Chaste Marriage - The rise, the fall, the good, the bad

[VinnyDee]

My wife developed medical problems so that intercourse was painful and oral sex is not something she likes anymore. That is how we got into chastity and why my wife would love if I never had an orgasm again. She has no need whatsoever for my penis and likes how pliable and agreeable when denied orgasms for long periods of time. As she says, now that she had experienced control of our sex life, she can never go back to our old sex life that focuses on my pleasure first and then hers. I always made sure she had pleasure though because I enjoy giving pleasure more than receiving it. Chastity is perfect for our situation.

[Shepherdsflock]

My wife developed medical problems so that intercourse was painful and oral sex is not something she likes anymore. That is how we got into chastity and why my wife would love if I never had an orgasm again. She has no need whatsoever for my penis and likes how pliable and agreeable when denied orgasms for long periods of time. As she says, now that she had experienced control of our sex life, she can never go back to our old sex life that focuses on my pleasure first and then hers. I always made sure she had pleasure though because I enjoy giving pleasure more than receiving it. Chastity is perfect for our situation.

Wow, your story is a lot like ours. My wife has suffered from vaginismus (spelling?) our whole marriage. Vaginal intercourse has always been painful for her. She literally got no pleasure from PIV sex, it was just painful for her. She is also super prone to UTI infections and almost always got one after sex. So you can imagine our sex life was about as frigid as an iceberg. Just within the last couple of years she started letting me bring her to climax manually before I penetrated her, because I thought she should get some pleasure out of sex, but the anticipation of painful penetration afterward was a real killjoy.

Chastity has changed all that. Although my penis is not involved anymore, we went from sex every 4-6 weeks to 2-3 times per week now. She is now eager and happy, and even initiates every once in a while. She loves keeping me locked up while getting me all worked up. There's something about knowing I'm super horny and powerless to do anything about it that really gets her excited. She can get close to orgasm just teasing me while locked. Then she has me finish her off by hand (only takes a minute or two vs FOREVER the old way).

I can't believe the difference. I still think to myself that I wish we would have discovered this year's ago. Sure, I had to give up most of my orgasms and total use of my penis, but we now have a happy sex life. I would trade infrequent orgasms and bad sex for a happy sex life with very few orgasms. Plus, it gave us something new to learn together. Learning to get me to orgasm while locked has been kind of fun for both of us. Learning something new made sex exciting and fun.

[WifeIsVanilla]

I agree with the majority here, maybe to the extreme. I am pretty much obsessed with chastity and chastity devices, but am thoroughly disgusted at the thought of cuckolding.

[Subervent]

I agree with the majority here, maybe to the extreme. I am pretty much obsessed with chastity and chastity devices, but am thoroughly disgusted at the thought of cuckolding.

That is a good thing! I know many people bite off more than they can chew and jump right into things too quick, only to find out that doing so may be very damaging to a relationship.

I def agree with the obsession with chastity lol. It easily becomes a way of life for many.

[TwistedMister]

I agree with the majority here, maybe to the extreme. I am pretty much obsessed with chastity and chastity devices, but am thoroughly disgusted at the thought of cuckolding.

I, on the other hand, am at the other extreme. Cuckolding arouses me tremendously, as does forced participation in a variety of other...unusual...sexual activities. The idea, risk, and reality of being forced to participate in activities that I would normally see as 'disgusting' and 'perverted', and in which I would never engage willingly is a major turn-on. Enforced chastity is but one part of that, and is not the cause of it. My interest in the unusual began long before I became aware of 'enforced chastity' and devices with which to accomplish it.

However, I agree that cuckolding does not necessarily goes 'hand-in-hand' with 'chastity'...the reverse of that might more often be the case, but again, it is not a 'requirement'.

[Subervent]

Yup. I just always inform people interested in an open relationship to tread lightly. It honestly can be ones demise in a relationship. But, it can be quite the opposite also. Everyone is different. I just don't want to see anyone bite off more than they can handle and regret it for the rest of their life. IMO some fantasies are best to be just that, fantasies.

Hope all works out for everyone whether or not you are on the cuckold side of things, loyal, single and locked, or locked by a friend etc. Speaking of which... not sure how many here have friends that hold the key, but I've spoken to a few who have and it worked out pretty good for those who really were not interested in chastity and relationships.

Have a good new years everyone!

[newbie]

I know this is an old thread, but I just stumbled across it.

I've been interested in the concept of cuckolding but only as a fantasy and nothing that I would really consider.......until I became more and more involved in chastity and I saw it as somewhat of a "gift" I could give to my wife.

While it never happened, and I never came out and told her about my fantasy, there was one time when she was on a business trip with a male coworker (whom I've met and he's a great guy) who she use to travel with alot, and I actually mentioned that if they wanted to share a hotel room I would be ok with that. I can't remember how that actually came up, or how I presented my idea, but she was pretty much like "what? no, that's ok". So I dropped it. I guess I brought it up because I know they traveled alot together and would go out to dinner that such in the evenings, so I suppose I felt she would be most comfortable with him over anyone else I could imagine.

I think the idea came about because I had been having performance issues in the bedroom, and was also practicing enforced chastity, so I looked at it as more of a "gift" to my wife to give her something I was unable to provide.

Anyway, I haven't considered it since, and obviously she hasn't mentioned anything related to being in a situation like that. Although I still find cuckolding hot..