Why Chastity?

[grubber]

I tried searching for this topic and couldn't find anything related so pardon if it has already covered.

I am curious as to why you got into chastity and has it met or exceeded your expectations no matter what they were?

For me, it was a way to bring some kind life back into our non existent sex life. In the beginning with chastity, it was a bumpy road to say the least. I just stayed patient and frustrated but persistent. Glad I did as chastity has far exceeded my expectations. I should say our expectations. Our intimacy is back stronger than ever. Our sex life is amazing and lots of it. No orgasms for me but still lots of sex just the way I like it (horny and frustrated). And best of all, we are really enjoying all aspects our new lives together not just the chastity. Something that was missing for too many years.

I do have to say that what I thought chastity was going to be like and what I have experienced aren't even close to each other. Fantasy and reality are definitely two different animals.

[TwistedMister]

'Chastity' came about as a combination of playing with restrictive toys ('gates of hell', 'stallion guard') and the realization that I was 'turned on' by strong, dominant women and forced participation in 'kinky' activities. Previously, I had usually been in the role of the dominant one, though I did have a habit of choosing strong women too, but was not consciously aware that I was doing so.

It has not met *all* of my expectations but, to be honest, my desires may be a little more complicated and twisted than most. It does seem to kick our sex life into a higher gear, which is exciting despite (or because of?) fewer orgasms. It also induces certain alterations in behavior that I think Mrs. Twisted likes.

[slave4missP]

For me, I came across a porn video online of a guy being teased in a cage, and thought it was hot, looked for more. That lead to more research on the subject... The fiction was hot, the practicality of really living the life was substantiated by users in this forum, and the possibility of better sex with more intense orgasms while becoming a better lover for my wife was enough to make me want to at least try it.
As far as my expectations, I haven't been doing it long enough to give an answer that would be meaningful to you. I was locked up shortly after starting for 5 straight days while on a business trip, and given a much needed orgasm when I returned... It was intense. Then made to wait 10 days before being allowed release with a titty fuck... My god, I'd never produced that much cum before. Currently, I'm 9 days without release, and wondering when she'll decide to let me come again. Hoping the orgasm will be as intense or greater than the last.
The sex in between orgasms has been fantastic, despite being denied release or being forced to stay caged while pleasuring my KH. She seems simultaneously mor horny and more satisfied.
It could be because we're still new at this, but I hope this doesn't change.

[locked4her55]

I am curious as to why you got into chastity and has it met or exceeded your expectations no matter what they were?

YES.

Next month my wife and I will celebrate our 5th anniversary of my being chaste. She told me just last month that sex has been better in the past 4+ years than it was the previous 15 years.

I thought it was pretty good during those times but I now know that it was good for me but not so good for her. My focus is now to pleasure her and I get great satisfaction in accomplishing that goal.

It's truly a win-win situation for us. I have no desire to put an end to this and neither does she.

[belocked]

I am curious as to why you got into chastity and has it met or exceeded your expectations no matter what they were?

It was just another kink to try at first. Our marriage was in a rut and it was another attempt to try livening it up. Entirely my idea, and my wife/KH wasn't much interested for a long time. It has greatly exceeded expectations; our marriage is way better and the sex outstanding. She's much happier, I'm much happier.

I do have to say that what I thought chastity was going to be like and what I have experienced aren't even close to each other.

True for me too. I thought it was going to be about me but it isn't. I never expected to change so much as a husband, to be much more attentive to her and what she wants. I'm currently at 6 days locked 24/7 and ready for anything; I'd do almost anything to be unlocked and have fun, and she knows and enjoys it.

[luckylocked]

For me it started as a kink that I had seen through porn and I just got a device. It took ages to get the Wife to come around and then a few false starts to get to where we are today. Now she loves it so much and we have a very good rythym going.
With my new MM Queens Keep being pretty much a perfect fit, she wants to try 24/7/365 this year actually going to the point of making me book checked baggage for a business trip this week so that I can lock myself with numbered keys for the 3 days I am away.
No turning back now.

[noid51]

I've been married for 30 years this year. Always frustrated with the quantity of sex in our marriage.I made up for it with a lot of masterbation and a rich fantasy life. Stumbled onto chastity late last year and thought it might be an answer for me. Funny, now I cum less and enjoy our sex life more. For me, I love having my wife in control of my cock and my orgasms. I've been able to be more honest with her about my submissive kinks. She was hesitant to try this "game" with me but has since warmed to the idea and things have really changed in the last few months. Don't know where we will be far into the future but I know it's something I want to do long term. I've got s MM jailbird on the build list and anxiously waiting.

[carolina cyclist]

We have been married 26 years and have had many attempts at chastity, at my request, to help stop a masturbation habit. Even when our sex life was in "high gear" early in our marriage I would still masturbate a couple of times a day. After taking a different approach to getting MrsL involved, she has finally realized the beauty of being in control of my orgasms. Since January, I have been allowed only 2 orgasms and am locked 24/7, with the exception of my CrossFit workouts. In the past, she always let me talk her into taking it off when I had to travel...which defeated the purpose. This time, she told me to not even bring up the subject and I didn't. She told me the other morning that she may be ready to take this to a whole new level....which for me...is completely fantastic! I asked her about ordering a custom fit steel device yesterday....SHE SAID YES!!! Going to take measurements next weekend....and move forward.

[grubber]

I have to say that I am impressed guys. It's very obvious that we march to a different drummer than the stereotypical "so called" macho males. I used to be one of those guys and I ain't going back. There is no way I would ever change our current relationship.

Keep'em coming guys. (Posts I mean!)

[Tame Lion]

I've written over half a million words on this so far. Bottom line is that it seemed very exciting to relinquish sexual control. After 15 years of considering it, I asked Mrs. Lion. We have been actively practicing enforced chastity for over a year. I like to come. I like being controlled. I love sexual attention.

Prior to lockup, our sex life had virtually disappeared. It's back in its own way. We are closer and happier. Lots of challenges and we struggle to get things right. Neither of us wants to quit.