24/7 actually possible?

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WifeIsVanilla wrote:
Sun Apr 12, 2020 8:36 am
KittensBoyToy - You don't mean 135 days of continuous wear with not one minute out for doctor visits, metal detectors, etc, etc, etc, do you?
Pretty much.

I was hospitalized for the flu and pneumonia in February. She unlocked me the 3rd day I was there and I was unlocked for 10 days during recovery. Caged again on March 2nd (2 days before my birthday). Kitten says it doesn't count against my time since I was too sick to do anything.

That would put me at 86 days before and 42 days since getting sick.

Know encounters with metal detectors just means a change from the Jail Bird to the HTv3. Doctor visits only are reason if a genital or prostrate exam are likely. Both of my medical doctors know I am caged so it wouldn't be a surprise to either of them should a need to drop my pants come up during a visit. With the open design of the Jail Bird unlocking is not needed for cleaning.
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Tom Allen wrote:
Thu Apr 09, 2020 4:37 pm
Anybody can do it for a few days or a week, mainly because you’ve got the arousal to keep you going. Even if you’re not getting an orgasm – or even sex – for a few days, most men can deal with the little inconveniences because they’re focused on the mind-blowing orgasm that they’re expecting on Saturday night.

When you don’t know when you’ll be allowed out of the device, or even if you’ll be allowed an orgasm when you are, you no longer have something to look forward to “at the end of the week;” that arousal is no longer enough to keep you going, or to distract you from the little inconveniences and annoyances of wearing a device that squashes your wabbly bits into a small, confined space. Ever have a cast on an arm or ankle? Remember how annoying it was, how you couldn’t scratch when it got itchy, how you had to remember to wear accommodating clothes? That’s the same concept here: once you get over the “Oooh, I’m in a device!” rush of arousal, you have to figure out how to live with it, all day, every day.
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Tom thanks for writing this. Its striking a lot of chords.

1 month in honor system chastity has already proven to be far different than i thought since my entire knowledge base was fap captions and my own imagination. Trying to wear a device for 2 days was extremely uncomfortable and not how i imagined it. I remain hopeful that diaing in a few adjustments will make long term wear tolerable. I trust myself to behave and honor my promise to my wife to not masturbate but my hope is a cage worn most of the time will make masturbating far too inconvenient to want to try. Of course a small padlock is easily cut off, but the hassle isnt worth it and i hope that will be enough to keep me submissive and chaste. All cages really are just enhanced honor system as they're all removable with determination. Just like the locks on our doors dont keep a truly determined home invader out...the just make it more difficult. A more realistic ideal is finding the device that makes escape too painful to want to try or just too inconvenient.

What you wrote about needs and communication really hits home. My wife and i have a good marriage and no trust issues so im not worried there. Where it has been tough though is that her life hasnt changed and mine has. It's awesome when we play and edge but when a few days go by where she has no interest in sex [like this whole period week for her] it has been much harder on me. Neglect is a good word choice and its not that she does it intentionally but a week with 0 touching whatsoever leaves me with feelings that fap chastity porn doesnt prepare you for! At the beginning of the week it was hot when she told me i will get zero touches this week but 5 days later and insanely frustrated it is a lonely feeling! And that says nothing about what could happen with stressful work weeks colds and flu amd just running our lives and family with kids and all that comes with them (schedules and sports and school obligations etc etc)

I do sincerely want chastity to be much more than weekend play. I want this to be a long term dynamic in my marriage. To me lifestyle is the right word but im realizing that to get there or [sincere play] is going to take a whole lot more resolve than anticipated. I like the challenge but can't underestimate it. Just a few days in a cage i realized i really do have to sit to pee. There are hygiene issues...and we are still in covid19 lock down. What will this really be like having to sit to pee at work...to go out for drinks with coworkers and have to sit to pee in a nasty bar bathroom...to go camping and not be able to piss in the woods without possibly spraying my pants? To have escape plans for an emergency? Etc.

There certainly are a zillion things to think about to make this a real thing and not just a weekend play fantasy. Luckily knowing i can be denied cumming for a month is a good first hurdle clearence but i suspect that's probably the easiest challemge to overcome especially if a device is going to be seriously used and enforced.

I really enjoyed your blog post though and wanted to express my gratitude as a newbie that its been very helpful and grounding.
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We have sex maybe twice a week, maybe once, sometimes less frequently. While that means I don’t have a lot of genital pleasure, we still make sure to get plenty of touch in. extended hug and a mutual back scratch at bed time; hugs in the morning and throughout the day.

See how your wife feels about touch that is intimate, but not overtly sexual, is my recommendation.
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Where it has been tough though is that her life hasnt changed and mine has.
Yes! This is the part that people don't understand. Your life is different: you can't touch, wank, relieve urges, nothing. You could go crazy with frustration. Meanwhile, your wife is just going day to day, with little or no concept of what's going through your mind.
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The key is for frustration to not turn into irritation. It’s easy for lack of acknowledgement to turn into resentment if this pretty basic impulse is ignored. That can easily happen as it disproportionately affects one person. After some time, if ignored, you’ll start to wonder why you’re bothering with it. That’s entirely normal, in my estimation, as this degree of control is a two way street.
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My wife/keyholder keeps me locked 24/7, minus a once a week thorough cleaning and anytime she wants to use “her” penis.
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Naljeans wrote:
Sat Apr 18, 2020 2:24 am
The key is for frustration to not turn into irritation. It’s easy for lack of acknowledgement to turn into resentment if this pretty basic impulse is ignored. That can easily happen as it disproportionately affects one person. After some time, if ignored, you’ll start to wonder why you’re bothering with it. That’s entirely normal, in my estimation, as this degree of control is a two way street.
Good point. Actually had a little argument with the wife last night and went off to bed pissed off and out of my mind with sexual frustration...she has no concept of how hard this is and had no problem refusing even any touch this whole week. On the one hand i know i asked for this. On the other going a whole week with 0 touch at all after just completing 3 weeks of not cunming with regular edging leaves you far more frustrated than you can imagine. I was actually pissed that she wouldnt even tease and deny me. All i wanted was a 2 min handjob or or suck her tits or s or something and not getting even that made me pretty irritated.

I apologized this morning and she told me she didnt like that and that im going have a while to go before i can cum now. Really hope my MM cage come back next week and actually fits bc i dont know how long i can keep the honor system going before i break down and rub one out. Just trying to remind myself how pissed she'll be if she catches me and how much i will feel like i failed her if i give in to my horniness.
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Tom Allen wrote:
Fri Apr 17, 2020 9:07 pm

Yes! This is the part that people don't understand. Your life is different: you can't touch, wank, relieve urges, nothing. You could go crazy with frustration. Meanwhile, your wife is just going day to day, with little or no concept of what's going through your mind.
Serves as a good reminder to keep open communication. Need to be able to tell her, without whining or begging, how hard things are and i feel like a good keyholder should be there to support you and talk you down even if sex or touch isnt on the menu. Just having acknowledge that she knews how hard it must be or that shes proud of me and then engage in other nonsexual touch would go a long long way.

I need to have a talk with my wife about this i think just so she can start thinking about some of what in dealing with so she can be there to help me even if she isnt going to "help me".
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24/7 is definitely possible, the only question is for how long?

I am currently in my 47th day of 24/7 lockup. A new record for me. No releases from the cage at all during that time, and definitely no orgasms. No milkings either. I am allowed to service my wife only with my tongue or a strap-on. For a guy who is accustomed to having PIV sex with his wife several times a week, needless to say this is very frustrating. But the more frustrated I get the more my wife seems to enjoy it.

I am in a very secure device and wife holds the only key. So she is completely in control of when/if I get released.
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