I'm not a sub but...

[Chuck]

As I knelt at the foot of our bed massaging KH's feet last night I couldn't help but be aroused at the smell and feel of her feet and how beautiful she looked when I looked up at her.

I've always been disgusted by feet and would only massage them if asked. She knew I didn't like feet and therefore didn't ask. I figure she got maybe one foot-rub per year on average until male chastity began in our household. I can't count how many times in the last 3 months I've jumped at the chance to massage her feet, or offered a foot-rub.

I still don't see myself as a sub, I could certainly understand the appeal, as I knelt at the feet of my goddess and smelled, kissed and massaged her feet while my cock strained at it's confines knowing that I would get no reciprocal attention that night.

After the fact It seems odd and I wonder where my mind went to be able to bring me to such a place.

[Atone]

Funny how things change.

I'm not much in to feet and my wife doesn't usually care for it either. One day a few months ago we were sitting in the living room, I was in the wingback chair and she was sitting on the piano bench in her bare feet. I asked if I could kiss her feet. I got on my knees and spent 5 or 10 minutes in total bliss, we both enjoyed it very much. Tried again one time since then and it didn't work for either of us. Must have been the moment.

[celticqueens_sub]

After the fact It seems odd and I wonder where my mind went to be able to bring me to such a place.

Sub space...

[danj]

I have submissive tendencies, and no question that chastity greatly increases my sub feelings. I also have increased desire to enjoy my wife's feet.

I think most chaste men find increased submissive feelings towards their wife/KH.

[hotrob99]

It's great to see several of you write and share the same sentiment and thoughts that I have on the subject of being "sub". I am in no way sub in my daily life...I have a high powered job with lots of authority and lead a lot of people. However, in my sex life, I have never been happier than when being submissive to my lady...either just focusing on her (oral, massages, buying her nice things) or being her cuckold or in chastity. I love it when the sex and the sex play is about her pleasure...and it's also part selfish because I enjoy seeing her pleasured so much! We are only a couple of days into my being in chastity...and already I've given her more massaging than she's gotten in months and I know she'll be wanting a foot rub soon as well. I get plenty of reward...she will release me soon because she simply needs my cock (almost as much I need to give it to her)...but she will also enjoy locking me back up so I know she's in control of my cock!

As someone else in this forum wrote, wouldn't it be cool to sit around a dinner table sharing stories and meeting each other?! So many of us seem to have so much in common. It is sometimes a lonely feeling to have these "secret" fantasies...but I'm thankful to have a lady who understands and appreciates AND to have found a forum to share some good dialogue about it all!

[danj]

I am in no way sub in my daily life...

I think this is also very common. It certainly applies to me!

[TwistedMister]

There have been some studies on the subject, and it is not that uncommon for men who are in positions of considerable power in 'real life' to have the desire to be dominated sexually. There have been some well(?) publicized cases of 'authority figures' having their secret penchant for being dominated exposed. Psychologically speaking, it may serve as a 'relief valve', where the pressures of being in a position of power and responsibility are relieved by experiencing a completely opposite situation in which they can abdicate responsibility for their actions.

I am also not 'submissive' in 'real life' (far from it) but I find that forced control and sexual domination by women is extremely erotic for me.

When I was younger, I never had any particular feelings about feet one way or the other. But, when I discovered that my wife got turned-on by having her feet kissed and licked (as well as practically every other part of her body...I don't think that there is any part of her that I can't turn into an erogenous zone) and having her toes sucked (which she is somewhat embarrassed to admit is a 'turn on' for her, but the results cannot be denied) they became erotic for me. I can get quite aroused by being required to rub/massage/kiss/lick her feet.

[poor]

I prefer to think of it as a counterbalance rather than a release valve; I don't 'have' to go sub to deal with the stresses of work.

For me it's sexual submission first and foremost and although it's part of me, it's a part that's easy to leave at home which can't always be said for the work side of my persona. Chatelaine understands that sometimes it can take several hours 'take my work head off' and be the one who gets told what to do. Whether she puts up with that is a different matter but one of her tools for getting me 'home' quicker is to have me remove her boots and socks and get her a drink when her shift ends.

Prior to owning the Steelworxx she would also let me remove the device once I was dressed for work and put it back on before changing back into 'civvies'. Now, if I'm shackled the DCR stays on for work. It's not helped with the work/home thing as the line between the 2 states is less clear now but I don't get to make that choice (which is how I want it to be).

[locked4her55]

I still don't see myself as a sub, I could certainly understand the appeal, as I knelt at the feet of my goddess and smelled, kissed and massaged her feet while my cock strained at it's confines knowing that I would get no reciprocal attention that night.

I agree with many of you here. My wife has always loved to have her feet rubbed. I could care less, did nothing for me. As a matter of fact I would try and get out of doing it if I could. I remember one time before we started this chastity thing she said that having her feet rubbed with lotion was almost as good as sex! Now maybe that was because sex wasn't that great for her and that would have been my fault

I don't believe I've developed a foot fetish but now I think feet are a very sexy part of a womans body I happily massage them, kiss them and lick them. Hell I've even been caught sucking on a few toes, and while doing this I'm straining in my confinement. Last month we were watching TV and she asked If she gave me some lotion would I rub her feet. I looked at her and said, "I believe you need to think about what you are ASKING me to do". She thought for a moment and then plunked down the lotion in my lap and said "you need to rub my feet now". I gladly began. I also don't consider myself a "sub" but when it comes to my wife/KH, I am here to please.

I recently watched a TV series on Showtime called House of Lies starring actress Kristen Bell (very hot). She was in a situation where a client asked her if he could rub her feet. She stated "I would let a homeless schizophrenic rub my feet"! A great scene if you love woman's feet!

[fuzzydunlop]

For me enjoying certain sexual activities doesn't seem as much of an "identity" thing as it once was. In my fantasies and for a long time, being "submissive" is a turn on. I definately don't have a submissive personality outside the bedroom. Early in our relationship, I was worried over whether my wife and I were completely compatible, because me being aggressive turns her on. We've now been together for many, many years, and I am a lot more confident than I was a long time ago at being aggressive and topping her in the bedroom with various mild bdsm activities, much to her delight and mine too.

So, we've been able to play more lately with power and control, and I can enjoy both ends of it. Does that make me "submissive" "dominant" or a "switch"? I guess I don't look at it this way as much anymore. It is more like there are a collection of activities that I enjoy with my wife that don't really define me.