All Loacked up after Picking a Number

[Tom Allen]

She should think about what *she* wants and do that.

[LockedforHer]

Tonight is the nights she decides, I have informed her that it is her choice to unlock or not as she wishes. I await her decision later....

[kinkywife]

I like the idea of picking a number from a bag. Think I'll try that with hubby, have to make sure it's me that writes all the numbers out though so I can choose some big ones too

[LockedforHer]

My wife unlocked me and then turned over and said, I am tired, and no playing with it either. She then turned over and went to sleep....

[jnuts]

wow. I like.

[JJsissy]

My gf was very reluctant with the dominant/sub relation at first :/ but then she tried it out for a bit, and I think shes loving it! She knows just how much to tease me, but in a wa she has a soft spot, she ultimately does give me release coz she says she feels bad for me. She's still getting used to it,but how do I tell her that I want her to be more dominant? Is it something that I can request or should I just let it go?

She still sends me pretty erotic pictures of herself,coz we haven't met for a looong time and she still tells me that I can remove the belt if I want(it's only day 5 so one key is still with me) . But honestly I want her to tell me assertively that I cannot open the belt and that I'd be stuck in it for a long long time while she continues teasing me.

[TwistedMister]

Mrs. Twisted used to have that 'soft spot' too, and it drove me crazy because it seemed that she couldn't wrap her head around the concept. It seems to me that many women have the desire to 'please' their Significant Others and, sexually speaking, their idea of 'pleasing' them is to provide them with orgasm. They have been conditioned to think that way, and the idea that those of us who are a little twisted from 'normal' are aroused by being *denied* that pleasure (and the choice of it) is hard for them to grasp.

I wrestled with that problem too, and it was particularly difficult because I didn't want to be 'topping from the bottom'- I wanted it to be *her* choice, and I wanted her to 'get off' on being in control, to derive pleasure from it rather than simply doing what she thought *I* 'wanted' her to do.

I decided that the solution was to tell her "It really turns me on when you _____________", or "It would really turn me on if you _________________." This moves the focus from release and orgasm while still fulfilling the [inherent] desire to 'please' you.

I think, at one point, I may have actually come right out and told Mrs. Twisted that I didn't want her to give me a choice. I think she struggled for a long time with the concept that it was desirable for her to [selfishly] enjoy the pleasure of orgasms while denying me the same pleasure, and to use that denial as a method of enabling her to be provided with *even more* pleasure. Women tend to be different so it may take more, or less, time for your GF to embrace the concept, and to become comfortable with having that level of control...but once she does...BCWYWF...and be sure that you can handle it.

It's been a long time and Mrs. Twisted still has some issues with control, but less than she used to. She still isn't completely comfortable with *demanding* what she wants but she's getting better at it. She also still has some deeply ingrained inhibitions but those are beginning to break down. She also has [recently] discovered that her pleasure and ability to achieve orgasm is more physical (and less mental/emotional) than she once thought, which is (I think) leading her to realize that she doesn't need an emotional connection in order to enjoy sexual activities...which is leading her to become more comfortable (and less inhibited) with certain other ideas...

[JJsissy]

I have done so a few times, telling her straight up, and she's trying, I can see that she is. But the last thing I want to do is to force her to do something that she doesn't want to do,maybe all it requires is some time and let's see how things go, maybe when we finally meet all her sexual energy might just unleash onto me and even her deep hidden evilness (that I'm so longing to see :$) .

But yes after due course of time,if nothing has changed I will talk to her about it. She's just too selfless but is just beginning to learn how to "demand" a bit,even if it's some small things like give her a massage,fetch some stuff from the shop ( and especially her "get on the bed on all knees and don't look up" holy shit that's too turning on :O) etc. I love listening to her and love obeying her every need. And recently a few months ago I spoke to her aout my cross dressing habits, and she has just been nothing but helpful. I thought "oh crap,why did I tell her?! Now she thinks I'm a creep x_x" . Now look at her :') she refers to me as her "slut" in the bed and has helped me acquire various sets of lingerie! And she's even encouraging me to lose weight so that I can fit into her dresses :O :$