She Told her Best Friend

[Davarian30]

Personally, I think it is a bit of everything mentioned.
Having shared the same want, I would say there is a bit of exhibitionism in it as well. Granted, this is not visual (unless you are put on display), but you are still revealing a naughty/taboo aspect of yourself to another. The fact that so many would consider use of a chastity device to be on the fringe, or edgy, just magnifies it.
My wife's best friends, one local and one far away, were brought into the know at an early date. Seeing the local one, with her knowing that I was caged, was awesome.

[poor]

For me it is about having my wife so totally comfortable with it that she freely tells someone else about it and also encourages her to adopt the same "openness" that comes with it.

Chatelaine has mentioned that she would be able to talk about it with one of her lady friends that I know but rarely meet. Although I have mixed feelings about this, the above quote is very true.

[TwistedMister]

Okay, several of you just repeated "it's hot," but nobody is really explaining it. Or maybe I'm not picking up the nuances.

Is there an element of humiliation?

Is it the hope of a threesome?

Is it the potential for dominance by a 3rd party?

The thrill of being discovered in something illicit or taboo?

For me, it's all of the above. [Erotic] humiliation certainly plays a large part- a normally very private part of one's life is exposed to a third party, even more so if the exposure is literal, where the third party is allowed to see and touch...and especially so if one is otherwise apparently dominant in other aspects of his life.

In many societies the male has traditionally been viewed as being dominant, we are typically bigger and stronger than women and have the power to force them (and weaker males) to do what we want them to do. For those of us who enjoy the eroticism of [sexual] Power Exchange play, the idea that our KH could or would expose our 'dirty little secret' to someone else can be erotic. Depending on one's 'traditional' mindset and appearance of being dominant, being exposed as having one's sexual organ locked and controlled by a woman entails a certain amount of humiliation. How many people have had dreams of suddenly finding themselves in their underwear in front of others, and find the prospect embarrassing? How many people frantically reach for something with which to cover themselves if they discover someone else observing them naked? The embarrassment/humiliation of the idea of being so exposed, with the added element of the sexual organ being locked and controlled by a woman can be several orders of magnitude greater...but very erotic.

My wife wears her Key on a necklace and it is often visible (especially if she is wearing a low-cut top and her cleavage is exposed as well). People sometimes ask her what the Key is for, and she tells me when they do. Usually she gives them a somewhat cryptic answer, but the idea that she could, or might, one day tell someone what it is actually for is quite erotic to me...as is the thought that there are people out there who won't have to ask, because they already know what it probably means.

The 2nd and 3rd possibilities are almost the same- any threesome that might occur is almost certainly going to be marked by a certain amount of dominance (which I find extremely erotic).

The 4th possibility also plays a part. It seems that exploration of sexual taboos is often erotic, and the thrill of being so discovered (along with the inherent element of humiliation) is also erotic.

I find the idea that my wife could or might tell a friend to be very arousing, and the idea of a show'n'tell even more so for all of those reasons...and the possibility that it might happen has grown in the last 2 or 3 months. My wife works with a woman who has a side business of home parties featuring erotic products- everything from lingerie and massage oils to realistic dildos to BDSM gear. We have made several purchases (including some rather explicit items) and they are developing a relationship. Since this woman can certainly deduce certain things about our 'private' life by the nature of what we have purchased, she is already privy to some of our secrets. It would not be much of a leap if she were to learn of one more, and it doesn't take much imagination to see how it could happen.

[jnuts]

Belle has told a group of "mommy" friends that she has online. Several of them have now become reviewers for us on our toy review site. We have only met the one in person thus far and chastity never came up. It is pretty weird that they all ask us sex advice now. I guess it makes sense since we are the "kinky" ones, but if you would have told me 2 years ago that we would have been in this position I would have told you you were crazy.

For me the exciting part was the whole taboo thing. I guess a little bit of exhibitionism. We obviously aren't doing anything in front of them but they are free to read about our escapades, and being people that were met outside of this little sexual circle, that is kind of exciting.

[hotrob99]

I'm so glad to see others writing about this. We have talked about telling others...both playmates in the lifestyle and just her vanilla (or semi-vanilla) friends. We have a lot of fun talking about it and fantasizing. I know that I do want her to share it and to show off my cock in my CB3000. At times she admits to enjoying the idea of me being a bit embarrassed when we tell a friend or she makes me show it off. And I have to admit that the embarrassment or humiliation aspect is hot for me. I have read some great fiction fantasies with that component and they are a huge turn on.

[bigdtx8]

Jnuts, TwMstr, Kpb, Tcs, Dev (and others):
Have any of you had the chance to actually tell anyone else since this thread went dormant ?
Brian

[VinnyDee]

My wife told her best friend a few years ago, but her girlfriend had joined us for some kinky sex in the past that was a lot more kinkier than being locked up so it was not a big deal for us. At one time we had considered letting my wife's girlfriend decide when I could have an orgasm, but my wife said that she would feel like she no longer had control over anything, so we did not.

[Shepherdsflock]

A couple of months ago, one of my wife's friends was going through a rough patch in her marriage. Similar to where we were before chastity. Her husband had developed a porn habit, she found out and confronted him. They fought about her lack of sexual engagement, and he felt justified in seeking out porn and masturbation to fill the gap. My wife's friend didn't know what to do.

My wife asked me if she could tell her friend about how keeping me in chastity had done wonders for us. I was kind of hesitant to say yes, but I told her she could as long as she didn't give too many details about our own sex life. I never asked her if she told her friend, so it's possible she might know.

[Caged55]

Having "come-out" about chastity to a couple we are friends with, has probably been one of the most liberating things my KH did. If you followed my "hot-tub" thread, it lead to an amazing erotic journey, one which was truly liberating and incredibly sexual.
Showing off my JB for the first time was a moment of incredible trepidation, with my KH "preparing MrsB beforehand made it exiting... Now we would not have it any other way. My KH has shared keeping me in chastity with 2 lady friends - both love the idea and have had absolutely no problem with the "chastity concept" and in a way envy my wife for the great marriage we have and me being so attentive etc...

It will definitely add an element of eroticism and a sexual undercurrent to future get togethers, knowing that her friends know you locked.... Enjoy the journey