pushing past the "blue balls"

[cycling2work]

my password manager got hacked and my username exposed - for this reason I had to delete all posts. thanks for keeping the edit function alive!

[Shepherdsflock]

How much teasing are you doing? I am not sure teasing is helping you. My wife just keeps me locked up. My penis only comes out for cleaning and the rare occasions she thinks we should have intercourse. Otherwise, she plays with my balls occasionally and touches other parts of my body. It keeps me from getting too aroused. So I guess maybe that's why I haven't had a big problem with blue balls.

[Aarkey]

sorry for the newb question. the balls literally turn blue or is this just an expression? not looking forward to that part Hope it got better @nervous newb

Mine do not change color, but here is the wiki explanation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blue_balls
Blue balls is a slang term for the condition of temporary fluid congestion (vasocongestion) in the testicles accompanied by testicular pain, caused by prolonged sexual arousal in the human male without ejaculation. The term is thought to have originated in the United States, first appearing in 1916. Some urologists call the condition "epididymal hypertension". The condition is not experienced by all males.

[poptart1200]

Pity sex... what's that?

I can get blue balls depending on how much my g/f teases me, but they typically go away after a couple days.

You guys might want to explore RO or milking if the discomfort/pain is too much...

[locked4her55]

Pity sex... what's that?

I don't believe in our 25 years of being together my wife has ever subscribed to pity sex and it certainly isn't going to happen now. After hearing from me about my masturbation habits of the past she just looks at my occasional blue balls and says "paybacks a bitch, isn't it".

[nervous newb]

Thanks for all the replies. We've tried incorporating some of the suggestions into our exploration of the chastity lifestyle.
I've started using a little lotion around my balls where the ring settles. I originally had been doing that when we started doing this in early September, but then stopped because it felt like the ring was sliding too easily which (since I'm a grower) more easily pulled it away from my body during an erection which put a lot of pressure on my balls. So I stopped using lotion. I was also wearing a CB6000s knockoff then, and the base ring wasn't spectacularly comfortable, but I had been getting used to it fairly well. A few weeks ago (3? 4? not sure) is when I switched to the HTV2. I had not tried the lotion around the base ring since I started wearing this device until it was mentioned on this thread. So I'm giving that another try.
Tried wearing briefs instead of boxer briefs, that didn't go so well. It could have been that I was sitting for a long period of time and things may have been held a little too snug. Work brings me a variety of activities ranging from manual labor/heavy lifting to sitting and doing bookeeping for hours at a time.
I have not started running again like I ought to yet. It'll be interesting to try running with a chastity device on, but the HTV2 is pretty low profile and lightweight, as long as I can mentally wrap my brain around it, things should be fine.
We did a RO a couple weeks ago when I hit a week in the device. My wife wasn't thrilled about the mess. She also didn't seem to be too willing to put out the effort to do that, which may seem a little odd since she loves the man I am when I'm in chastity. She does rub my perineum for me if I request it.
She doesn't tease a ton. I sometimes wonder if it's just because in the last 2 months I've gone from 10 orgasms a week (most were Yankees - which is kind of like a quickee but you do it yourself ) down to 1-2. She's not a fan of the pity sex either, because then she feels obligated to relieve the condition. Neither of us want her to feel obligated to do anything about it, but to do it when she really wants to.
So right now we're at day 5 of our latest lockup, and so far so good. Usually there are some signs that the blue balls are coming - I start to feel like my entire body is swelling up, there's usually some back discomfort, stuff like that. Nothing yet. So maybe the lotion around the ring is helping, maybe my body is just another week into adjusting to the reduction in orgasmic activity. If anybody thinks of anything else, please feel free to share.

[Aarkey]

We did a RO a couple weeks ago when I hit a week in the device. My wife wasn't thrilled about the mess. She also didn't seem to be too willing to put out the effort to do that...

There's a very easy way to provide a ruined orgasm for most men, with very little work on the KH's part... a hitachi wand against the cage. Add in a 'prostate milking' toy like the Aneros or Rude-Boy Prostate Vibrator for added affect, and it takes almost no work at all. Actually it can take no work at all. A few times my g/f would lie back after I'd gotten her off and smoke a cigarette telling me I had until she was done smoking to get myself off with her Hitachi (while still in the cage) or I obviously I didn't need an orgasm badly enough.

So far, I have yet to not get an orgasm that way. Sure is a mind fuck though while in the cage. And as to the mess, keep a hand towel around.

So maybe the lotion around the ring is helping...

It took me a LOT of trial and error to know my body well enough to find out what works best. Some men find no lube/lotion is best, some use a lot. I use different amounts at different times depending on what I'm going to be doing and how my skin is feeling.

Either way, keep experimenting and give your body time to adjust to this. It is entirely possible that your body is just becoming accustomed to the restriction. Many men find that their ball sack will give more slack as it gets used to it and not get pinched as much.

[nervous newb]

I find that lube in the cage is not good for me, but lube around the ring is good. We just went 11 days without any type of release for me, and yesterday it was bad enough again that I probably could have toughed it out and gotten through it, but it's back into the work week today and I need to be 100% physically, so I did get a RO. She's starting to not detest it as much, she seemed to have a little bit of fun and enjoy it a bit last night. She's dang good at it. She has given me a total of 3 so far, and the last 2 she's been able to let go about 5 second before stuff starts to flow out. With pretty much no practice, she can tell when it's imminent and her hands are off and I have to deal with the mess (we had paper towels handy this time.) The previous times she did this, it didn't seem very frustrating, but last night it did. I had a pathetic flow, not much came out at all, just a few drips. It was enough to relieve the pressure though. Last night she really seemed to beam with pride in her ability to do that to me.

[Grizzly228]

My gf has gotten great at it too. Now she does it whenever instead of just on "streaks". She gave me four in a row before allowing me to cum. Normally it takes all the feeling out of it and I did have to focus to stay wrest but the orgasm was pretty strong despite having little semen left in me.

[nervous newb]

So an addendum to my last comment about this subject. I may have been pushed too far into the blue balls that last go-round. Even after 2 broken orgasms, the pressure was NOT relieved. I didn't ejaculated much at all either time, and 2 days later she gave me a full orgasm which finally relieved the discomfort of the blue balls. It had gotten so bad that I had major discomfort all the way up my pelvic area. I'm having to face the truth that we are all unique individuals with different capacities and tolerances, and my body at this point doesn't tolerate 11 days without ejaculating. But 2 months ago it didn't tolerate 4 days without, so this is still quite a change. She's given me a full week out (honor system, which I've actually been able to do, and never was able to before we started using a device). I've been getting a little testy lately though, so I think I'm going to wind up back in jail... I'm not trying to be testy, I've been enjoying my time out and I've been trying to be good so I can stay out longer. She still says she likes me better now after we've tried chastity for a few months than before. Maybe I'm not perfect when I'm in chastity like I think I am.