I Need Moral Support!

[Tom Allen]

Since Tutor totally nailed this one, I'm not going to reiterate his points. But take a step back form this and try to consider some things.

You found something that resonated with you, and you went from 0 to 60 in practically no time at all. The problem is that Ab also went from 0 to 60, but only as a passenger. Despite the fact that this trip has been fun, he needs to take a break in order to process what's been happening. If you'd led him to believe that this weekend was the end point (at least of this leg of the trip), then you need to let go of *your* desire (and your ego trip) and give him what he needs.

Remember, you don't need to set any records on the first time out.

That said, because your period start, you might give him some options, so that he feels more of a partnership with this.
"Ab, honey, Aunt Flo came and will be staying for a few days. If you want, I could let you out this weekend, but I was really looking forward to a nice, long, romantic few days. What would you say to remaining caged until *next* weekend, and I promise to make it up to you, big time?"
This makes him feel like a player, and not a spectator in your fantasy.

But be prepared for his counter-offer, and don't discount it or feel disappointed if it's not what *you* had in mind. Try to remember that it's the interaction that helps to make it fun.

[thumper]

OK, so I'm coming to the party late and I think you've already received good advice *and* I'm not sure I'm coming from this from the same POV as Ab BUT I wanted to add that getting to the point where I am now where I truly accept Belle's control over the cock and what it does - even though I instigated the exchange - has taken me almost two years.

The thing about bottling up all those orgasms is it also bottles up a bunch of hormones and emotions and, if you're not careful, they can get the better of you. Ab was disappointed and got pissed. I used to be like that, too. Now, I don't get pissed, I get even more turned on.

I guess that's a long way to say, I'd stick with the plan (offering him a choice due to the period is a great idea), but continue to reiterate that YOU ARE IN CHARGE. Assuming, of course, that he wants to keep playing along.

[Dev]

24 hours later, here's an update (and once again, input is welcome...)

This morning, I read everyone's comments. I decided that the going out to dinner naked idea was a good one. We have restaurant near us with "naked" in the name so I sent this email to Ab:

Buck's Naked Barbecue
Ab's Naked Cock
Friday Night
Whaddya say?

About 20 minutes later I got an email from our daughter saying she was coming home from college for the weekend. (When it rains, it pours as they say.). I forwarded that message to Ab and he replied, but no reply to my invite out to dinner Friday night.

The day goes on. No message. I had a really busy day so I wasn't online all that much (unusual for me).

Finally, I get home. We chat over a glass of wine, move to dinner, more chatting, discuss the assholes I had to deal with all day (it was a really long day at work) and finally, we get to the best part of the conversation:

"Let's talk about sex." (Perfect opening, Ab, thanks.)

"Yes, let's. You never answered my email about going out to dinner."

"Well, that's because right after you sent it, you sent the message about our daughter coming home for the weekend."

"Well yes, that's true..."

Pause. I wait. Ab looks at me. "Listen, this is what I am thinking," he says. "Let's go for another week locked up. This isn't the right week...I wanted big sex. But now we have your mom, her friend, our daughter and on top of that, YOU GOT YOUR PERIOD!"

"Oh," I said, all innocent, "you looked in the trash?"

"Yes, I did," says Ab, "but I have other ways of knowing."

I pause. "So, what are you saying? Stay locked up for another week and then...?"

"And then release me as we agreed, on Friday at 6 pm and relock up on Sunday at 6 pm. Just a week later."

"Sounds good to me," says I. "And when you are released, you'll come and come and squirt all over the ceiling?"

Ab says, "Don't set me up for failure."

I said, "We have low ceilings." He smiled at that.

We made a motion (from the Committee of Caged Men) and voted on it and he seems totally cool with going another week. And it was his idea, not mine.

Interesting, huh? Love this game...

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[mikecb]

*hops up and down cheering*

[Atone]

We made a motion (from the Committee of Caged Men) and voted on it and he seems totally cool with going another week. And it was his idea, not mine.

D

This is great news, I am glad it is all working out (other than the really bad day and all the chaos going on this weekend).

Don't discount the fact that he is doing this for you. Make sure you thank him for indulging you in your game. Much like you would like him to thank you for locking him up.

Do does this mean no naked barbecue either?

Have a great weekend,

-A

[Tom Allen]

Memo from the CoCM:
Our work here is done. Who's next on the list?

[Dev]

Yes, it was a good outcome. I am pleased with the way things are working out.

It was interesting, though, that he wanted to present it as a motion that we "voted" on. He tells me he wants me to be in control but then he pulls back. We're definitely working on finding the boundaries.

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[Dev]

Don't discount the fact that he is doing this for you. Make sure you thank him for indulging you in your game. Much like you would like him to thank you for locking him up.

Believe me, he will definitely get thanked...many times over.

Do does this mean no naked barbecue either?

Have a great weekend,

-A

I'm not sure---maybe not for dinner tonight, but perhaps lunch on Sunday? We'll see what Hannah has to say. She's a picky eater and I am not sure she'd be up for barbecue. On the other hand, maybe it would be best to just wait until next Friday.

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[Tutor]

Great going on the negotiating Dev!

[Dev]

Great going on the negotiating Dev!

Thanks, Tutor. Your advice was very helpful to get us back to the right frame of mind for a conversation.

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