Ruined Orgasms

[Tom Allen]

I think that it's really difficult to pin down "ruined" because people get different sensations. For example, I've never been able to get re-aroused immediately after a ruined orgasm the way that some people claim. That said, however, I can attest that I can be made to ejaculate with very little pleasure associated with it, and that I can have some pretty disappointing sensations.

Mrs. Edge - who I repeat, insists that she is not kinky - enjoys rubbing me until I'm just about to orgasm, and then tightly squeezing the base of my penis a split second before I would ejaculate. This usually has me gasping and bucking as my PC muscles futilely try to complete their mission. Afterwards, a little fluid leaks out, but I'm left feeling very let down and frustrated.

But the next day when I think about it I get all hot and aroused and hope she'll do it again. Stoopid brane

[wishful4]

I think that it's really difficult to pin down "ruined" because people get different sensations.

Tom, I suspect you are correct. It's probably different for everybody. My spouse has tried a few times but it usually ends up being a full orgasm or at least mostly. If she doesn't intend on allowing an orgasm, she doesn't even try to ruin it now. When she thinks I have leaked enough pre-cum, she says, you're done; lock back up. At that point, it's all over except the begging and pleading.

[carolina cyclist]

I agree that the sensation is different for each person. MrsL has only "unintentionally" ruined one of my orgasms...since then she simply stops after 3 or 4 trips to the edge and I am done. The one time was shortly after I gave MrsL the key, she was teasing me orally and with her hands. I had been locked up for about 5 or 6 days. She had me tied to the bed and was enjoying herself. She got too close to the edge and even though I was trying to tell her...she went right over the edge. As soon as she realized what was happening...she simply stopped stroking and let my cock ooze. It was both frustrating and yet somewhat satisfying. She keeps telling me she is going to start incorporating more ruined orgasms in to our play...time will tell.

[locked4her55]

I've only experienced a few ruined O's. My wife tells me "If I allow one, I want to feel it inside of me". The rules are I must always be granted permission to cum. The few ruined ones usually came as a result of PIV and me getting too close, asking permission and being told NO. At this point I'm over the edge and she pulls away telling me I would be in big trouble if I finished myself off. An unsatisfying O for sure.

[TwistedMister]

I think that it's really difficult to pin down "ruined" because people get different sensations. For example, I've never been able to get re-aroused immediately after a ruined orgasm the way that some people claim.

I think it might be a matter of degree, and the point at which stimulation ceases. In my personal experimentation I have found that there are times when I can make it happen as many as four times in a row and the erection is maintained from one event to the next. But, if stimulation is not stopped soon enough, even though it may still be 'ruined' and unsatisfying, a larger volume is produced and the erection withers. There seems to be a very fine line between those two points and it isn't always easy to be so precise...especially when doing it to oneself and fighting the urge to go 'all the way'.

Mrs. Edge - who I repeat, insists that she is not kinky

She likes to keep her husband's cock in a cage, but doesn't consider it 'kinky'. LOL

- enjoys rubbing me until I'm just about to orgasm, and then tightly squeezing the base of my penis a split second before I would ejaculate. This usually has me gasping and bucking as my PC muscles futilely try to complete their mission.

She *enjoys* spoiling your orgasms, something that some folks might say is just a wee bit sadistic, but doesn't think it's 'kinky'.

Makes me curious to know, at just what point is her 'kink line' drawn? When do things go from being 'not kinky' to 'kinky', in her mind?

But the next day when I think about it I get all hot and aroused and hope she'll do it again. Stoopid brane

There are things that I'll say "That was nasty, I never want to do that again. There must be something 'wrong' with me to have been 'turned-on' by that." Later...*sproing*...

Like wiggling a loose tooth when you were a kid- you know it's going to hurt, but you do it anyway...and again...and again...just gotta do it...

[Tom Allen]

Makes me curious to know, at just what point is her 'kink line' drawn? When do things go from being 'not kinky' to 'kinky', in her mind?

No, it doesn't make sense. But I've blogged about this for years: Mrs. Edge does not self-identify as kinky. Put me in a chastity device? It's just a reminder of her control. Make me wear a cock ring when not wearing a device? Aww, that's just a bit of jewelry, like a wedding ring. Has me wear a strapon? It's practical - it allows her pleasure while keeping me in line. Ruining my orgasm? It's just some harmless teasing. A few dozen whacks with her riding crop? That's just helping me to keep her in mind the next day.

I can't explain it, but it seems to work for her. I'm certainly not going to argue the point.

[TwistedMister]

I can't explain it, but it seems to work for her. I'm certainly not going to argue the point.

Hahaha, probably a wise choice.

[slave joanna]

Most of my climaxes are ruined--Mistress just loves this form of torment, and i have come (no pun intended) to accept this as normal. When allowed out of my cage to cum, i am on a special knee board with straps that secure both legs and my right wrist. my smallness is drawn between my legs by means of a leather cinch strap (i am a sissy and not allowed to display like a stud male) and my left wrist is in a strap held by Mistress. i am allowed only to use one finger to stroke myself and must do so in a manner that emulates the stroking of a clitoris. i am to keep Her aware of my state of excitement at all times and She withdraws my hand with the attached strap whenever i approach my excitement. She is very knowledgeable and knows exactly when i am at the edge of cumming and my wrist and cinch straps are pulled almost without exception just seconds before i cum. If even one spurt escapes that is viewed as a completed climax and i must remain in lock up for 2 months. If no spurts occur i can hope for more play time in two week's time. Mistress is very strict on this and keeps my cum dates posted on a calendar.

i may work off days in "punishment lock-up" by requesting special assignment to launder Her panties to include an oral cycle. One pair of laundered panties equals 1/2 day reduction of a 2 month lock-up. But--a full day is added if i fail to serve Her oral needs at any time i am under this punishment.

Being chastised is almost unbearable, except for the fact that i have learned to experience great pleasure in providing multiple orgasms to Her. i would have it no other way!

[lockedsteve]

My wife is a ruined orgasm pro. She knows my body better than I do and clued me on on some things I do when approaching orgasm that I was not aware of. A spurt is not a spurt to me. When she ruins my orgasm I ejaculate a full load but I do not feel anything but a little straining. Most times I have to ask her if I came. Sometimes we both do not know it until we feel the sticky mess. After a ruined orgasm, I feel even hornier than I was before and she is able to get me to eat my cum which I cannot do when after I have a full orgasm. I guess it depends on when the stimulation stops as to whether or not you get pleasure from it or not.

[sherulestherooster]

She knows my body better than I do and clued me on on some things I do when approaching orgasm that I was not aware of.

I guess she has a different perspective!

When we were first married - way before any femdom play - she would sometimes not be in the mood but would agree to "take care of me" with a handjob. She would point out to me that my balls were "creeping up" (her words), which is something that I was not even aware happened. I became conditioned to that - when she said my balls were moving up, I knew then that I was about to explode.

I think that's why it was so easy for her to ruin my orgasm. She had prior experience observing my body's reaction and figured out quickly when to stop the stimulation.

She hasn't ruined me via her hands in a long time, but what a mind-fuck when she did: she had the trifecta of simply stopping the stimulation and saying it was time for bed; finishing the job for a full climax; or ruining my orgasm. I really enjoyed the lack of control, not knowing what was coming (pun intended).

I would like her to make me consume my semen after a ruined orgasm (like you, I can't do it after a full one) but she is not comfortable with that yet.