A new guide

[Charlz]

Thanks everyone again. I'm working on an update. I'm adding a number of resources, including those suggested here, and am trying to clean up the navigation, grammar, and other such technical aspects. I also, rather surprisingly, got my wife/keyholder to write something, which I'm working on incorporating.

Any additional comments, critiques, criticisms, and such are still very welcomed as I try to make this useful and useable.

[Spaceman]

Very nicely written. A comment on the KH section, i feel that in general the tendency of those who are locked is a desire to stay locked, so arguments and rows are more likely to result in a kh saying she doesn't want to do this anymore than adding days.

For is she will add days for rules breaking, bad behaviour etc. Or just on a whim.

Of course i understand this is wtitten from your experience in your relationship.

[Charlz]

I see what you're saying, @Spaceman, and I agree... I'm thinking about adding a paragraph like this:

In many cases, if an argument between the couple is significant, the best course of action may be to remove chastity from the equation by giving the wearer the keys, and permission to use them as he sees fit. Often that action alone, disarming the power dynamic enforced chastity and keyholding can create, can change the discussion positively, enabling the better communication and trust the couple has (hopefully) developed to be put to use without any chastity-related threats, implied or imagined. Depending on the relationship's dynamic, this can also be a powerful signal to a wearer who wants to be locked that the keyholder does not want to participate until the misalignment between the couple is addressed.

I probably need to clean it up a little, but do you think that addresses your comment?

[Charlz]

I updated the site based on comments... https://abalancedmarriage.neocities.org/.

I certainly welcome more input on ways to make it a valuable resource for the community.

[beyondCUCK]

thanks for the great read.
We are in the beginning journey of our male chastity adventure and appreciate all the help you have given.
We have kept our eyes out for interesting chastity intro guides and here are a couple other books that really helped us;

"Unlocking Desire" by Jessica Blair (a woman's slant on entering a chastity relationship and how to get it started - this one worked for us)

"Locked - In Love" by Key Barrett (more of a journal on how he experimented with chastity and his results)