I've been lurking for awhile, and decided to register so that I could ask some questions. I am new to chastity.
I've been married to my wonderful wife for 23 years. We have definitely had our troubles in our sex life together, but nothing you haven't heard before. This road to chastity started when I told my wife I didn't want her to use birth control anymore. She protested, because she is pre-menopause and she doesn't want to track her fertility cycles because the thought of it overwhelms her a little bit. We have children together already, and the last pregnancy and delivery were quite difficult. I don't blame her for how she feels, but I don't like the birth control idea either.
As I struggled to find a way to solve the issue for both of us, abstinence seemed like the only idea. We have a healthy sex life, about 3 times in a typical week, so this is a big change. To be honest, I actually suffer alot of anxiety about going monk-mode for the next several years until she is in menopause. It gets better when I pray, but it is daunting to think about. Still, I don't see a different way.
But the idea of the chastity kink is appealing as a solution. It's kind of strange, because I see alot of BDSM and Femdom in it, and I'm really not into either of those things and my wife isn't either. I will grab her hair and smack her ass, squeeze her tits hard and go to poundtown, but that's about the extent of it. She and I like it that way. So, I don't know if this will really work or not, but it is intriguing for both of us. I'm don't really understand why we get aroused thinking about it, but we do. Also, this way she can track her fertility cycles if she wants to, and keep me guessing, but if she messes up, oops! Got to wait until the next cycle...maybe, lol. That's kind of the idea. We are still talking through it.
I didn't mean to write a book, but I did. I want to thank everyone who has been so open on this forum because I have found alot of great answers to questions, and without having to sift through a bunch of kinky stuff that doesn't sound real. It definitely feels real when I read alot of the posts here. So thanks everybody, and I look forward to posting soon.