[denied_one] No Idea What To Call This...

[denied_one]

BCWYWF for sure


I'm still working on acceptance.

[denied_one]

I've heard of he healthiness of journaling, but I'm not much of a "pen to paper" guy. So online journaling sounds great

This place will likely be a place for me to vent mainly and sort out my thoughts. Idk.

I'm grateful for these spaces

[denied_one]

So, my Wife/KH have been engaged in chastity play since I first brought it up in 2008.

Long time ago

Our play could very much be described as "one foot in, one foot out" but that was for me.

I have "surprise surprise" control issues! Nooo...yes.

So my attitude was such that would prohibit my Wife from really enjoying the chastity and She would frequently allow me to unlock and "edge myself" in the morning, (I now know, it was more than likely out of pity and to not hear me complain) well 3/4's of the time I would just cum anyway, and the whole thing was a farce.

We would play in "spurts" where at times She wouldnt allow to me edge on the morning, one of those such times was when I went our longest time with no orgasm for me, 16 days.

Also after we would conclude a "session" we would take a break and go non chastity for a month or two at a time, until it piqued my interest again enough to bring it up.


Well getting closer to 2023 as we played and the session would come to and end, I would notice myself missing the connection with my Wife that chastity helps facilitate. I didnt know that what it was at the time, I just knew I was down when a session came to an end

As I confided this to my Wife, She knew what it was and started to push for more and more chastity sessions.

What She wasn't telling me was that my 2:30 am and 5 am solo masturbation sessions were making Her feel unneeded by me and excluded...yikes!!

Sooo January 2024 I decided to "fix" my masturbation by using the chastity cage. The main times I would "indulge" were very early AM, as I said. So i properly deduced that if I went to bed every single night with the cage on, I would obviously wake UP with it on every morning. Sounded like a winner, so I began to wear it every night to bed, She knew.

So by late March of 2024, the heavy lifting of solo masturbation elimination had all but been done. I know this because l was alone and unlocked on April 4th 2024 and had the flat all to myself. So I took the opportunity to engage and spoil myself and see what a jerk off felt like.

It was the most hollow and empty jerk off I could have ever experienced. It was terrible.

Since then I have been free and alone and literally have no urge to jerk off, where as that would have been my "go to" time.

Soooo She decided to run with chastity big time after I showed her the Internet page base off the tpe.fromthewifesview story...the happy Marriage guide.

Well She read that thing and realized She needed to deny my orgasms for 90 days, of which She absolutely and unequivocally did, from May-July of 2024.

That changed me completely. We had always been a "get Her off first" couple, and not even where I would "rush to get Her off" so I could "get mine", nope I got slow each and every time and take MY time and build Her fire up.

In fact, a bit of TMI, we found Her "G-Spot" in February of last year. From there discovery, we also discovered that She is multi-orgasmic...which has been big big FUN, considering She used to always be comfortable with. "One and done"

So I definitely wasn't a "rush to my O" kind of lover in bed at all.

No what She found She loves about the chastity cage is ERECTION CONTROL

She loves that facet of the dynamic and i gotta admit those truncated 1/4 of erections, whole hugged by the cage, feels SO GOOD!!!

[denied_one]

We have been living our chastity journey much more on Her terms for the last calendar year.

****Edit: She said we have been living our journey completely on Her terms the last calendar year

Lots of changes including, the aforementioned complete solo masturbation cessation of myself. What used to be two to three orgasms a day has now become an average of two to three orgasms a month and She has grown to enjoy 3 or 4 daily.

While I used to cum early mornings, NOW she is the one who "gets off" early am, with my loving and willing assistance.

We are closer emotionally than we have ever been and trust each other more deeply than ever before. We have been married for 20 years this past September.

Current day

We are on an "injury timeout" from the cage due to a pesky little sore that I am nursing away. And we are, i guess, sort of celebrating where our chastity journey has brought us together over the last year. She has us on a bit of a non chastity break, but I suspect She is gauging to see my mentals and where I am at, and am I "taking advantage" Of course I am NOT! For, I am a new man! Able to control his urges and able to follow Her lead...so any "fun" we engage in, She has indicted Her interest and excitement

It helps that I'm uncaged, presently.

Does that about cover it @MrsLockNkey?

[MrsLockNkey]

Yes you have been a really good boy at proving that you are not taking advantage of my kindness. Makes this wife/kh very proud

[PornAddict103]

Bravo! Both of you!

[denied_one]

Yes you have been a really good boy at proving that you are not taking advantage of my kindness. Makes this wife/kh very proud

***Blushing***

Thank you!

[denied_one]

Soooo anyone know a good way to alleviate a cyst?

Without TMI, it's kept the cage from being applicable for now, and that's really all that is keeping it from being "applicable"

I am applying a couple warm compresses a day, seems to be getting smaller, original size was a very small pebble ebbs and flows between that size and almost flat

The thing developed about six weeks ago after using an amazing metal cage, I know I know, custom is the way to go. We just don't have $350-$550+ for one right now, with kidlets

I'm nursing it ..

[Chosen_Jackal]

If it’s still there after six weeks you should see your doctor about it. Far too little to go on based on your description here to say anything else than that right now.
Good luck!

[denied_one]

I'm locked again

I hope the pic isn't "too much" in my journey

Please lmk if it is