Feelin emasculated by chastity

[Vinny51]

Don’t feel emasculated. I have not had PIV in over 35 years nor received oral. Only perform oral twice a year. Honor system for 29 years and locked for 15 years with an annual two week break as well as breaks for medical reasons. I am sexually submissive but very alpha in real life. My sexual submissive side is a stress reliever from my former career which involved running companies and much more.

Just keep in mind that in reality, the sub is in charge, not the domme. Nothing can be done to you without your permission or else it is a felony. The sub has all the power and that is not emasculating. Let’s get real here. The dirty secret not often mentioned is that most of us can pull out of our cages whenever we want. We choose not to, because we choose it to be do not because we cannot in most cases.

I was dominated by both my wife and her female liver for 20+ years and yet once out of the bedroom I ran our poly triad. I walked into my private clubs with a hot woman on each arm. It was obvious as to who was in charge. Men gave me a thumbs up while their wives and girlfriends gave me dirty looks. No doubt in anyone’s mind who was the dominate one in our triad. Yet, the two girls controlled my orgasms.

Even now in retirement my wife is very submissive by nature. She never tells me to do anything but sex is only for her pleasure. I choose to submit sexually. It is my choice, not my wife’s. My sexual preferences do not define my none sexual life.

Look at it this way. The domme can only do what the sub allows or it becomes a criminal offense. So who has the owner in reality? The sub does and that is not emasculating.

[TwistedMister]

Well, speak of the devil...

[WifeIsVanilla]

And LO, he rises from the depths!

[ponylady]

And LO, he rises from the depths!

Isn‘t that where the holywatergarlicstakethroughtheheart-addon for phpbb would come in handy?

[denied_one]

And LO, he rises from the depths!

Isn‘t that where the holywatergarlicstakethroughtheheart-addon for phpbb would come in handy?

Aww poor Vinny. We tolerate him over at CM LOL

[denied_one]

Sorry for the thread drift on Vinny.


This is a fantastic thread!

It has helped me on a couple fronts @Immaterial Penis

[Immaterial Penis]

@denied_one - I am now at 98 days with no orgasm.
I am locked every morning and unlocked at bedtime. I hope that my wife will move to 24/7 locking, but she is struggling with the concept of totally being in control of my penis, but is slowly getting there.
She does like that I will do whatever she says as soon as she says it and is gradually moving from the "Please could you..." to the "Go and do XXX now..." which I am enjoying. (And from what she says, she loves the attentive, submissive element of this).
We initially agreed to 25 days, then 50 days, then 75 days and now 100, so 2 days to go, but I suspect this might move to 150 or 200 (or more?) and I am enjoying it.
Even my teenage kids have commented to my wife about the difference in me apparently and my son refers to 'New Dad' she says.
Who would ever think that locking a lump of stainless steel around your cock would make such a difference to your mental health and approach to life? - Not me if it had been suggested!
She likes the smaller cages (I now own 8 cages!!!) and have found that the Nub Cage with short steel tube is the most comfortable and practical to wear and it make my penis 'buried'.
I am due to go on a motorcycle trip for 9 days in the early July so we have been discussing whether I should be locked (I am fine with it, but she is concerned that; a] I will be sharing a room with a friend, and b] what about any accidents). I have said I am fine with both. It's not like we go waving our cocks at each other and I think being locked would be the least of my concerns if an accident happened!
She also commented on how I will wear knickers without my friend knowing and I said that as some black knickers look like men's underwear anyway, I will need to wear those and not bright pink or lacy ones. (I secretly think she sees this as an opportunity for me to be 'exposed' as a panty wearing chastity boy. If that is what she wants, I will be fine with it. She has control and I will do whatever she wants.

[Tongue+groove]

. and I said that as some black knickers look like men's underwear anyway,

FWIW I wear a men’s g-string by choice. I started years ago due to chafing while working in the heat. Now it’s the norm for cage support. In cold weather I can wear boxers over them for added warmth without any discomfort.

Having ridden for most of my life I understand the heat issue in July. I wish I had done the g string thing back when I still rode.

Just a thought.

[denied_one]

. and I said that as some black knickers look like men's underwear anyway,

FWIW I wear a men’s g-string by choice. I started years ago due to chafing while working in the heat. Now it’s the norm for cage support. In cold weather I can wear boxers over them for added warmth without any discomfort.

Having ridden for most of my life I understand the heat issue in July. I wish I had done the g string thing back when I still rode.

Just a thought.

My normal underwear are thongs. I like the feeling. She loves the look. But for cage supports it is top notch. And because I am "uncut", even when unlocked, the front of the thong truncates any at all would-be erections.

So I certainly relate somewhat here

[denied_one]

@denied_one - I am now at 98 days with no orgasm.
I am locked every morning and unlocked at bedtime. I hope that my wife will move to 24/7 locking, but she is struggling with the concept of totally being in control of my penis, but is slowly getting there.

It certainly evolves. Never ever would I have thought that I would be "ok" with totally eliminating routine masturbation and ejaculation.

Never would I thought I would be "ok" with the rule of @MrsLockNkey is the only one allowed to touch my penis at all other than handling to "pee"

But here I am.

Enjoy the ride. It does evolve