]

I also have had the [erotic] fantasy of being 'exposed' to a limited number of her friends, to be examined and teased by them, and perhaps to make use of my oral talents. Some variations on this involve being subjected to certain somewhat humiliating activities.

Interestingly, I don't have any of those thoughts about my wife's friends or coworkers. Mainly it's because she's much more attractive than they are. But also, none of them strike me as being kinky, which makes it hard for me to think about them sexually.

Have to go along with Tom on this one. I have no desire what-so-ever to want to do anything sexually with any of my wife's female friends or mine. It's why I really have no reason to "out myself".

She will wear the small skeleton key I gave her not to proclaim to the world she is a Keyholder. She wears it as a reminder of my predicament.

[TwistedMister]

I don't actually *know* many of the Mrs.' co-workers or what they look like, but in my fantasies they are always attractive. I've never met the one whom I think might suspect, though I have corresponded with her by e-mail- she might be at least a little kinky, she has a 'party-plan' side business selling sex toys, including some light BDSM stuff. I've purchased a few things from her. (One of the fantasy possibilities that has crossed my mind has her adding MC devices to her stock, and my wife and her using me as a 'demonstrator' for them and other toys at her parties...which, of course, turns into something more focused once the business part of the show is done. One variation has me being hooded and never actually seeing the women present, and never knowing who they might be.)