Chaste Marriage - The rise, the fall, the good, the bad

[Subervent]

Hey all, figured I'd write a little bit about my journey through chastity during my marriage.

I'll start at square one.

For years I was interested in chastity but it was only an interest at that point as the relationship I was in would not click with the interest. Forward on some years later and got engaged (while in chastity), and married.

The chastity device to start with saved our marriage numerous times because it kept focus on me making the wife happy. It was always an egg shell ordeal as becoming obsessed with chastity was a fine line on when is too much. We started like many others using a plastic CB. From there, silicone, then to stainless, where I finished off.

Feelings started to get a little awkward as we entered the life of an open relationship/cuckold ordeal, and really took a toll on me mentally. We attempted this a few times before actually going through with it. Now, this is where things started to crumble. The wife was less interested in me than before, and I was constantly depressed. Ultimately the marriage failed due to a number of things, thus, chastity ended.

Now you may be asking where I may be going with all this, and I will explain. Throughout the journey of 3+ years of 24.7 chastity, i learned in many ways how my body works, adapts, and ultimately how I could overcome frustration and create a new found gift of patience. From the other end, my wife, who had been mis treated in the past by others got to experience being dominate, which, IMO changed her life as such. We both figured out ways to keep ourselves happy. While things went south with the marriage, we both agreed that delving into chastity was still the best thing we did. Thinking of it, I would not take it back for a second as it was truly life changing.

Anywho, that is my story in a small nutshell. I hope others can be enlightened by this ordeal. Remember, many times you will want to give up, but try and push through. If after a few months you are depressed and miserable, maybe this is not for you. Now cuckolding kind of goes hand and hand many times with chastity. IMO, if you have a fantasy about this, start a relationship from the start being open, as in multiple partners, rather than changing down the road. It can be extremely difficult, regardless of how much you think you want it. It's a dangerous road and can make, or break a relationship, so think about all the pros and cons of it for a good while. Like said, the best thing to do, is just have an open relationship from the start, that way it's not as hard of an adjustment as it's expected.

That's it for this post! Happy holidays everyone!

[EDAS]

Very interesting. I would like to know though if your chastity was total during your marriage. For instance: did you ever penetrate your wife at all?

[Shepherdsflock]

I don't necessarily agree that cuckolding goes hand in hand with it.

[Tom Allen]

I don't necessarily agree that cuckolding goes hand in hand with it.

+1

[TitaniumChastiTi]

I don't necessarily agree that cuckolding goes hand in hand with it.

Would turn me away from the whole thing as a way of life !!

[The_Mariner]

I'd have to agree that cuckolding is not exactly part and parcel of a desire for chastity. I'm actually that "other guy" for a cuckolding couple right now. I have no desire to be treated as a cuckold...and I'm constantly attentive to ensure that he -as her husband - remains her number one priority in all this. If it wasn't for BOTH of their re-assurances that he likes what I do with her....I couldn't do it. And I'm the one locked up! LOL

[Shepherdsflock]

I don't necessarily agree that cuckolding goes hand in hand with it.

Would turn me away from the whole thing as a way of life !!

Me, too. And I know my wife would think it was sick. Neither one of us would ever want somebody else involved in our sex life. Heck, it's taken 7 years for my wife to finally get to the point where she enjoys our sex life, no way would I let some other guy take what I've earned.

[locked4her55]

I don't necessarily agree that cuckolding goes hand in hand with it.

No way this will ever happen with us.

[Subervent]

I don't necessarily agree that cuckolding goes hand in hand with it.

I was meaning more as a generic whole. I know many couples who'd never, ever get close to even the thought of such. But main stream fantasy, it thrives.

I've been in an open relationship from the start, a marriage which turned open, closed. It's all a crap shoot if you ask me. No one option is the right one. It all boils down to what works best for such couple. Some couples are best playing with others as a couple. Some individually. Some just love chastity and are loyal and keep that way.

For me however, after experiencing a relationship start normal and loyal and evolve, that was detrimental to my mental health for a good while, BUT, it taught me a lot, not just about relationships and feelings, but ways to cope mentally, physically, and spiritually. I guess it put me on the spot and made me adapt to the situation. If you asked me if I could take any part of it back, I'd say not a bit, as I wouldn't be who I am today if not.

[Subervent]

Very interesting. I would like to know though if your chastity was total during your marriage. For instance: did you ever penetrate your wife at all?

Yes, as we were trying to have a kid. We did take a brief break in the middle, both due to some medical issues, and life issues, but came back to it. Didn't really note that in the first post.

Like I said in the previous post, even with chastity, it's all about the couple. For us, there was a need to at least keep some normality/closeness with typical sex randomly. But I'd go months with nothing, without issue. Time never bother me, nor ever the urge to "cheat" the system.

What I will say tho, is we did figure out a way for us to work on a baby while still locked up, but I'll leave that to your imagination on ways to do just so