"Hello world" thread

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spaniel86
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Hi everyone

I am probably around 15 years into my journey, but have never experienced chastity or any serious OC in a relationship. I say 15 years because was around 15 years ago when I found myself returning time and time again to the world of orgasm denial/control, and what better manifestation of this than chastity. But it’s still only fantasy.

Fast forward 15 years…

I am 7+ years in a loving marriage with 2 young kids and we have a very vanilla sex life, 5-6 times a month, always PIV with some variety of positions but during I always fantasise about either denial or being made to cum on command. My wife has a reasonable libido but it is very on/off as opposed to ever-present. She often initiates and our sessions last 15-30mins but they often come from nowhere and merely punctuate the realities of married life which invariably default to the kids, work, life admin etc. Flirtation, teasing, non-penetrative and spontaneous activity is not a feature of our relationship.

When we are not having sex I frequently contemplate the chastity lifestyle and recently managed to kick a masturbation habit (3-4 times a month) primarily through the purchase of a range of knock-off devices which I would wear during her period (when we have no contact). The effect of this self-locking was to greatly improve my performance and readiness during sex.

We had a month recently where I explained my desire to have limited numbers of orgasms (but no less sex). This was also a month when I confessed that I had had a masturbation habit which started when she was pregnant with child number one. She was seemingly hurt that I had done this as I had previously denied masturbating and I had also previously explained occasional performance issues as being due to stress or diminishing libido with age, whereas in fact it was the diversion of my sexual energy from masturbation which was responsible.

Anyway, despite her apparent hurt, she engaged in some form of teasing in response to my explanation of my penchant for t&d. The main manifestation of this was while she was watching some show on Amazon (which happened to touch on a lot of sexual topics) she allowed me to spoon up to her. After some time she would start slowly grinding into my crotch and often a hand would come and gently start rubbing. Initially I took that as a cue to go down on her and she seemed ok not to reciprocate but after a couple of times she said she wasn’t comfortable if I didn’t cum as well. There was one occasion where I had gone down on her without her wanting it and despite an orgasm she would have preferred to keep watching her show. There were also times where she worked me up and I didn’t initiate anything and then she got upset that I didn’t take this as an invitation to sex - I was just selfishly enjoying the stimulation. So then after a number of semi-arguments she decided she didn’t want anything to do with my fetishes, except agreeing to let me know when she wanted me to cum (which she doesn’t do anymore) and so now everything is back to normal.

I am now in a phase where I am just desperate to be able bring the topic up again, as try as I may it just won’t go away and I seriously don’t think I can be truly fulfilled in this aspect of my life without some form of chastity/denial play/lifestyle.

I have a feeling deep down that she will ultimately embrace some aspects of this but I just fear the conflicts that may arise in the journey.

So for me it is going to be a long journey and I feel I need to pick the right moment to start to bring this up subtly and slowly - baby steps - for this to have a chance.

I recently bought a vibrator which is still hidden away as I have no idea if she will be willing to experiment even with the most ubiquitous sex toy - I figure if she can contemplate a vibrator we can start to explore more wild things.

I have so much respect for the guys who were in similar positions to where I am now and took a risk with their partners and are now “living the dream”. I also envy you!

Anyway that’s enough for now. If anyone has any tips, they would be most welcome!
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Hello everyone... I am a 75 YO straight male with a super, understanding GF. Have been experimenting with various cages for past 3 years.. generally only a few hours at a time as part of foreplay. Now considering longer term continuous lock up, and freedom 2-3 times per week for an hour or so.
Particularly interested in any long term health effects from such a schedule.
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Welcome to the forum, Jim.

As long as everything fits correctly, there is little to worry about...other than your partner deciding it is better to keep you that way...
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Hey all. I'm Greg, currently locked for my loving wife.
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I'm Bryce. I've got several years in chastity - both being locked and enforcing lockups on others. I've got a custom-made Steelwerks Extreme Solid Classic Cage that locks into my circular frenum piercing, and also have a BehindBarz Hannibal 3 (in addition to the various plastic CB-line). :)
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Hello-
I've ended up here through a rabbit hole from a google search on chastity devices with a catheter, which is something my locked boy has expressed an interest in.
I've been his keeper for about a year and a half - he's my 1st, I don't even know how many came before me but let's say enough. He custom built his own steel belt/thong type thing that locks in the back and front. He had made a fiberglass sheath cage that locks onto the belt, but I replaced it with a cage from Lock the Cock which we modified to fit his belt. His cock is a bit longer than average, yet his balls are quite smaller than average, so most models would simply fall off. Hence all the customization. Hoping to get some tips on this situation on here.

Happy to have found such a forum!
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apologeticdomme wrote: Wed Oct 13, 2021 3:34 pm Hello-
I've ended up here through a rabbit hole from a google search on chastity devices with a catheter, which is something my locked boy has expressed an interest in.
I've been his keeper for about a year and a half - he's my 1st, I don't even know how many came before me but let's say enough. He custom built his own steel belt/thong type thing that locks in the back and front. He had made a fiberglass sheath cage that locks onto the belt, but I replaced it with a cage from Lock the Cock which we modified to fit his belt. His cock is a bit longer than average, yet his balls are quite smaller than average, so most models would simply fall off. Hence all the customization. Hoping to get some tips on this situation on here.

Happy to have found such a forum!
Welcome to the forum.
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Hello CF world
I'm here having got hooked on Thumper's 'Denying Thumper' blog just recently. I've enjoyed reading it from the very beginnings going back 10 years and through it heard a Kink on Tap Podcast with Tom Allen. I salute Thumper and Tom as individuals who speak and write sensibly about something that does not seem very sensible at all. Why would we want to go around with our pensises locked up? God only knows, but it is definitely fun and I've been happily locked now for about 4 months. Glad to join the Forum!
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Hello fellow chastity lovers.

I'm 52, she's 47 and live in the SE USA. We've been married 14 years. I have a kinky side, and she was raised a "good girl." After putting up with periodic short periods of chastity, she has now discovered things are better this way. I've tried plastic and metal chinese knockoffs, The Vice, and currently invested and just received a Mature Metal Jailbird. It was money well spent. It really does fit like a glove and lighter than many of the other cheaper metal (and even some plastic) cages.

I plan on starting a Journey story, because she is starting to take it seriously.
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@Thomas Kent Thumper and Tom Allen are mentally unbalanced weirdos, and you shouldn't listen to a single word that any of them says.
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