I'm home now so I just asked my husband your two questions:
2. At night, it pulls too far forward on my balls. I've been told a snugger and/or shorter cage will help with this, because it won't let me get as much of an erection. I'm skeptical, because I'm a grower, so a large amount of that erection is behind my balls and thus outside the cage.
Yes, he said, this is what happens. And when it does, he just pulls all the scrotum skin back between the bars which gives your balls the skin they need.
3. It's not snug enough, so I sometimes end up getting an erection not all the way forward in the cage, which is extra painful. How much of this do you think I can avoid with the Jailbird?
He says the non-erection in the Jailbird or Watchful Mistress is less noticeable/painful than it was in the CB because it is tighter and snugger. For that reason, he prefers the metal devices (besides the fact that they are cleaner and hotter looking to me).
Hope this helps...since he is explaining (and giving me a demo) I am trying to explain as best I can...LOL
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