New to Chastity

[curioustncpl]

Well, the CB6000 arrived today and so far so good. I wore it for a few hours to start, then took it off to breathe. I will actually put it on and try to sleep with it tonight and see what happens. Once I finally got it on, i was quite impressed out how easy it was to wear without pain or discomfort. i think i will handle chastity much easier than originally expected. Lucky me i guess. i will keep you all posted as things progress.

[curioustncpl]

So, last night i finally wore the device all night. Much to my surprise, i never experienced any pain of discomfort. i've been wearing it for over 12 hours and hopefully soon i will be able to comfortable wear the device long term so that i can give my wife full control. The only question is, once I give her full control, how long will she keep me locked? I've tried to get her to talk about that, but she hasn't put any thought to it.

[Atone]

So, last night i finally wore the device all night. Much to my surprise, i never experienced any pain of discomfort.

Some days are like that, hopefully it keeps up. I will go for long periods of (almost) no discomfort and then have 3 or 4 nights in a row that are almost unbearable. I know they are usually triggered by some hot play time (with me still locked up) but they go on for a couple of days. I should track them on a calendar and see if there is a pattern.

i've been wearing it for over 12 hours and hopefully soon i will be able to comfortable wear the device long term so that i can give my wife full control.

Don't be in too big of a hurry. When I started in my CB3000 I wore it at night but not during the day because I wasn't comfortable wearing it to work. We started on a Sunday, the very next weekend my wife went out of town for a couple of days so I stayed locked up. We had arranged a way for me to unlock on Monday morning before she returned so I could go to work. It was a little bit of trial by fire but got me going quick. I spent another week or so of only at night and then just decided I didn't care, I didn't want to take it off during the day so I wore it to work. There have only been a handful of days since then that I haven't been locked in something and that was due to a bit of a medical situation that kept me out for about two weeks last spring.

The only question is, once I give her full control, how long will she keep me locked? I've tried to get her to talk about that, but she hasn't put any thought to it.

This is a common challenge. She may be interested but just doesn't want to talk about it. Or she may just want to do what pleases you. Or somewhere in between. That is why my wife and I usually set "not before" dates. She likes that I don't orgasm but isn't so interested in "denying" me, she is more of a giver. Talking about it too much gets her agitated though and I tend to talk too much especially when I don't have a date or it is too close for my liking. We do a combination of talking about it, straight control, random chance (dice, coin flips), and wagers. Oh, also we negotiate for special things from time to time.

[kpb57]

First, at least in the beginning set up some kind of "safe word mechanism" that lets each of you call out in case of physical or emotional stress. Knowing that there IS an "out" in an extreme situation often helps one to deal with it without needing the "out".

Then, play it in "turns", each turn being one period of enforced chastity. After each "turn" (but not immediately after you've been unlocked, say the next day) have a talk how both of you felt and experienced the situation. This will help her get a feel where the "sweet spots" for both of you are.

To your spouse: do not be afraid to look for information on your own. This forum especially has lots of help from real, sane players. Also do not be afraid to explore new waters. Be prepared to talk about things, even if at first the words don't come easy.

And never forget that the key to making this game a success is communication, communication, communication. What I tell you three times is the undisputed truth.

K

[usaabn]

Welcome,

Enjoy your new journey and the doors that you and your KH open together. I wanted to scream at the top of my lungs when I started my journey. Spend the time to research this site well. So many of the questions you or your KH have are here. Good luck......

usaabn

[Tom Allen]

First, at least in the beginning set up some kind of "safe word mechanism" that lets each of you call out in case of physical or emotional stress. Knowing that there IS an "out" in an extreme situation often helps one to deal with it without needing the "out".

Then, play it in "turns", each turn being one period of enforced chastity. After each "turn" (but not immediately after you've been unlocked, say the next day) have a talk how both of you felt and experienced the situation. This will help her get a feel where the "sweet spots" for both of you are.

To your spouse: do not be afraid to look for information on your own. This forum especially has lots of help from real, sane players. Also do not be afraid to explore new waters. Be prepared to talk about things, even if at first the words don't come easy.

And never forget that the key to making this game a success is communication, communication, communication. What I tell you three times is the undisputed truth.

K

This is one of those messages that should be highlighted for frequent review.

[kpb57]

This is one of those messages that should be highlighted for frequent review.

I am truly and deeply honored.

K

[curioustncpl]

48 hours so far. I almost gave in but managed to push through the pain this morning. No erections in two days sucks, but I know it's gonna be worth it in the end.

[curioustncpl]

Okay, she let me out last night for sex.....AFTER I made her come first. It was great, and one of the most intense orgasms I've had. I can't imagine what it will be like after I go several days or weeks.

[poor]

This is one of those messages that should be highlighted for frequent review.

How about the creation of a 'Best Advice' sticky (or even forum) that pearls of wisdom such as this can be entered by the mods?