[RickTheGuy] Striving for Improvement

[Tongue+groove]

Can I maintain the better attitude once I have been released and allowed to cum?

Every one is different and only you can decide.

For myself, after I break the frustration hump somewhere in the 2 to 3 week mark, I can have some relief without the drop. This usually involves some form of ruined cum. Being forced to consume my dribbling, as she calls it, helps my attitude also.

I have found the best achievement is the ejaculate free orgasm. Difficult to explain these. You can’t force them. I have to be at least three weeks into lockup, totally sold out to pleasuring her, and have no ambition to cum myself. Quite often they wake me up several hours after I’ve taken care of her.

Just experiment with works for the two of you. Don’t be discouraged if something doesn’t work just learn from it. Do keep in mind that she is learning also.

[RickTheGuy]

I woke up this morning and realized I didn’t think about being locked up at all yesterday. Everything just seemed normal.

I’m sure that means something and I’ll use today to explore the possibilities of longer term chastity. If it becomes routine then why not experiment?

Great advice on being able to cum and also that my KH is still learning too. I’m not begging anymore since she explained how she would prefer to let me out rather than thinking I was “suffering.”

We researched several emotions that both of us have experienced and understand it’s normal and the idea is to work together to get through and grow from it.

I know if I was experiencing real pain I would be released. But I’ve learned that my complaint was really about control.

Once I understood this was as much about her, I realized I was interfering with her education and I had to step back and rethink the situation.

I always assumed I was submissive but that wasn’t entirely true. Thus the biggest lesson of making a concerted effort to abide by the rules and stop being a brat.

It’s made a difference. I may still feel like rebelling at times but then I’m able to take a time out and know it’s just being selfish. I can condition myself to know this whole experience is way more powerful than just me and I need to put my ego aside.

As a result, I have a new found respect for her and for all women. There is compassion in the things they do even if I can’t see it right away. Our women deserve our support and our obedience.

I still can’t believe how much pleasure I get from combing her hair or trying to do her nails. Manicuring is far more difficult than I thought. She’s been patient as I’ve goofed time and again as we both start laughing at my attempts. And I’m getting better at it, an example of putting your entire focus on it.

I’m sure these feelings are nothing new but they are a revelation to me.

[Tongue+groove]

I still can’t believe how much pleasure I get from combing her hair or trying to do her nails. Manicuring is far more difficult than I thought. She’s been patient as I’ve goofed time and again as we both start laughing at my attempts. And I’m getting better at it, an example of putting your entire focus on it.

I’m sure these feelings are nothing new but they are a revelation to me.

I keep one of Mrs.grooves hair brushes in the top drawer of my nightstand. Always ready. And yes pedicures are difficult. We have resolved to me washing and massaging. She trims and paints, but I sit at her feet assisting when she does.

Sounds like you’ve figured out it’s more about her and less about you. That’s a good thing.

[RickTheGuy]

Wow. The month actually went by faster than I expected. I took off my cage after 31 days and experienced just about every emotion in that time. I ended with a good feeling of accomplishment.

I have a few hours to decide if I’m going to continue with NNN. She gave me a choice of the cage or no touching. I was really looking forward to an orgasm but I have to delay that until I decide to continue.

I wish she’d just tell me what to do but it has to be my decision. I think I would disappoint her if I didn’t continue.

Has anyone ever gone through NNN with the no touching rule? Or is it better to remove any temptation and just put the cage back on?

I had never gone more than 24 hours in a cage before the month started. Would I be biting off
More than I can chew by continuing with it?

Right now my penis is smaller than it’s ever been and my ball sack looks funny with the indentations from the ring. But I still feel proud and things got easier as I worked through early problems.

At first I felt let down when she asked me if I was willing to continue for another month. Having a little time to think through it, I realize I should be willing to keep going as a sign of respect and trust. I need to willingly submit.

I think the real question is whether I would let her down by choosing the no touching instead of the cage.

I just hope December doesn’t hold any significance.

[Tongue+groove]

Decisions, decisions, decisions. Keep one thing in mind. How will you really feel without that snug security around your manhood. I have had to go without it for about 36 hours recently. I I felt sooooo good to be back home in my cage.

Really strange feeling.

[RickTheGuy]

Joining this forum has been so beneficial if only to set my mind at ease. Just knowing there are so many ways to achieve goals and change attitudes helps release anxiety.

I did choose to continue into November and I feel good about my decision. What makes it better is how happy it made my KH. This Is my birthday month and so I had to negotiate a delayed orgasm to stay chaste for the month,

We will be attending a private kink party soon in which I was going to share my orgasm. Now I’ll be dressed only in my cage and be required to serve any female who so asks. That means being used as a foot stool, deliver drink and food, foot rubs, et Al.

The evening will certainly test me in ways I’ve never been tested before, it’s also my first public display of my cage. I have seen other men wearing a cage at previous get-togethers and felt bad for them.

It’s been so long since I last experienced an orgasm (and I’m sure many have gone longer than my five months) that I barely remember how it felt. And yet I’ve been closer to her than ever. And I guess I can say I’ve been having sex on a regular basis, though it’s just expressed differently.

[Tongue+groove]

. We will be attending a private kink party soon in which I was going to share my orgasm. Now I’ll be dressed only in my cage and be required to serve any female who so asks. That means being used as a foot stool, deliver drink and food, foot rubs, et Al.

Sounds like fun. Maybe because I know I’ll never get to actually attend one. Make your kh proud.