Sleep T&D

[BethK]

I woke up to the aftermath of what was a brand-new experience for me.

I got up, and my beloved chaste hubby was even more lovy-dovy than usual, and wanted to make me a nice breakfast. He doesn't cook much, but he does pretty good on breakfast and some other things in his repitoire.

He kissed me and said, "Thank you for last night. I had so much fun."

That puzzled me. I was tired and went to bed well ahead of him. I am not aware of when he came to bed. I was "out" for about 9 hours then, as far as I can tell.

What he says happened was that when he came to bed, I was all over him. I played with him for awhile, "edged" him, kept him very close to cumming but I wouldn't let him actually do it. He says I kept it up for a long time - an hour maybe. Then, turned over and went "back to sleep".

Well, I didn't really wake up! I was doing this while soundly asleep. I've heard of "sleep sex" incidents, but I don't use Ambien (TM) which has been implicated in several cases of that which went horribly wrong, or, in fact, any prescription medications at all.

I guess this whole T&D thing as not just become who my conscious self is, but has found its way into my subconscious too. I guess it's one way to ensure faithfulness in the KH. How could I go up to somebody and say, "Come here often? What's your sign? Are you into male chastity?" That third question would get most guys to run screaming off into the night... but then, there are some percentage who have been fantasizing about it for years.

The only way this could happen is that since having some bad experiences with CDs of a few kinds, we've mostly gone on "the honor system", where he is not allowed to cum, is not allowed to play with himself unless I'm there and I direct him to do so. I don't think I could get out a key, unlock, and remove a CD and remain asleep.

I plan another T&D session today, so that I can be awake to enjoy it.

[Aarkey]

LOL - the sleeping domme

I had a similar thing a few years ago from the other side, I had gone to sleep, my wife came to bed. I evidently started getting very cuddly, asked her if she'd be up for a quickie. She said "No, you need to stay in the belt." So then I asked her "How about a slowie?"

Again, I was denied. Similar to you, I slept through the whole thing.

[poor]

I generally sleep very soundly. When I get to that point in the cycle that I think I may cum spontaneously (about 2 months) I also develop an irrational fear that Chatelaine will just reach over and quickly end the cycle, leaving me to explain & face the consequences in the morning.

This hasn't been helped by her habit of deciding at 2am that she wants to play. The penis is hard & ready a long time before I'm anywhere near awake.

[TwistedMister]

Mrs. Twisted does things in her sleep too, sexual, going to the toilet, going to get something to drink. I used to not sleep well when we were at a hotel because she had a tendency to go hunting for a soda machine, more than once I've had to retrieve her from a hotel hallway, stark nekkid...I don't know where she expected to pull money from to operate the machine, apparently not all cognitive functions are active during sleep action events. Now I just make sure that there is a drink available *before* we go to sleep.

A few nights ago she started getting sexually active after going to sleep. I knew I wouldn't get much rest if I didn't help her out. Eventually, she woke up from what she thought had been only a dream which she seemed to be enjoying immensely. Later, she related some of the dream, which she said involved multiple men pleasuring her. When she is fully awake, she insists that she doesn't want anything like that...but she sure as hell seems to enjoy it while she's sleeping.

[fuzzydunlop]

I could ramble on for hours about the odd relationship between sex and sleep in my life, but will try to be brief.

I have had a non-Rem sleep disorder and various problems with insominia almost my entire adult life. The parasominias/sleep walking episodes I have range anywhere from amusing hallucinations, to paranoid delusions. The symptoms are more terrifying when I am more stressed out with life. When I am in a good chastity groove, the symptoms subside.

When I first met my spouse in college, I wasn't very stressed out. When we first started to sleep together, I would sometimes start screwing around with her in a half awake-half asleep dream like state. The hallucinations were more amusing back then. Once, I mistook her nordic track for a camera and thought she was filming us. That was awesome.

As real life's responsibilities have mounted, my episodes can be more terrifying. Certain things trigger my episodes including: stress, caffiene, odd schedules, late exercises....and....sex. Tease and denial actually seems to help calm me down, if it resolves by being kinda lovey-dovey at the end of the night. Some of the most control I have had over sleep has coincided with long term orgasm denial. Of course, I am usually less stressed with life when I am interested in such things.

I do control things with ambien and melatonin. I have heard about people having sleep sex, but I have the opposite result. Things are usually much more contolled with ambien. I think it matters what one's unique make up is, as well as the type of sleep disorder.

I do notice that sex is occassionally very good on ambien. I think it calms me down a bit, and takes the edge off. A little less intense, but in a good way. Again, all depends on the person.

[Anymouse]

Miss BethK seems to have turned into a nightly domina these days. My only protection from her is my chastity belt. (::

Last night, after the long session we had, she spooned with me (me to the inside), and when she reached around and hit the steel cup that prevents me from self-harm, she was almost frustrated (if you can be frustrated while you sleep). Her groping around woke me up.

As for medications and sleep and sex, my own epilepsy meds when I first started them killed anything resembling sexual drive (and anything resembling wakefulness). Now they seem to have no effect (I am an addict now, I guess).

[Sarah]

This is actually more common than you might think, assuming not all the billion emails I get every day on this and other matters are made up nonsense.

I don't remember this happening to John and me, although we've often done the sleepy-sex thing when neither of us is completely awake. Something is working away, though, because we don't break denial.

Sarah xxx

[BethK]

I've found myself having "sleepy sex" with other partners in my past... or tried when we were "too sleepy" and ended up going to sleep in the middle of the act.

In my own case, it is certainly not a medication issue, since I don't take prescription medications regularly. I haven't had a prescription for anything in a long time. We cannot blame pharmacology for my sleep-groping or sleep T&D or my "frustrations" at finding Anymouse's bits in a stainless-steel can.

[TwistedMister]

Sometimes, in her sleep Mrs. Twisted rolls over, grasps the cage and whispers "Mine".

[isi]

I woke up to the aftermath of what was a brand-new experience for me.

I got up, and my beloved chaste hubby was even more lovy-dovy than usual, and wanted to make me a nice breakfast. He doesn't cook much, but he does pretty good on breakfast and some other things in his repitoire.

He kissed me and said, "Thank you for last night. I had so much fun."

That puzzled me. I was tired and went to bed well ahead of him. I am not aware of when he came to bed. I was "out" for about 9 hours then, as far as I can tell.

What he says happened was that when he came to bed, I was all over him. I played with him for awhile, "edged" him, kept him very close to cumming but I wouldn't let him actually do it. He says I kept it up for a long time - an hour maybe. Then, turned over and went "back to sleep".

Well, I didn't really wake up! I was doing this while soundly asleep. I've heard of "sleep sex" incidents, but I don't use Ambien (TM) which has been implicated in several cases of that which went horribly wrong, or, in fact, any prescription medications at all.

I guess this whole T&D thing as not just become who my conscious self is, but has found its way into my subconscious too. I guess it's one way to ensure faithfulness in the KH. How could I go up to somebody and say, "Come here often? What's your sign? Are you into male chastity?" That third question would get most guys to run screaming off into the night... but then, there are some percentage who have been fantasizing about it for years.

The only way this could happen is that since having some bad experiences with CDs of a few kinds, we've mostly gone on "the honor system", where he is not allowed to cum, is not allowed to play with himself unless I'm there and I direct him to do so. I don't think I could get out a key, unlock, and remove a CD and remain asleep.

I plan another T&D session today, so that I can be awake to enjoy it.

I'm chastity of our wedding 12 years ago and I am happy to be like this