As many of you know my KH and I are not intimate (sadly!) but we do talk a lot and she brought up an interesting point...
We wonder whether there are couples who actually depend upon enforced male chastity for birth control. I can imagine a situation where the husband introduces chastity play to the wife who then finds that she not only likes it but loves the idea that she can completely control their reproduction without drugs or implants or whatever.
I read one blog somewhere (I can't tell you where) where the woman did stop taking oral contraceptives. She said since she was completely controlling her husband's orgasms, what's the point? They're expensive and also have a libido reducing effect (along with other side effects).
I had my tubes tied 15 years ago (5 years after my daughter was born) and I have to say, I like being "chem-free" --- no extraneous hormones from OCPs. I can feel the difference in my body.
locked2011 wrote:We wonder whether there are couples who actually depend upon enforced male chastity for birth control. I can imagine a situation where the husband introduces chastity play to the wife who then finds that she not only likes it but loves the idea that she can completely control their reproduction without drugs or implants or whatever.
Yeah, because the rhythm method has worked so well for people.
Actually, I don't see this as a way to enhance the intimacy between partners; I see this becoming more of a chore-oriented control.
Re-reading my post, perhaps I should clarify what I was thinking. I wouldn't recommend chastity *alone* -- but, if a woman is controlling her husband's orgasms to the point that he's only coming once or twice a month, and she is aware of her cycle, then perhaps for those rare orgasmic moments, rubbers and foam would be sufficient (and effective). She might not need the 24/7 protection of OCPs.
It's been so long since I've had to worry about birth control, I've kind of lost touch with the preventing pregnancy mindset. There are some advantages to growing older! LOL.
I think this is a very interesting idea. I'd be VERY concerned that the woman was very strict about chastity, though, because a moment of weakness is all it would take for this to be a very bad idea.
But count it as another possible benefit of chastity.
One thing for all the males here: once you have reached the point where you positively can say "I don't want more kids", treat yourself to a vasectomy. It's done in minutes, the hardest part are the two pinpricks with the anesthetic, and you only have to abstain from sexual activity for a week.
No more fiddling with rubbers, no stress with OCPs, no side-effects from hormones. And it is a much lighter procedure than tying a woman's tubes or removal of ovaries.
The main side effect for me was that I had to relearn how to prevent my own orgasm. Being inside her "naked" made me much more sensitive and often led to premature ejaculations.
One of the positive effects of being in a device has been the constant slight stimulation, which has de-sensitized me, so although I am much more turned on towards my wife I have developed much more control and "stamina" when we have PIV sex.
My wife and I have been using NFP (Natural Family Planning) for 18 years. We have five kids (all planned) all spaced with number of years apart we intended. Living our faith means no artificial contraception is allowed. It also means complete abstinence during her times of fertility. I have no intention ever of getting a vasectomy and she has no intention of getting her tubes tied. We have never used anything but NFP.
I always had a difficult time during those abstinence periods and would privately 'take care' of my urges as they arose. This was something that I always knew was wrong and wanted to change that habit.
When I discovered chastity devices that actually work, I bought one to use as 1) and aid in keeping my hands off myself; and 2) a visible sign of my complete dedication of our sexuality to each other. That meant the only time I was allowed to climax is inside her and no place else. I was open with her about my problems and she was very receptive in helping me. Now, with the help of wearing a CB, she has taken full control and ownership of things and our sex is ever so more amazing. We cannot believe that after so many years that it could improve so much.
So, yes, we practice chastity as a means to avoid pregnancy. In turn, it has enhanced our marriage exponentially.
That was a wonderful post you made! I liked it for so many reasons. To me, there is nothing wrong with being devout. I know the Kink World online tends to be secular, so I am very pleased to see how such a great kink can fit in with a religious mindset.
Similarly, male chastity fits nicely into the Jewish religion. Observant Jews have a series of sexual practice "rules" all designed to keep the semen for its intended purpose: to make a baby. Essentially ALL other spillings of the semen are forbidden. Male chastity works beautifully here as well.
Thanks for your post. I think God approves of our kink! ( I am sure any other kink that involves a loving couple doing things that keep them together as a loving couple as well. )
Certainly, God wants us to enjoy sex as well as the other many gifts he has given us. The "kink" as it were, is fine so long as we keep the focus on each other. That is exactly what chastity has done for me. It places my entire focus on her. We are not into long-term denial or D/s stuff, and I am not interested in porn (as I once was). I am just totally in to my wife now. It's great. Since I no longer initiate sex and it's all left up to her, it has been the greatest thing ever.
I know that there are many folks from different walks of life here. Many practice chastity for their own reasons. Whether the motive is religious or not, the end-result is the same. That is, the natural order of life is preserved when the seed stays in its place and only goes where it is supposed to go.
