Reluctant Wife

[locked4her55]

quote="wonderingwife"]Take a breathe and chill, you have implied something that wasn't there. [/quote]

Hey, I'm breathing fine and in no way steamed about your statement. I am one that just needed to stand up for what I believe are many of us here on the Forum that enjoy a happy healthy chastity lifestyle.

Did you demand your wife take the key with NO discussion--without hearing her out and how she feels about chastity?

I demand NOTHING from my wife be it chastity of anything else.

Have you accepted her limits or do you set up the limits?

If I were to set "chastity limits" of her then there would be no chastity in our relationship. She on the other hand has free reign to call the shots.

Do you work with her or do you demand it be done your way?

Already answered above. Our relationship works because we communicate and listen to each other and strive to make each other happy.

If you brought up the idea and listened to her feelings about the how and why it would work and allowed her to find a way to make it work for her and enjoy it: THAT’S give and take and it is the very point I made when I commented about how bad dog and I found our own solution, our own give and take.

No relationship works, stand the stresses of being part of a couple in life without some give and take, consideration and patients from each other.

I did bring chastity into our life for several reasons and ended up botching it up pretty good in the beginning and not because I forced it on her. We talked and talked and talked some more and I altered my lifestyle to accommodate how we were to proceed. She very much liked the change and has said on numerous occasions that she is truly vested in this continuing.

You made a statement:
"I’d be truly surprised to find out the chastity relationships that work, that are happy, don’t have a lot of give and take"

I'm responding by saying. It works for us and we're both very happy with little, not a lot of give and take.

[RegularJoe]

I dunno... not trying to start a 'pissing match'....and absolutely no disrespect to anyone...but aren't most long-term relationships (sexual and otherwise) founded on 'give and take'? Compromise works, 'my way, or the highway', doesn't. Mutual needs are met.

This chastity stuff, including what Lady Beth and I do....is simply adult playtime. Intense fun, but just merely fun. Full of all sorts of symbolism, angst, and drama...but still just fun.