[newbie] Starting again

[newbie]

Well, it's Sunday morning. Still locked and loving it.
She hasn't unpacked yet, so no key exchange. More to follow.

[newbie]

Here we are on Monday morning, Memorial Day, and I'm still locked with no mention of a key yet. I know she packed it in her carry on, an that bag still hasn't been unpacked yet. No worries, I'm certainly no complaining.

Our weekend has consisted of lots of outdoors things, yard work, etc so by the time we go to bed were exhausted anyway. So not much fooling around. Yesterday morning was our first chance to spend some time together in bed, and we did cuddle and I kissed and played with her tits for a while, which she seemed to enjoy, but then we had to get up and get busy. Because of that I think she still doesn't mind me being locked up since she must feel it against her and has to remember she has the key like last time. Last time I thought she may have forgotten but she certainly hadn't. She has still been very loving nonetheless.

It was amazing how that little bit of playing yesterday led me to loose some nice precum out the end of the device soon after. It almost felt like I had peed a little, but it was precum.

I'm really happy about haw things are going right now. 8 days locked straight. 14 if you count my taking it off for that one day. It still super comfortable.

[newbie]

So I'm back to work on Tuesday morning, and to be honest I'm a little relieved the weekend is over. Spring is always a very busy time at our house, and this weekend was no exception.

I found myself somewhat irritable and cranky yesterday I think just because I was tired from doing all the outside work the previous three days. It was also pretty hot out which never really helps. I don't think it had anything to do with being locked, as I was usually oblivious to that fact and just carried on as usual.

Speaking of which, I am finding that I am more and more relaxed about wearing the device in public. It used to be that I would be very self consious about people being able to see what I had something a little funny going on in my pants, and be able to figure it out from the slight bulge or whatever. I'm finding that the more I wear it the less I think about it, and the more relaxed I am knowing that nobody is paying any attention to me or my bulge. I even went swimming in our pool over the weekend, and there were people around, and everything went fine. Swimming was a non issue.

I am starting to wonder a little bit about the situation with my wife though. As I wrote the other day, she and I did some playing around the other morning which was fun but didn't last very long or get very far. It went far enough for me to get excited (which doesn't take much) and she seemed to enjoy the attention, but then it was "time to get up" and our day began. We haven't done anything else like that in a while but that has alot to do with her traveling for almost two weeks straight, but I still want to be sure she's ok with the way things are right now. I'm sure alot of this is in my head, but there are times that I can't help but think that she's avoiding things just so she doesn't have to deal with the device. She doesn't seem to come in the bathroom in the morning while I'm in there showering like she use to, but instead leaves when I come in and then when I leave she'll go back in. Could be a coincidence but I'm just not sure. And Like I've said, we haven't had any real type of intimate time in a while, and she hasn't had an orgasm in over three weeks which was when I last went down on her. I think alot of this is just because we're so pooped when we finally get to bed that neither one of us is probably really into it, and then we always seem to have to get up early to get somewhere. I'm hoping the next couple of weeks will see things slow down but I'm not holding my breath.

As far as the key goes, she still has it in her carry on bag. I checked the bag this morning and there is still quite a bit of stuff left in it so she hasn't emptied it out yet. I can't believe she has forgotten about the key because the way she's been acting around the device makes it clear to me that she obviously knows I'm still wearing it so she has to be thinking something along the lines of "oh yeah, I still have the key". I would hope, and not that she has forgotten that and is wondering why I'm still wearing it. I'm considering mentioning that she still has the key, and that that's obviously fine with me, but that I didn't want her to forget.........or something like that. Haven't figured that part out but I feel it's been long enough now. I don't mind being locked but I don't really want to be locked and ignored. That's no fun for anyone. I know my wife isn't one to need sex often at all , in fact in the past she would go weeks or longer without the need, so her libido is pretty low so I'm not too concerned about that but I do want to bring it up just in case.

It's funny how wearing a chastity device changes over time. When I first got into this I think it was more the fact of just wearing one and feeling it on me that was the biggest turn on. I would get so aroused just from wearing it that I could actually cum if I played with it too much. I also played around with prostate massaging back then, and actually got to the point that I could successfully milk myself with some regularity.
Now it's become just something that I wear, and something that I do. I've heard it described as like wearing a watch, you just get used to it. That is very accurate. You stop thinking about it and being turned on by it, but you miss it if you aren't wearing it.

It's starting to feel like it's becoming part of my life now, I just hope my wife accepts it as we move along. It's certainly not worth having it come between us, and if I felt it was then we (I) would have to consider stopping.

[newbie]

Last night was another busy evening with the kids sports and my wife playing volleyball. Nobody in the house really settled in until around 10pm. My wife called letting me know she was on her way around 10:30 and showed up shortly after.

We relaxed together and watched some tv before heading off to bed shortly after 11. As soon as we got to bed I could tell that she was relaxed and was in a loving mood. We quickly began to caress each other and get very close to each others body. I began playing with her breasts and kissing her nipples as I know this is one of her favorite things. She began to breathe more deeply and I could tell she was getting more turned on by the minute. I slowly began to move lower down her body as she started to tip her head back and arch her back. As I moved to her waist she began to slide her pajama bottoms down, finally taking them comletely off. I could smell her juices starting to flow and the musky odor from her sweaty workout combined with her thick bush. She has always had a thick bush, and only makes sure it doesn't go past her bikini line. As I lowered my face down into her wetness, she thrust her hips up pressing me even harder. I went to work on her alternating from increased pressure to very light touching which was driving her absolutely crazy. This went on for a long time, and I would lighten up when I felt she was nearing the edge. Eventually she got to the point of no return and have a very intense orgasm, which seemed to go on forever. I kept up with what I was doing until she reached that ticklish phase at which I lightened up. I didn't give up however and eventually that phase passed and I was able to get back to work. It wasn't much longer after that that she reached another climax with that one being much less intense. I knew that was probably all she was up for so I slid back up and we cuddled more. At that time she and I had our arms wrapped around each other, and she began to squeeze me with all her might. She kept giving me her bear hugs and we told each other how much we loved each other. We kissed and drifted off to sleep.

While all this was happening, I was locked of course, and my erection was building and straining against the device and wanted desperately to get out. That didn't happen and the only thing that it could do was to leak out some precum in anticipation. I was a little surprised that she didn't allow her leg or feet or any part of her body to come into contact with my hanging device as I straddled her legs. In the past she had run her feel up under my balls in a nice stroking motion but this time it seemed obvious she was avoiding it all together. The only contact she had was when I layed next to her with my device pressing into her hip area.

Morning arrived and she was already up and working when I awoke. We talked for a bit and then I got ready for work and took a shower. When I was in the bedroom getting dressed she walked in to do the same. As we both got dressed in silence, I eventually told her how I appreciate her holding onto my key for me. Her response wasn't exactly what I was expecting, and was something along the lines of " Um yeah, I guess I still have it....somewhere" and gave me sort of a blank look as she turned and looked at her luggage in the corner. I replied that she hadn't given it back to me, so she must still have it, and hopefully she hadn't lost it. She responded with a chuckle saying "well, that's why you have a spare key". I explained that I was just hoping she hadn't forgotten that she had it, and she replied that there was nothing to forget, that I had given it to her and when I wanted it back I would ask her for it. She was fairly confident that she could find it again, but couldn't exactly remember where she had put it. She finished up and left the room, and I was left trying to figure out what had just happened. Apparently she HAD forgotten that she had the key, but was well aware that I was still locked up. It became obvious to me that she still doesn't want to participate in this chastity thing at all so if I want to be locked that's fine, and if not, that's fine too. I'm not exactly sure where to go from here since playing alone is not something I want to do, and she still doesn't want to be involved.

I've been locked for 10 days straight now, and she could pretty much care less. She feels that it's something I've done to myself and she wants no part of it. She doesn't care that I do it, which is nice in a way since I want to do it, but it really takes two people to make it work. Being locked and ignored is no fun.

I'll have to think about this one.

[newbie]

One comment that still has me thinking is the one where I told her that I just wanted to make sure she hadn't lost the key in her suitcases or traveling, and she replied "there's nothing to forget, you asked me to hold the key so I figured you would ask for it when you wanted it back"..... or words to that effect.

It seems that she is perfectly happy holding on to the key and knowing I am locked in my device, and with her not being able to access my penis. She seems quite content with my oral servicing.

The only down side to that is she hasn't shown any indication of wanting to participate in any way.

[TwistedMister]

I try not to post many replies on 'Journey' threads, but I'm wondering if it might not have been better that, instead of waiting until the next morning to remind her that she had the key, while you were pleasuring her orally that just before the point of her first orgasm you had said something along the lines of "Damn, I really want to be inside you right now, could you unlock me?"

At that point, she would have had to make a decision on whether she would like to let you have some PIV...or if she *preferred* to leave you locked while you finished her. It is very possible that at that point she would let her urge to orgasm be her priority, she would *choose* to leave you locked and that decision would be supported/reinforced by her orgasm, creating a link (even if only on a sub-conscious level) between her pleasure and your being locked while providing it. Such a choice, made by *her* at such a moment, could be a more powerful influence than anything else you might have done.

No guarantee, of course, but quite possible, if not likely. Unfortunately, now you'll have to wait for another opportunity.

[newbie]

Wow, you just blew my mind (no pun intended)!! That's brilliant.

I appreciate you taking a chance on responding to my Journey entry, normally whenever someone does that it's some sort of criticizm.

Anyway, that makes complete sense. By taking her to the edge of having an orgasm, probably to a point that it would be difficult if not impossible for her to stop, and then ask her to unlock me (or give me the key in this case) would have most certainly resulted in a resounding "NO".

I very much believe that she would choose having an orgasm right then and there as opposed to stopping, looking for the key (which she still isn't sure where exactly it is), and then given it to me, have me unlock, finish getting hard, etc... knowing that by then the moment would have passed.

You're right, unfortunately this will have to wait until next time, but I really like how it makes the connection between her immediate need to orgasm and her denying me access to my orgasm and unlocked penis.

One thing that struck me when we were doing this the other night was that she never once asked me if I wanted to be unlocked, or was at all concerned that I wasn't enjoying it by not being able to orgasm myself. In the past when I was experimenting with chastity without a device she would ask if I wanted to cum too, once she was done. I would say *no, that's ok* or something along those lines and she would be like *ok, if you're sure* and would seem to be a little disappointed that I didn't want to. Totally different this time.

Also, one last thing. I was always concerned that oral gratification wouldn't be enough for her, that she would need me inside her at some point, but that doesn't seem to be the case. She had very intense orgasm(s) the other night and seemed VERY satisfied when done. We haven't done PIV sex since 4/24, and have only done her recieving oral since then (5/3 and 5/26) so it's been over a month and she seems fine with that.

[newbie]

Just a quick thing to ad to my previous post.

Another thing I have noticed in addition to her not being concerned about my lack of orgasms is that there was a sense of "you asked me to hold the key, I'm holding it, what's the issue?" type of attitude now from her, and I am absolutely loving that. She came right out and told when I inquired if she remembered she was holding the key she said "what's to remember? you wanted me to hold it so I am, when you want it back I figure you would tell me.." and the fact that she wasn't at all concerned about it's whereabouts, she told me "that's why you have an extra key (chuckle)". Very hot.

I feel that she is more open to spontaneous foreplay leading into sex since it's all her pleasure and that now she doesn't have to participate in any way like before. In the past she knew in the back of her mind that when we started fooling around that I was expecting it to lead to PIV every time. Not anymore, so the pressure is off.

[newbie]

Last night we went to bed fairly early, and when I got to the bedroom she was already in bed reading. I changed and climbed into bed. I hadn't been in the best of moods all evening, and was pretty quiet for me. I'm not sure what it was, but I knew I was better off just going to bed. Nothing happened, and I fell asleep almost immediately. During the night I did find her over on my side of the bed some, and we did cuddle a few times.

When I woke up she had already been up and came into the bedroom already showered with a cup of coffee for me. It was a nice surprise by itself, but then she began to give me a nice back massage. This never happens by the way.... I got up and wandered around the house eventually watching the news for a few minutes. She proceeded to get dressed and went back in the bathroom to finish getting ready. I decided it was time to start getting ready so I wandered into the bathroom.

If you'll remember, it's seemed that lately she has been avoiding the whole bathroom situation when I'm in there. Whether that's true or not I'm not sure, or maybe it's just a coincidence, but for the last couple of weeks that I've been locked full time, she hasn't come and gone in the bathroom like she has always done in the past.

Well, today as I was heading to the bathroom to shower I couldn't help but think "she knows I'm going to be coming in to strip and shower but she's still in there doing her thing". At any rate, I didn't let this stop me and went in and shut the door. She was standing there in front of the mirror and I proceeded to strip off my clothes. We weren't real chatty this morning, but we talked about a couple of things as I turned and faced her, walking toward the shower. I paid attention to her eyes to see if she would look down because at this point she was facing toward me. Her gaze never lowered, but she didn't turn away either. I went into the shower and shut the sliding door. While I was showering I saw her leave with her blowdryer. As I was finishing up she came back in, I slid the door open and grabbed my towel. I dried myself with her standing facing the mirror, which would have given her a nice reflection of me exiting the shower. I dried off and tried to be somewhat discreet as I didn't want to exagerate the fact that I was still wearing the device. Remember, baby steps. It was enough for me to have her in the bathroom and me wearing an exposed device, I didn't need to push the issue.

Not much happened after that as I got dressed for work, the kids got up, and she left of work. Looking back now she certainly did seem very loving and affectionate this morning, and also didn't try and time things so she wasn't in the bathroom at the same time I was. I'm not sure if this was just normal events or if there might be something to this. It's possible that she is starting to realize that I must be at least somewhat serious about this because it's the longest I've been locked by a long shot, and that she is still holding the key. The coffee and massage I got this morning definitely has me thinking though as this NEVER happens normally.

[newbie]

Our weekend was pretty busy as usual, so for the most part there wasn't too much to report. I was still locked, and things were all good as far as that was concerned.

Saturday night came around and I attempted some intimacy but was rebuffed as she told me that she came to bed to sleep and not fool around. Darn. Anyway, we were both tired and went right off to sleep.

Sunday morning rolled around and she was much more open to my attempts, and before I knew it we were both enjoying each other. As I was still locked in my device she was the receiver instead of the giver and I could tell she was really enjoying it. She stripped out of her pjs and I proceeded to go down on her, bringing her to orgasm more than once. While I was doing this I could tell that the device was rubbing on her leg and as we cuddled afterward it was pressed against her body with an attempted erection and a trail of pre cum coming out. It felt great and we laid there for quite a while. Eventually she said "how much longer are you going to wear that thing?", which shocked my somewhat but I wasn't totally surprised as I know she really likes to feel me inside her. I responded with something like "whenever you decide" to which she said " I didn't want you in that in the first place" to which I said "well, give me the key and I can unlock". I know, I could have played this alot better, but I could tell she was getting frustrated with the whole chastity thing and I probably wasn't going to make things better by being clever or manipulative. She told me that the device had been pressing into her leg or something and she didn't find that to be too comfortable. Understandable.

She replied something about how she had looked for the key before and didn't find it, so maybe it as in her carry-on. She went into her carry on later that morning and found the kye, putting it in the top drawer of my night stand. It had been 2 weeks since I locked myself into my HT and given her the key. A new record for me, and I certainly hadn't expected it to last that long without being let out.

Later that afternoon, once I had passed the official two week mark, I finally unlocked and checked things out. Everything had fared quite well, and there were no surprises when I took it off. I must admit it felt good to get it off and give everything a good cleaning.

I have been free ever since and am not sure when I'll lock again. I may do it at night again, or for a while when she goes on her next trip, not sure. I'm not even sure where we'll go from here, if chastity will play a roll of not, or if a device will be required if we do. My gut tells me that I'll still remain involved in enforced chastity to some extent especially since I know I can wear it around her freely and not have to hide it anymore.

One other thing, since I've been unlocked she still hasn't taken advantage of that situation so I'm still waiting.