Curiousrk wrote: ↑Fri May 03, 2024 4:15 pm One thing i noticed about my wife is that she still likes to hear that i want her. That she is desirable. So there is a little bit of difference between asking for an orgasm and expressing the desire to be intimate with her. And I am trying to be better about being more specific about my desire to satisfy her sexual needs (which aren’t much during menopause) when talking sex, and not just talk about my own desire for an orgasm (selfishly) It’s a balance. I don’t want to ask for an orgasm because I personally like not knowing when (if ever). But i still want to communicate my desires to have PIV and to be with her in all ways a couple can be intimate, were it not for the cage and her holding the key (but that’s not asking for an orgasm per se). Don’t know if i am making sense or not. May just delete this.
You could always get a good strap on (assuming like MsM she really wants and needs penetration) and still have sex without you being unlocked. There’s a few of us here who have been doing that for years. Also don’t necessarily believe the good old menopause excuse, MsM is 69 and wants sex much more than I do lol
. It’s a matter of what people get used to and if she gets used to orgasms every couple of days or whatever turn that’s what she’ll want to have ! MsM’s ld
