Satisfying her during long lock ups

[Belle]

If what you ordered doesn't work, maybe something like this?

http://nuts4toys.net/toy-review/15-cyberskin/

It isn't a hard plastic, but still numbs the wearer enough that they should last longer. Adds the 1.5" as well. Very cool feeling material.

[Belle]

well the 2 strap ons we tried before were too small for her.

One was way to skinny and the other was around the same size as mine, maybe a little smaller towards the middle and bottom.
So she didn't really like them enough to want them more than my cock.

I have now ordered this bad-boy

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/bigpicture.c ... 0&im=41775

its 1.8" diameter (46mm) so i'm hoping it will fill her up more than me without being so big it's not comfy.

I really hope she likes this one!

I have heard a lot of good stuff about the this dildo. Please let us know how it works for you!

[celticqueens_sub]

We tired all sorts of dildos and strap ons. CQ hated each of them. We have found now that using EMLA numbing cream has really improved my longevity to such a point that CQ can choose to finish without me having cum. However CQ often uses penetration as the method for my release as we both enjoy the intimacy and closeness that real cock brings for us both.

[TwistedMister]

Adam & Eve has a *very* realistic looking and feeling dildo. I ordered one for Mrs. Twisted for Xmas, it turned out to be somewhat larger than expected. She didn't think that anything that big would fit inside her...but it does. I think she might be more comfortable with the smaller model though, so I'll probably get that one for her at some point.

[mistress is god]

I would just like to say to all
Consider yourself lucky that you have people that are willing to play and want to try different things
Chastity is for me my only real choice

My partner is not interested in sex
Has never used a sex toy ever!
Has never successfully masturbated in her life!
and the very odd time that she is interested she is as vanillia as you can get.

We have only had sex 3 times since Feb 12 2010 (yes people 3 times in 2 years) and no other playing in between other then kissing and cuddling.

And yes before you say it we are very happily married, communicate well and are best of friends give each other loads of attention and can talk about anything sexual. She just has a very low sex drive.

[poor]

Chatelaine's drive varies but there has been long periods where she couldn't care less if she had sex and it was patently obvious that it was an obligation for her rather than something she was wanting to do. When this was the case I'd just call a halt to it and ask her to let me know when she was getting back 'in the mood' so I didn't feel guilty for upsetting her. Usually this would be for a couple of months but occasionally it would stretch to several months.

The downside of this would be that 'taking care of myself' with porn became the norm (because it's better than cheating and these drives don't go away). My repeated immersion in increasingly depraved (insex etc.) imagery became so far removed from our reality that when she was ready for me; it wasn't me that she got. I had become sexually detached from my own reality and did nothing towards getting back to it. Sex had become a poor imitation of the bountiful vicarious fuckfest that the Internet offers. This went on for several years under the delusion that 'it wasn't hurting anyone' - in hindsight it's obvious that we were both avoiding the 'elephant in the room' and the misery we endured blighted the rest of our relationship.

The upside to her lower sex drive is that I know she can hump out a 6 month lockup without breaking a sweat whereas i'll be a mess after six weeks. This means I do my best to keep her happy and follow her rules because if she says "Congratulations - you just got another month" I know she won't weaken after a few days.

[celticqueens_sub]

Chastity is for me my only real choice

I guess I am missing something here? Why is this your only choice? What about matsurbation? If I understand your post correctly, your wife is not interested in sex very often. I take it from that that she is not interested in denying you orgasm? Chastity is used in our relationship to prevent male orgasm, not to prevent sex. We have a lot of sex, I just don't have a lot of orgasms.

[mistress is god]

Chastity is for me my only real choice

Chastity is used in our relationship to prevent male orgasm, not to prevent sex. We have a lot of sex, I just don't have a lot of orgasms.

Celtiqueen_sub my chastity experience is very different from the norm. My sexual preferences are very different from my wife. I have loved bondage / bdsm play since i can remember however my experience has all been an experience of 1 never with another. After a while the self play begins to fade and you want something ongoing that is going to last.

In walks chastity..... For me this is perfect type of self bondage and my chastity is self controlled (well controlled by the keysafe web site also) my tease and denial is also self controlled.

For the first time in my life I have a fetish that is long term and sustainable locked up or not and I am controlled by a chastity contract of my own writing. Basically my wife has no interest in chastity play in the same way she has no interest in sex.

[celticqueens_sub]

I see what you meant now. I certainly agree with you on the bondage side I do love it too. I also love sexy bondage pictures of women, not for the sexual restraint but for the lovely images. I love breast bondage above all but being CQ's sub it is on very rare occassion that she allows me the privilege of tying hers.

[poor]

What I think is being missed from MiGs and my posts are that for plenty of ladies out there the need for sexual satisfaction isn't anything like as great as commonly portrayed in our culture.