KH Wife into ruined orgasms now

[Anomaly]

So Starr is really getting into ruining the few orgasms that I get now. The other day she managed to ruin 4 within a period of 10 minutes, and I was completely emptied without fully achieving a full orgasm. It felt good but when she would stop the pleasure would go away and it would be immediatly unsatisfying and painful. I like that im not getting to the caged so long im dripping pre stage now but this is driving me absolutely crazy. I would rather be edged until pre dripping only, and she knows this and likes to make me suffer anyways. I walk away empty but so sensative and twitching the rest of the day and the next day is even worse.

Anyone else's KH do this?

[G_H]

Mrs. G_H has taken to this like a fish to water. The most she has done is 2 in a row, but I totally understand what you mean about the effects. I have crazy mixed feelings about it. On the one hand, it's a release of sorts. On the other hand, it's SO unsatisfying!

[fuzzydunlop]

I don't know what it is, but my wife has been intrigued by ruined orgams more than most other aspects of the kink I like. We talked about this a lot, but have tried it more the last few months (we have played with orgasm denial for years). The two most intense ones I have taken some planning and:

1. We had really hot sex with her on top. I held my breath toward the end, and before hand, told her to sit down on me and not let me thrust when I let my breath go at orgasm.

2. She gave me a great hand job and let go right when I came.

I think she likes watching my reaction. She gets a lot out of watching me react to things she does.

[Tom Allen]

For a little over a year, Mrs. Edge has been ruining them with the squeeze method (BTW, Ms Ivey has a few posts about that on her blog). "Stifling" is perhaps a better description, but it's essentially the same thing. There's no real feeling of "Ah, yes!" and you're left feeling frustrated. Except for three or four special occasions this past year, this is what she "allows" me.

It's been an... interesting year because of that.

[celticqueens_sub]

CQ has become so atuned to my response that she can really devestate an orgasm, let alone ruin it. Further she has also 'trained' me to ruin my own, like she says, why should she do all the damn work. Amazingly, these are really tough to do. Clearly you know your own response and can feel it building up, it is really difficult to stop when you are so close to the magic moment. CQ's other method is to cane me across the frenum at the crucial point... I can't tell you how fucking painful that is and the last thing on your mind is orgasm.. I do ejaculate but there is no pleasure or subsequent relief at all. I do fear those sessions. Being a sub can be well difficult at times!!!

[Locked by LRC]

Tom; on Mistress Ivey's reader comments, I think it's under yours, what did you think about the ear plug. I think this would be painful and could possible cause damage.

[locked4her55]

Wish my wife was a little more into this. Like most here, I have to ask permission before I'm allowed to cum. There was once when we were having PIV when I asked, told her I was close and she quickly pulled away creating a ruined orgasm. Other than that it's pretty much been non existent. She is great at T&D but I would love for a little more in the RO category.

[Tom Allen]

Tom; on Mistress Ivey's reader comments, I think it's under yours, what did you think about the ear plug. I think this would be painful and could possible cause damage.

I saw that comment. I know that anytime you're preventing the pump from pumping, you have the risk of hydraulic damage. However, there are alternate over-flow routes (i.e., into the bladder) that should mitigate that problem.

Thing is, I'm not a doctor, or a urologist, so I can't say for certain. From what I've read, it's *probably* not a problem for most guys. I do know that, for me, it's less uncomfortable when the flow is blocked further down my shaft than near the tip. Also, when Mrs. Edge squeeze, she's squeezing most of the lower part itself, so I don't get the benefit of those muscle contractions (which probably ruins/stifles things further), leading to a bit more frustration.

[Tom Allen]

Wish my wife was a little more into this. Like most here, I have to ask permission before I'm allowed to cum.

Same here, or at least, I have to give her some warning. I find that I get a bit anxious when it gets to that point, though. When I *know* she's going to ruin it, I don't have to pay quite as close attention to my internal monitoring system. When I don't know, I warn her, but she generally squeezes down anyway; I find that I get nervous that I'll actually have an orgasm that's not authorized (even though she's right there). IOW, I keep waiting for her to stop it at the last millisecond.

The last time she allowed it, though, was almost 6 months ago, so I probably should just learn to relax about this.

[celticqueens_sub]

I saw that comment. I know that anytime you're preventing the pump from pumping, you have the risk of hydraulic damage. However, there are alternate over-flow routes (i.e., into the bladder) that should mitigate that problem.

This is called 'retrograde' ejaculation. There is divided opinion on whether this is an problem or not. Isn't there always? Search the web for it. Here is one of thousands of links:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/retrog ... on/DS00913

The general consensus seems to be an increased risk of infertiltiy. CQ never blocks the ejaculation during a runied orgasm I am too worried about the hydraulic problems and won't take the risk. However if blocking the ejaculation doesn't present anyone with a problem then I guess it is not going to cause an issue (geddit??? )