I can't hold up anymore...

[LockedBoy]

I didn't have an orgasm for the last 11 days.
It's probably nothing for most of you, but it's the first time I deny it so long, as I used to do it (almost) everyday before.

Unfortunately, I'm my own keyholder, which is less interesting because technically, I can lock me out any time.
I feel I'm not going to hold up this week-end, but I'd like to improve my chastity period as long as possible.

As you are more experienced, do you have some piece of advice to help me ?
Thanks a lot !

[Grizzly228]

Honestly, stay busy and try to use that energy into something you like to do. When you get some down time where you start to focus on the denial, take a walk or paint a room ( lol I've actually done that). I play Xbox and that distracts me long enough to get through the rough patches. Trust me, it's hard. Especially as your own keyholder. Without my gf the longest I made it was 13 or 14 days. But it's all mental. Freeze the key in an ice cube so you at least have some time to reconsider unlocking while it thaws. Or mail it to yourself each weekend so you aren't tempted.

But mostly is mental and its up and down. The good thing about this forum is there are people to give you support. And I for one can say I am proud of you for making it this far and I know you can make it through the weekend. Good luck.

[Grizzly228]

And when I say it's up and down I meant like the urge gets really strong for a few days then it plateaus. You start to wonder why am I denying myself this pleasure. It's not worth it. But the truth is if you power through it you'll be glad you didn't give in and that sense of accomplishment and self control is a better feeling than most orgasms.

However if you do decide to orgasm don't feel ashamed or disappointment. Just promise yourself you will go longer next time. It's a process. You aren't supposed to go into it with month long denials. As I've been telling myself lately as I approach 20 days, enjoy the journey and stop thinking about the goal. The end will cum eventually. Time passes quickly even when it doesn't feel like it. But looking back it zooms by.

[LockedBoy]

Thank you for being proud of me I'm glad to get support...

I'll keep the idea to freeze the key, that's a very good idea.

On the one hand, I really, really need to cum, but on the other hand, I'm not sure to be able to hold 12 days the next time... Even if I do, that means I'll cum only once in 24 days, that's look impossible for a beginner like me !

Suprisingly, I never had nocturnal emission, so does that mean my body is able to hold some more days ?

[wmpwiwlw]

i agree with grizzly. The reward when you wait is so much better. For me its easier to not think about, or if I do staying busy helps. Just dont focus on sex/porn and find constructive things to do. Its mind over matter.

[poptart1200]

You have more self control then me. Before being locked up by my g/f for 30 days, which was one of the hardest things I ever endured, the longest I have ever gone without cumming either with sex or from masturbating was 8 days. That drove me nuts. You are doing good.

[LockedBoy]

I'll follow your advices and try to stay busy. But it's easier to say than to do !
I hope I'll still be in chastity tomorrow, the next morning will be hard...

[Grizzly228]

How are you holding up? I'm on day 21 now. Just received my new cage which is smaller and tighter. Has a few pinch spots and is more uncomfortable when getting excited. Looks like I'll be going at least 28 days. I miss the feeling for sure but the let down and disappointment will not be worth it. Hang in there.

[Grizzly228]

Hello. You didn't give in did you?

Just saw your earlier comment about not having nocturnal emissions. I believe I had one once when I was young before master bating began. And maybe anther small one later in life that seemingly had nothing to do with tease denial a dream or anything. I've gone 26 days with only ruined ones and up to 18 days I believe with no release of any kind. And never got a nocturnal emission. From what I've heard/read it can be months to never before getting one due to denial. I believe once the muscles are used to holding it in they will generally do their job. Also I've heard that people that leak more don't tend to have emissions and I leak a LOT. Maybe it's the build of prostatic fluid outside the prostate that would normally leak out that ends up triggering it so the best way of initiating one is to avoid tease and denial and just not be sexual at all. That's just my observations based on what I've heard and read.

Anyway hope you didn't give in and are okay. Remember it's all mental and emotional not physical. You CAN go as long as you want.