Time between orgasms

[EDAS]

There is an opposition between DESIRE and PLEASURE (or orgasm). An orgasm has the awful consequence of putting an end to desire. It puts an end to the fun (desire). At least this is what I find. It's an "either or" situation. EITHER you have desire, i.e. you are in this exalting machine called 'desire', OR you are in this other thing called 'pleasure', which means that your desire is spent.

So which is the higher peak: desire or pleasure (orgasm)? Well, as we know, an orgasm lasts about 7 to 10 seconds. After which you just come down like a lead balloon. While desire cannot be spent, it can last forever (pretty well), i.e. as long as you don't trip it up with this thing called 'orgasm' (pleasure).

The thing is, desire is also a pleasure, but a different kind of pleasure. It is a pain/pleasure. It is in a way 'painful' NOT to orgasm, right?

You see, this pain/pleasure thing of desire is like riding a bicycle. The reason you keep pedalling when you are on a bike is to make sure that you always fall forward. On a bike that is moving, you FALL FORWARD (and not to either side), which is what you want when riding a bike. On a bike, you are thus doing just fine thank you, if you fall forward, so that in reality what is happening (as you ride that bike) is that you are 'falling/staying up' on that bike (by pedalling).

"Falling/staying up" = pain/pleasure, which is the pain/pleasure of desire.

So... have a great bike ride, everyone!

[EDAS]

So, to answer the question about "time between orgasms"... My answer is: as much time as possible. I do fuck and I do masturbate, but most never to completion, i.e never to orgasm. And when I do get an orgasm it is more because of an accident: I will go over the top, i.e. orgasm when the stimulation just gets to be too much.

I am not in a cage, I might add. So I do this on my own, as it were. I have gone up to three months without orgasming, though, again, I have fucked and masturbated a great deal during those three months.

Currently, it has been three and a half, almost four, weeks since my last orgasm. Because, damn it, a little more than three weeks ago, as I was fucking my wife, I came by accident. I was mad at myself. Although, yes, I did enjoy the orgasm (I am human after all). But I do much prefer these long periods of continuous desire without orgasm.They are more intense. Yes, that's the word: INTENSE.

[Look02]

There is an opposition between DESIRE and PLEASURE (or orgasm). An orgasm has the awful consequence of putting an end to desire. It puts an end to the fun (desire). At least this is what I find. It's an "either or" situation. EITHER you have desire, i.e. you are in this exalting machine called 'desire', OR you are in this other thing called 'pleasure', which means that your desire is spent.

So which is the higher peak: desire or pleasure (orgasm)? Well, as we know, an orgasm lasts about 7 to 10 seconds. After which you just come down like a lead balloon. While desire cannot be spent, it can last forever (pretty well), i.e. as long as you don't trip it up with this thing called 'orgasm' (pleasure).

YES! Another great post! I've been talking with my wife about my desire to cum, to get as close as possible but without having an orgasm. So I like being teased and I like to fuck with my wife - but always without cuming myself. It is the ongoing desire I crave for, not the few seconds of cuming! Womens orgasm is different to a mans. A mans orgasm is such a short experience, and when it's over it's the end of desire - the peak is gone. When a women gets an orgasm it seems to be different - more like the beginning of something pleasurable than the end of it.

Found a nice pic to illustrate the difference between men and women some time ago. Have fun!

(from 9gag.com) - P.S.: Is it possible to resize images?

[EDAS]

I love those two pictures. They translate admirably well the different between a man's orgasm and the female orgasm.

Of course, as we know, women have the privilege of multiple orgasms, and none of these orgasms seems to reduce her desire or, for that matter, her pleasure. One of my girl friend's masturbate to 25 orgasms. She just wanted to see how many she, as a woman, could have. She usually, in normal circumstances (fucking or masturbation), has maybe 4 or 5, sometimes but rarely 6 or 7 orgasms.

[Grizzly228]

Thanks for all the opinions and responses. I was more looking for the Intensity of the actual orgasm, amount of ejaculate, number of intense contractions, etc. I'm well aware of the drop off and usually thank my girlfriend for not letting me cum the following day. Even though in the moment I would have literally done anything to cum and pled and begged to her as much.

[Look02]

I was more looking for the Intensity of the actual orgasm, amount of ejaculate, number of intense contractions, etc.

To be honest: I never counted contractions or measured the amount of ejaculate (and frankly I do not know why anyone should do this - but to each his own). In my point of view "orgasm sensation" is not closely related to those "scientific" parameters.

When I have an orgasm (after a long time being denied or at the "ancient" times when I've been masturbating frequently), it's all about the emotions and what's going on in my head, not what comes out of my dick.

Regarding the emotional "peak" this thread has given me some very nice food for thought (and conversations with my wife/KH) - especially about the question, if the ongoing emotional "high" while being denied is more desirable than the (short-lived) peak of orgasm itself. Maybe this is not what you wanted, but I still like it a lot.

[LOCKED HUSBAND]

I was more looking for the Intensity of the actual orgasm, amount of ejaculate, number of intense contractions, etc.

To be honest: I never counted contractions or measured the amount of ejaculate (and frankly I do not know why anyone should do this - but to each his own). In my point of view "orgasm sensation" is not closely related to those "scientific" parameters.

When I have an orgasm (after a long time being denied or at the "ancient" times when I've been masturbating frequently), it's all about the emotions and what's going on in my head, not what comes out of my dick.

Regarding the emotional "peak" this thread has given me some very nice food for thought (and conversations with my wife/KH) - especially about the question, if the ongoing emotional "high" while being denied is more desirable than the (short-lived) peak of orgasm itself. Maybe this is not what you wanted, but I still like it a lot.

I agree with Look02 I prefer the constant desire and the emotional high it creates . I would have to say in our experience time of denial has had little to do with intensity or volume , but that may be due to the disappointment that I had an orgasm and will have to start over .

At some point during our first year we noticed the attitude difference after an orgasm ( I say we but I think it was when my wife said you become a real asshole after you cum ) . Hence the Neanderthal man , I will see you next time I need to cum and if I masturbated which was almost daily that could be quite awhile ( not at all fair to her ) . Yes we talked and communicated about life in general but the passion was not the same anymore it was like we just co-existed . I must admit that I and I know for fact she does not want to go back to co-existing so denial is definitely here to stay and chastity keeps me reminded .

Sorry if I took this off your subject but I would say I don't really see an intensity or volume difference , the orgasms I've had after long denial are good but no more intense than any good orgasm ever was.

[Grizzly228]

Really? Because my orgasms after maybe 4-7 days are so much more intense than usual 1-3 days. And the ones I've had that went 13 or more were nuts. I think it may plateau there because after that I've usually had ruined orgasms which I think drain some of the intensity of the eventual full release

I do have to say I feel like I asked for a recipe for awesome brownies and received a lot of people asking why I want to make brownies when cookies are better. Lol. I like both and definitely understand the "high" of staying denied for extended times. But I was asking about the physical sensations more than the emotional or mental

[LOCKED HUSBAND]

Sorry Grizzly 228 but I think I have concentrated on not having an orgasm so much that I was too busy trying to stifle / ruin it to notice or enjoy it's intensity . Perhaps in the future I should just let it go and enjoy the ride . You have me wondering now if the loss of emotion and desire would be the same , is the loss of emotion and desire along with my disappointment and ruining my orgasm creating the loss of emotion and desire . The next time I am allowed if I am allowed an orgasm I will have to try to not ruin it and see what happens . It may be a while but I will let you know how it turns out .