Extended use of honor system

[fuzzydunlop]

Well, it's Day 21 on the honor system with no O whatsoever. I've only made it this far a handful of times in my adult life (once about 50 days, a couple of other 20+ stints). We've had intercourse without me reaching an O a couple of times, and engaged in various other activities, which is a lot different than the 50 day desert I once crossed. My drive seems evened out, but I am also under some stress.

I've thought about experimenting with a device, but honestly, with us, my biggest motivation is when she gets invested, and my desire not to let her down. Despite the not having an O we have had some crazy hot experiences lately, which also keep me on the level. She seems to get into me doing a lot of work.

So, I am having some mixed feelings. The original deal was me trying to wait until she hit some hormonal climax (likely later this week). After that, we are going on vacation, which has some appeal as a point to wait to. Good orgasm, ruined orgasm, or no orgasm at all? What is in store?

[hot_toddy_dog]

Honor system can work even for extended periods (I did like 500 days once with only one slip up). If you can have intercourse without O, you must have some practice, gotten your signals and teamwork together. Nice job.

To me, the device makes the experience a lot more visceral. It actually feels good and enjoyable to wear, and gives me the feedback to my arousal that I began to miss when performing oral sex on her. We transitioned a few years ago to zero-intercourse, 100% goddess worship and although it was still fun and arousing, I began to miss the stimulation and feedback from intercourse. The device brings that element back and leaves both of us equally satisfied after our sexual encounters now (even though only one of us orgasms).

If you regularly incorporate intercourse into your love-making, you may find a device gets in the way. If on the other hand, intercourse is a rare event, a device can help provide the feedback and "investment" you might be looking for. Her - and your own - investment may wax and wane over time and that is normal and natural. I find that a chastity device keeps the investment going solid. This was a major game changer for me, it takes the arousal level I could muster naturally up to a solid 10 even just a few days after a release, whereas before it would take me 2+ weeks to get back to a 7-8, and 2+ months to get to a 9-10.

I always found vacation orgasms enjoyable, and didn't mind a release, especially as it helped take my mind off sex and actually enjoy my vacation. I can be a horny sex-crazed doggy all I want at home, but you're not at the beach/ski resort/underground spelunking adventure/insert vacation of choice here everyday. At one point, our deal was I would ONLY orgasm while we were on vacation - which was a nice incentive to take a break from work and actually plan a vacation instead of continually working to death.

[J Random reader]

Well, it's Day 21 on the honor system with no O whatsoever. I've only made it this far a handful of times in my adult life

Congrats! Ain't it a rush? I'm on the honor system too. & I kink on each break being longer. And the misses pointing it out. Maybe tongue in cheek. No idea why. But it does something for me. For example -- we do weekends mostly. We "break" this April Fools Day. If she waits until Sunday -- March is only my second calendar month "off", no break. But the second of many more to come. Would I rather have a weekend of fun? Or hit that goal again? But only have one day for orgasms?

She seems to get into me doing a lot of work.

So, I am having some mixed feelings. The original deal was me trying to wait until she hit some hormonal climax (likely later this week). After that, we are going on vacation, which has some appeal as a point to wait to. Good orgasm, ruined orgasm, or no orgasm at all? What is in store?

Carnac says "Fifteen, love". "Goose egg". "Balls of blue". "It'll be a cold day in the Caribbean".

Stay busy. Do a lot of work. Won't she be glad you did? Then enjoy your vakay! Won't you be glad you did, after? Is there a question here?

[fuzzydunlop]

Our streak lasted 24 days this time and coincided with her being at her peak. We were going to wait a little longer, but it turned her on to watch me struggle to contain myself for a period of time and then ultimately loose control. It was one of the better ways to end a good streak because we more or less seduced ourselves into it like a couple of horny teenagers. "We won't go that far until later". "I will just put it in for a minute.". "I will stop now". "You better not stop now...I want you to come."

It was hot for me that me coming was hot for her.