pushing past the "blue balls"

[Aarkey]

Even after 2 broken orgasms, the pressure was NOT relieved. I didn't ejaculated much at all either time, and 2 days later she gave me a full orgasm which finally relieved the discomfort of the blue balls. It had gotten so bad that I had major discomfort all the way up my pelvic area. I'm having to face the truth... I've been getting a little testy lately though, so I think I'm going to wind up back in jail.

Thanks for the update, and like yourself, without a significant release, the blue ball pain moves into my abdomen and is too great to go forward. What defines the significance of the release varies, and how long it takes varies a bit too - usually depending on how much teasing. But what happens for me (and it happens w/o a belt too) is that my ejaculate starts to coagulate a bit and become more of a gel than a fluid and that is what I think irritates me internally so much. I've researched the causes quite a bit and it is something that happens to many men, some from medication (I'm on none) some from dehydration (definitely not my issue) others its just a genetic thing. Either way, if I can't "clear the line" every week or so, it becomes a game ender. I'm curious if you might notice the same thing.

I also want to just encourage you to communicate with your wife regarding your "getting a little testy" - because communication can be a very critical thing that many of us guys aren't very good at.

[nervous newb]

I'm happy to give a short update here. I may have found a solution. My wife/keyholder had left me unlocked for about 2-3 weeks (I don't remember, I was just enjoying the freedom, but did have a couple of times where I failed and masturbated) but this last week, she abruptly texted me and told me to get locked up again. I dragged my feet on it a bit, and wound up not doing it until the next morning. Here's I am, 5 days later, and I had a FILTHY dream about her while napping. I woke up, and sure enough, I had a case of horrible blue balls. Pain in the lower back, lower abdomen, it was debilitating. She was gone, and we're out of town, and I had inadvertently left my key at home. So I'm literally stuck with no way out. I have some moments when I amuse myself immensely, and I had one of those. I picked up my phone, said "ok google", waited for the chime, and asked "how do I get rid of blue balls." I really only expected the results to amuse me. To my surprise, the first result was someone saying to do the "Valsalva Maneuver." I figured it couldn't hurt to try. So I did it, and it was near instant relief.
BINGO!!!
Now, here's a few disclaimers. It didn't relieve it completely, but it made it manageable, and that's really all I need, is a way to keep it so I can function normally, I don't need to be completely free of discomfort (that would defeat the purpose of tease and denial anyways.) But, if this works to make blue balls manageable on a long term basis, this could mean a breakthrough for us on longer term orgasm denial and chastity. I'm kind of curious how long it would take for me to have a nocturnal emission.
I was able to do the maneuver in the bathroom, so I did it a few times when I had to make a nature visit anyways, and it helped a little more each time. But I also noticed myself getting a little gassy, and after about 5 hours of doing it once or twice an hour, I had to unload a monster steamer. And I mean monster! The kind where I thought the hotel toilet was going to have to have flames painted on it like Jeff Gordon's Nascar paint scheme to flush it down. Fortunately the hotel toilet was up to the task, even though it doesn't have flames painted on it, but it sure earned a flame paint job!
Here's hoping this info helps anybody else struggling to push through blue balls, or is constipated, or both.
If I can keep managing it and get past it, I may talk to the wife about getting a strap on that I can wear to use on her so she doesn't have to forgo penetrative sex while I'm being denied. That idea gets me hot (it's what my dream about her was about) and she's pretty much game to try anything I want as long as it's not too expensive, physically painful, or involves other people.

[Furjoza]

Have you ever tried to be chaste without device? If you can stand a week without any pain or something without device and in device you cant so you got your problem. Pain below belly while aroused or even not are most often a symptom of to tight ball ring.

[Furjoza]

Pain below belly while aroused is very often sypthom of to tight ball ring. Try having blue balls without device.

[Aarkey]

Pain below belly while aroused is very often sypthom of to tight ball ring. Try having blue balls without device.

FWIW, I have gone without a device and I have the same issue. Actually it was a little sooner for me. I have another issue which might cause it, or be unrelated - I'm simply not sure. My ejaculate coagulates quite a bit after 4 or 5 days. It is normal, though not super common to have it as noticeable as happens in my case. I am not sure if that has anything to do with the blue ball pain, but like the blue ball pain, the coagulation happens with or without a device.

[nervous newb]

I've got a larger ball ring I'm going to try. I love being locked for my wife, and I have a terrible masturbation habit, so I haven't been successful at abstaining from mistreating without a device. I know the device isn't 100% secure, but it works for me to prevent me from masturbating.
Since we were at a hotel, I was able to sit in a hot tub, and that helped a ton, also keeping the heated seats on in the car helped a lot, and an occasional advil or two seemed to help too.
All put together, it seemed like I had finally pushed past it all and was going to get to comfortable (but extremely horny) and not have blue balls, and I was kind of excited to get there, but when we got home my wife decided my behavior on the trip had been worth a full release.
I think the body can adapt to pretty much anything, I know that when we first started chastity a few months ago, I couldn't go 2 full days without getting that nasty case of blue balls, now I'm up to a week, sometimes more (depending on teasing sometimes less) before it hits. It does get depressing because I want to explore a variety of different facets of chastity, including long term orgasm denial, but I think I just need to keep pushing that limit a little bit each time, and eventually the body will adapt. Being able to get mostly past the blue balls this time, I'm hoping it will be faster and easier next time.

[gregstep427]

I have trouble when wearing my 48mm ring my bag inlarge quick. like to wear some kind of belt to keep close to the body or underwear sometime s stretching by hand and good cream will give some relief.

[TwistedMister]

...what happens for me (and it happens w/o a belt too) is that my ejaculate starts to coagulate a bit and become more of a gel than a fluid and that is what I think irritates me internally so much. I've researched the causes quite a bit and it is something that happens to many men, some from medication (I'm on none) some from dehydration (definitely not my issue) others its just a genetic thing. Either way, if I can't "clear the line" every week or so, it becomes a game ender. I'm curious if you might notice the same thing.

I have occasionally noticed that after going a long time without ejaculation (month or more, definitely not as short as a week), the next one can be sort of yellowish in color and rather thick. But, I haven't noticed any 'irritation' or other physical effects other than it being less of a 'spurt' and more of an 'ooze' due to the thick consistency.

I rarely ever get 'blue balls', once in a while after some extensive teasing, but it's usually gone within 24-48 hours. I do get the back pain sometimes, but this seems to be more of an issue with strong(er) erections and smaller rings rather than an actual case of 'blue balls'. These factors are variable, of course, but I think it equates to an increase of pressure on a/some nerve(s) that translates into pain in the back. Once the erection subsides the pain disappears as well.

Nerves in the human body can be funny things, and sometimes what you feel does not correctly indicate the cause or point of stimulus. For a while I had a funny little thing where I could scratch a particular spot on my belly, and feel it on the calf of my leg. Don't know what caused it, it stayed that way for a couple of years, but now it seems to be gone. I was unable to determine if it was a neuromuscular issue or something haywire in the brain itself.