New and needing support and advice

[trmoil]

Hi there - I found this forum a couple of weeks ago after being confronted by my partner about an indiscretion and offered the option of submitting to a male chastity cage as an interim step to reconciliation. I quickly agreed to this, thinking that, since we are not currently living together it would be relatively simple to bypass the device and get my needs met while meeting her need for more control and trust. Well, maybe that was a mistake.
When she first locked the device on me (it's a metal cage that attaches to a metal cock-ring with a numbered lock and a rubber insert in the top of the cage) my heart sank. The device fit pretty tightly, and with my cock flaccid (and smaller after the touch of the cold metal) there was not a lot of room for growth. It wasn't uncomfortable at first, although the rubber insert made it a tight fit. The psychological impact of the cage was immediate and unexpected - I had a sudden panic as I realized the implications and my hands reached down to touch my caged cock - it wasn't just that I would not be able to stray, I would not be able to get any satisfaction at all without her. Now I know that that may sound obvious to you, and in retrospect it should have been to me, but there was a huge difference between knowing it objectively and feeling my cock trapped in the cage. The touch of my hands on my (still free) balls didn't help, and I started to get hard, something that became uncomfortable pretty quickly.
Well, after she left for the first night (with the key) things went from bad to worse. I must have spent five hours trying to get the device off, or figure out a way to get off while wearing it without any luck. The rubber insert has a row of angled spines that dig in pretty painfully if I try to pull or get too hard. The feeling was awful, not really now getting off, I've gone for days without cumming before, but the sense of claustrophobia and panic of not having access to my cock. I was totally unprepared for how vulnerable it made me. I woke several times in the night with my hand wrapped round the cage, just desperate to be able to control my own body again.
I pretty quickly found my thoughts turning to my partner, and what I would need to do to persuade her to release me. Since I was awake anyway I decided to make her a thermos if coffee and take a couple of pastries over to her apartment to leave outside her door (her apartment isn't far away). After I left them I wondered whether I might have overplayed my hand and tipped her off about how desperate I had become so soon.
I'd love some advice from you about how you deal with these feelings that have completely overtaken me. I'm spending my whole days thinking about almost nothing else except the awareness of my predicament, constantly reminded about my inability to orgasm, or even to get hard, but the worst is just a total feeling of powerlessness that I was totally unprepared for.

[trmoil]

I got a PM with a couple of questions so thought I would answer here.
1. the indiscretion was getting caught ball-deep in my assistant - since we still work in close proximity my partner was not happy with promises that things were over.
2. I can't place the exact origin of the device, but it is a stainless steel cage design that attaches with one large and two small pins to the cock ring at the back with a padlock. The plastic insert is some kind of silicone rubber, and looks a little like the points of intrigue, but has flexible but firm prongs that point forward at an angle, so that they 'engage' if I try to pull out and stick in, causing a lot of pain. Hope that helps!

[Chuck]

Funny. I saw this same story on craigslist recently or maybe on that other forum. I think you haven't gotten any replies because everyone here is too polite to call Bullshit on you.

[Tom Allen]

Funny. I saw this same story on craigslist recently or maybe on that other forum. I think you haven't gotten any replies because everyone here is too polite to call Bullshit on you.

Well, that didn't take long!

[Chuck]

Funny. I saw this same story on craigslist recently or maybe on that other forum. I think you haven't gotten any replies because everyone here is too polite to call Bullshit on you.

Well, that didn't take long!

I was so worried I was overstepping my bounds but I just couldn't let that go withing saying it.

[Tom Allen]

I was so worried I was overstepping my bounds but I just couldn't let that go withing saying it.

Okay, just as a topic of interest, what were the red flags for you? That is, what made this post suspect? And were you drawing on your iwn experience, or was it something else?

[celticqueens_sub]

I quickly agreed to this, thinking that, since we are not currently living together it would be relatively simple to bypass the device and get my needs met while meeting her need for more control and trust. Well, maybe that was a mistake.

For me... The total lack of respect for his partner... Sounds like he will cheat on her at any and all levels..

[LockedHub]

Just asking for "support" made me shake my head.

[Chuck]

I was so worried I was overstepping my bounds but I just couldn't let that go withing saying it.

Okay, just as a topic of interest, what were the red flags for you? That is, what made this post suspect? And were you drawing on your iwn experience, or was it something else?

LOL... It was so obvious. Several things came to mind.

1:No woman who walks in on her beloved "in the act" is going to have that response. It is a classic storyline that I've read several times over the years in fetish wank mags.

2:All it takes is a trip to the hardware store to buy a bolt cutter if it's a metal lock. If it's plastic, just rip it off.

3:I think it would be rare indeed to have someone buy a device that fit perfectly without pain or modification, or some type of changes.

4:No guy would unwillingly give up control of his penis. I'm a man so I know how we are with our cocks. Male chastity was my idea and if it wasn't it would take a lot of convincing to get me to even let anyone near my penis with any device.

I'm fairly new to male chastity but my first device hurt like a mutha when I woke up. I had to use our safe word on day three to have my wife remove it. Only after a few modifications and a larger ring did I have a device I could wear for extended periods.

I'm also a machinist and the in house locksmith at my shop. There is no lock or device that can't be defeated.

The biggest red flag is simply the human psychology. Way too much in that post to continue. lol.

[Celtic Queen]

That said, the post only has one typo that I could see- very unusual, but the content is utterly predictable. However, how these pan out in the other forums is they are in installments so it builds over a number of posts until.....you guessed it - a frilly maid outfit, and well hung stud and a wife "getting her own back" with hub locked forever in his inescapbable device. Ooops, sorry, I spoiled the ending


Weird to post it here - you know, in front of some of the most experienced chastity enthusiasts on the web....