Would you call it "chastity"?

[osimon9]

I am a married male in my mid fifties. We used to have a very active sex life but due to medical reasons, my wife's libido has decreased during the last 2 years. We have sex a few times a month ... sometimes PIV, sometimes I give her oral.
So far she does not show any interest in chastity.

So I have been discovering it myself ...

What I actually do is to tease myself for days, even weeks without actually cumming. Whenever I have the feeling that it is too much already, I would milk myself to get some relief. But I try - by all means - to avoid any form of orgasm while playing with myself. When I have sex with her, I reach orgasm maybe once or twice a month.

So I do watch porn, I do stroke my cock and I don't use any chastity device.

Would you call this "chastity"?

[Schnoff]

I’d call that “tease and denial”, and, it can definitely be called chastity. To be “chaste” originally meant to be “sexually pure”, as if there was such a thing. Keeping your arousal high for when your spouse wants to have sex, and reserving orgasm for her, fits into that “chaste” mindset for me.

[CanuckInNJ]

I have been edging far too much. I haven't masturbated to orgasm since I made a new year's resolution last year, but once or twice I've inadvertently reached a half-ruin.

We haven't made our 2020 resolutions yet, but I'm thinking of adding a ban on edging to see what happens to me.

Thing is, the edging does make me hornier, I think. I'm afraid that my libido might fall if I don't edge!

[Schnoff]

I stopped edging myself in 2018, if memory serves. It led to orgasms - what you call “half-ruins” - sooner or later, and with no way to avoid that.

My libido has been fine. Bear edges me when we have sex, once or twice a week. He likes the noises I make, and I need touch and genital pleasure to feel loved and cared for.