Cranky & Pouty

[danj]

I'm a few days since my last orgasm. That O followed my longest cycle of about 3 weeks. That's all well and good.

Problem is I have never been as cranky (and pouty as my wife mentioned) in the start of a new cycle as I've been the past couple of days. I was only allowed one orgasm (as is typical). I've tried to make suggestions to my wife to help me get out of the funk, but she hasn't really been able to do it. She hasn't been in "the mood", so I haven't been able to pleasure her, and no teasing either since I came. I think if she were more dominant (we've been trying a vanilla flavored FLR), she could probably push some buttons to get me out of it, but that's not her for the most part. Though I do need to give her credit for standing her ground and not telling me to go jerk-off to get out of the mood.

I do think being locked helps, and her keeping me out the past day or so probably didn't help. Something about having access makes me feel like I should be able to play with it, even though I didn't ever really consider doing that.

I'm locked up now, and do feel somewhat better. Any other suggestions for getting over that cranky period? It's aggravating for both of us.

[jnuts]

I'm going through something similar right now. It has been a week or so since my single orgasm after almost 3 months(new record). I'm not that cranky but I feel myself getting there. I was fine up until yesterday. I started feeling restless and depressed. Belle gave me a not before date of Christmas and I just don't want to wait that long. Chastity suddenly became unappealing and I just really want some vanilla sex. Her and I having back to back sicknesses doesn't help the matter I'm sure.

Definitely a funk. Almost feels like my cum is poison. I just really want it out. Not in a constant "I'm horny" kinda way either.

Sorry, no advice.

[Edgewood]

I don't know if this will help as it requires some participation. My KH is often very busy and so I've really tried to make the point that even very short T&D sessions are good for the morale. I've come up with a quite a few short teases that she can use if she desires. My favorite is the 3 minute suck or stroke. She sets a timer for 3 minutes and pleasures me. If I can come in that time, I'm allowed. If not (I never have so far), I go back in immediately. The whole exercise is short and sweet but the residual effect lasts the whole day.

Physical contact aside (since your KH has been sick) she can still fuck with your mind a bit by making suggestions of things that are going to happen once she feels better. See if you can get her to at least mentally participate.

The big no-no for me in this whole thing, and when I get cranky, is when I feel locked and left. If I can't have forced chastity then I'd rather be able to pleasure myself. It's probably been said a couple hundred times on this forum, but chastity does not equal celibacy. No way. No how. My KH finally understands that if I'm "in" then she has to participate. A couple of times early on when she didn't want to deal with it I was let out. After a few days left to my own devices she realized that she wanted control and back in I went. Sweet.

Given that you are early in your new cycle you don't even have the incentive of adding to your accomplishment of not coming for xx days. Seems to me she has to help you out or unlock you so you can take care of business. When she's better and in a place where she can participate in your chastity, then your cock gets locked back up.

[Atone]

See if you can get her to at least mentally participate.

This works pretty good for me.

Or a good caning.

[poor]

It could just be that as you lengthen your cycle you feel comparatively worse when you are brought back to day one: 'The longer you climb, the farther you fall.'

We know it's going to happen; it is the cost of an orgasm and our KH's should factor in how to deal with it when deciding to allow us to ejaculate.

[danj]

It could just be that as you lengthen your cycle you feel comparatively worse when you are brought back to day one: 'The longer you climb, the farther you fall.'

I agree with this. And also agree with Edegewood and Atone; when she is mentally engaged it is much easier and my mood is much better. We had some playtime last night and she kept me locked. I'm feeling pretty good today

[Belle]

There is another side to this. The keyholder's side. I told Jnuts to unlock and stay unlocked until Christmas. I am sick, and I have 2 sick toddlers. There is no way that I can mentally or physically engage in any type of T&D right now. He respected that real life was taking the forefront at this point. I think that this is an important thing to remember when dealing with chastity within a relationship. (As opposed to an arranged chastity only relationship) I do not know it tomorrow will be better or worse. As a keyholder it was my choice and what I felt was best to end the cycle.
As for taking into account the crankyness following an orgasm, yes it is partially the responsibility of the keyholder to consider this when allowing an orgasm. However it is the ultimately the responsibility of the orgasmer to deal with his hormones. Sorry, but PMS isn't a valid excuse for irrational behavior, so orgasms shouldn't be either. That being said, I know to expect a low the 2-4 days after an orgasm. We are working through that each cycle, and will find what works best for us.

[danj]

However it is the ultimately the responsibility of the orgasmer to deal with his hormones. Sorry, but PMS isn't a valid excuse for irrational behavior, so orgasms shouldn't be either. That being said, I know to expect a low the 2-4 days after an orgasm. We are working through that each cycle, and will find what works best for us.

Belle,

You're right. Point well taken.

Though I do hope my wife doesn't think I was being "irrational"!!!

[poor]

@Belle: sending you all the best wishes for a speedy recovery - it's too busy a time of year to be down and it's always rotten when your young ones are poorly. They bounce back pretty quickly at that age though. I'd read Jnuts blog entry on Keyheld so mostly my comments were aimed at the OP.

I don't disagree with anything that you have posted above. My point is that the KH has the choice of when to deliver this 'cum-down' and how to mitigate it's effects if they wish.

[Belle]

Though I do hope my wife doesn't think I was being "irrational"!!!

Sorry, irrational isn't the best word. I guess I was thinking of some of my hormone induced PMS and pregnancy behavior, which could only be called irrational Maybe "less than desirable behavior and attitude" is better.